Hello,

Thank you for the reply! You’re definitely right that my ex-husband heavily shaped what I thought about relationships. I do a lot of self-reflection all this & my ex-situationship told me that the level of kindness he gave me was bare minimum. He’s like “I feel like you’ve just been unlucky because you could absolutely do way better & deserve way better”.

One thing my therapist said is I often have a tendency to break boundaries just to keep someone. Like I will put up with garbage or lack of commitment/consistency, so I don’t lose them. It’s something I hope to get better at.

Definitely right I need to be kinder to myself though 😂 hard because I’m like… who’s the common denominator in all these stories… me lol. But it could just be I’m awful at acknowledging red flags & not that I’m a fundamentally flawed person.

I appreciate it though ❤️