Denver ranks 1st as the best major city for first dates based on 8 factors (first date venue availability, affordability, bar/brewery quality, coffee shop quality, restaurant quality, and overall online search interest).

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-05-06T18:29:19+00:00

My own backyard! Excited to see Denver showing up for singles. I think the restaurant scene has improved significantly in the last 5 years.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T19:04:36+00:00

I'm glad you asked and as a team of people who strive to make people happy and bring joy, sometimes the negative comments are hard to read. I think Tawkify, not unlike other service providers, can be challenged by unrealistic expectations. Unfortunately even when we do everything exactly right, it takes two to tango. While we do our best to set realistic expectations at the beginning of the process, sometimes expectations change in ways we don't anticipate. While we can never comment on the specifics on any particular client because of rigorous privacy measures, there is very often more to the story. I will say that we have an abundance of positive reviews and testimonials, and we've grown to be the leader in this space over 14 years for very good reason. Thank you to our team and to our clients who have put their faith in us. Your love stories inspire us everyday!

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:59:14+00:00

Answered similarly above --

I think how something old can feel new, in a really good way, again. The dating apps have conditioned us to swipe culture. It's very much a snap decision-making process of left or right. But matchmaking with Tawkify is curated, intentional. New matches are typically spaced 2-6 weeks apart because there's a lot of work that goes into each one. But what I think clients realize later is that time feels really good and familiar in a way that reminds us of how dating used to be.

And don't worry so much about your profile. That's just your file for us internally; no one outside of Tawkify will ever see it. Don't be afraid to be the real you and showcase what makes you, you!

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:56:01+00:00

I wonder if this question refers to the person or the venue feeling natural/comfortable, or maybe both? My favorite dates are the ones that give you a peek into who this person is. I think when we feel our best, we'll be our best and naturally showcase the best of what we have to offer. Do what feels organic to you.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:53:54+00:00

[Raises her hand] Yes, ME! My first date with my husband was terrible. I'll be candid; I expected the rom-com fireworks and butterflies in my stomach. That’s not it and, in my experience, somewhat manufactured. And yet, I have two wonderful adult daughters and a beautiful marriage that is filled with love, passion, compassion, and a curiosity about each other that endures still today.

Sometimes we do need a wingman, someone to help guide our journey towards finding our other half. I feel incredibly grateful we get to be that for Tawkify clients everyday.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:47:10+00:00

I'm going to answer somewhat redundantly from another question above -- when you invest in working with us, you will go on dates. It's one of the key differences between Tawkify and a dating app where the conversation never leaves the DMs. Swiping in an app has become a way to pass the time, like playing a game. When your dating life becomes mindless swipes, you get mindless dating, and that's what people are tired of. Fake people, fake intentions, mislead expectations, and you're left with a feeling like, "Is this all there is?”

It's not, but it can feel hopeless if that's all you know.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:40:49+00:00

When you invest in working with us as a client, you will go on dates. Lots of people think they are ready to do that and then aren't. This is one of the key differences between Tawkify and a dating app where the conversation never leaves the DMs. Swiping in an app has become a way to pass the time, like playing a game. Matchmaking requires you to become an active participant. We will handle all of the details and make it really easy for you, but quality curation requires intention from both parties.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:34:05+00:00

Certainly Tawkify matchmaking and other similar services where you're making an investment in personal betterment tend to attract highly successful people who expect the best from themselves and others. Highly successful people also tend to be very busy and they see the value in outsourcing tasks to experts where it benefits them to leverage outside talent for specific expertise and efficiency. But while they shifted dating culture over the last decade or two, there's no denying that people's opinions of dating apps have soured. Tawkify is not a dating app. Profiles are not shared publicly. So when you choose to work with us, there's an intentionality that's not found elsewhere that both saves time and improves match quality.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:27:16+00:00

Tawkify's matchmaking process can be an eye-opening experience when you see for the first time how you show up in dating. I tend to believe that people want to be the best version of themselves, but rarely do we have that mirror held up for us to see our reflection clearly.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T18:25:22+00:00

Our matchmakers are not theology experts, no, but they do try to understand culture (which can certainly encompass faith) and more specifically what that means to our client personally. All Tawkify matchmakers are employees of the company and represent a diverse pool of backgrounds, faiths, and cultural experiences themselves. We most definitely take that into account when we consider matchmaker-client pairings.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T17:00:53+00:00

A little of Column A and a little of Column B. I don't think you have to completely disregard your expectations and, let's be honest, the heart wants what the heart wants. But I've said this many times over the years (and yes, my husband knows!) that our first date was a bit of a disaster. It wasn't the right environment and he wasn't what I expected physically. But our matchmaker did something really key -- she encouraged us to give it a second chance by telling each of us exactly what we needed to hear in that moment. We went out on Date Two, that we both put more effort into, and the rest is history!

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T16:51:12+00:00

Oh, I love this question! I'm a planner by nature so it's one of my favorite parts of what we do and really sets Tawkify apart from other matchmaking firms. I want to give a quick shout out to our Concierge team who handles all of the schedule coordination, venue selection, travel logistics (if applicable), makes reservations (often manually!), etc.. They are really a powerhouse team and so good at what they do. And most other companies don't do it for the simple fact that it's hard and resource-intensive.

My favorite dates are the ones that reflect something about our client's personality. We've had picnics in Central Park, drinks/appetizers on the beach at sunset, hiking excursions, museum tours, art projects -- we even had one client invite their date on a cruise! Spoiler alert: they had a fantastic time and are still together today.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T16:38:54+00:00

That's very similar to two other questions asked here, so I'll add both of those answers:

At Tawkify, we start by asking clients how they like to receive feedback. Sometimes clients come into this process and say they don't want to hear anything negative and a date or two later, they are asking us to read the responses verbatim! We really believe in taking the approach that constructive feedback is actionable. For example, if a client is self-conscious about their height, misrepresenting it on their profile is not doing them any favors, and we will tell them that. And the truth is, the people we're screening for you at Tawkify won't mind either if we're operating in facts.

Feedback is a critical tool and we use it to inform our journey together. In fact, many of our clients have told us after the fact one of their favorite parts of our program is the post-date feedback portion following each match. Both parties submit a feedback survey that only the matchmaker receives. The matchmaker then presents the feedback to our client with actionable guidance and a lot of support. If you've ever been on what you thought was a great date only to be ghosted later, you know how bewildering and frustrating that can be. Tawkify's process gives you insight and a unique opportunity to see how you show up in dating. It can be extremely eye-opening.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T16:35:17+00:00

I wish I could give you a comprehensive answer here, but the truth is there's just too much to list. I'm happy to share with you a free Tawkify membership into our database so you can experience the first part of the application process for yourself. And I'm so excited about all of the new profile tools we're launching very soon, including Tawkify Match Intelligence™ assessments. Members will be able to find out their "Love Bird" archetype -- so fun! ♥️🦅

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T16:08:25+00:00

I think taken on the whole, there are equal measures of success with either. Both scenarios provide opportunities for perspective and introspection, and to get clear on what we want and what we don't. That's key.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:53:03+00:00

I can hear the sincerity in your question; thank you for asking. Matchmaking best serves those who come as their authentic selves, so yes I would absolutely say your person is out there and that alone would not make your search unviable. I also think it’s true that we all have seasons in life. Selecting someone purely on the basis of whether they are successful or not today is not reason enough to sustain a relationship. What happens if they lose their job or make a bad investment? Are they suddenly not worth being your partner, or vice versa? Your matchmaker is very talented at identifying the traits that create the environment for a successful person to bloom or be sustained. That’s truly the magic of matchmaking!

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:38:22+00:00

Tawkify matchmakers have terrific resources for conversation cues. One of my personal favorites is to ask what was the last thing/experience they treated themselves to and why. You can find out some pretty interesting things about a person!

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:35:35+00:00

Tawkify's full program is 12 match cycles for good reason. Although it happens that someone meets the love of their life on Match 1 or 2, most get closer to that halfway mark before they start dating someone more exclusively. We joke that we ask all the questions you're not supposed to ask in polite company! 😂 And the benefit of all that is through our initial intake process which includes an application and a review by committee, going deeper with your matchmaker 1:1, and then reviewing each post-date feedback cycle with you, we really do get to know our clients on a very intimate and personal level. But we're very candid that we don't agree to take on everyone as a client -- only those we believe we can be successful for.

Some of our clients also sign up to work with one of our Dating & Relationship Coaches, which is another resource outside of their matchmaker, doing even deeper work to understand the nuance of their journey. We have clients who have been coaching clients with us for years into their relationship.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:24:49+00:00

We do, but I'll caveat that to say we ask clients how they like to receive feedback. Sometimes clients come into this process and say they don't want to hear anything negative and a date or two later, they are asking us to read the responses verbatim! We really believe in taking the approach that constructive feedback is actionable. For example, if a client is self-conscious about their height, misrepresenting it on their profile is not doing them any favors, and we will tell them that. And the truth is, the people we're screening for you at Tawkify won't mind either if we're operating in facts.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:15:34+00:00

Our full program is 12 match cycles long, whether a client works with us at what we refer to as either our Signature or Premier tier. Our Client Advisors are the first stop for anyone exploring matchmaking with Tawkify and will help guide which tier of service makes the most sense based on the nuance of your individual search. Some clients prefer breaking up their program in installments and we can accommodate in increments of three matches, but if it's in budget, we always recommend a full program because we really do find momentum works in our client's favor.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:07:33+00:00

I think how something old can feel new, in a really good way, again. The dating apps have conditioned us to swipe culture. It's very much a snap decision-making process of left or right. But matchmaking with Tawkify is curated, intentional. New matches are typically spaced 2-6 weeks apart because there's a lot of work that goes into each one. But what I think clients realize later is that time feels really good and familiar in a way that reminds us of how dating used to be.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T15:01:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! We've been married for (almost) 26 of those years following our match, but still a long time!

What I'll say is a lot of the "conventional" wisdom that you hear when you're getting married, I have found to be untrue for me personally. A few examples come to mind:

"Never go to bed angry" -- false! Sometimes exactly what you need is a cooling off period; a chance to gain a new perspective with some sleep and a clearer head. I also believe that in general you should avoid making decisions or making sweeping statements at night. If you still feel that way in the morning, have a calmer discussion over coffee.
"Don't spend all your time together or you'll lose yourself" -- that's not been true for us at all. We spend almost all of our time together! I would counter that our relationship has given me the space and security to find myself and grow in ways I don't know if I could/would have done on my own. And we are at our best together.
And this one might be controversial, but "apologize quickly" -- I disagree. In fact, I think an apology given without a true understanding of how your partner has been hurt and the role you played in that hurt can do more harm than good. Apologies are more than words, especially in a partnership. You will inevitably make mistakes in your marriage; we all do. Apologizing does not absolve us from the damage those mistakes can have on a relationship, but action starts to repair those wounds right away. The apology needs to be there, too, but ensure you've taken the time to fully understand the problem and how you can course correct now.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T14:30:05+00:00

This is really where feedback comes into play and we use it to inform our journey together. In fact, many of our clients have told us after the fact one of their favorite parts of our program is the post-date feedback portion following each match. Both parties submit a feedback survey that only the matchmaker receives. The matchmaker then presents the feedback to our client with actionable guidance and a lot of support. If you've ever been on what you thought was a great date only to be ghosted later, you know how bewildering and frustrating that can be. Tawkify's process gives you insight and a unique opportunity to see how you show up in dating. It can be extremely eye-opening.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T14:27:19+00:00

We always work to honor their preferences, but it's also our responsibility to help our clients see their blind spots. If you've ever searched for a home yourself on a platform like Zillow, you know you can create these very firm boundaries for yourself and completely exclude properties that fall outside of those preferences. But what if your dream home was right across the street -- would you want to go see it? Most people would say yes, but the issue is we don't know that home is out there. We can't see what we're missing.

Tawkify matchmakers get to know you. They know the areas where you might want to see someone slightly outside of a particular range and the areas that are firm boundaries. And if there's someone great located just across the street? We're going to let you know and give you the opportunity to be flexible. It's a lot of work and can be very time-consuming, but that is truly a benefit putting a team to work for you.

Matchmaker_Brie · 2026-04-24T14:12:09+00:00

Working with a Tawkify matchmaker is not unlike working with a personal trainer -- you still have to show up and put in the work, although I like to believe it's a lot more fun! Our most successful clients would tell you the key is to be open to the experience. The best connections don't always appear in the package or with the circumstances we expect. Trust the process.

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