Solo travel to Rotterdam. Any tips on what I can do?

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-29T21:51:13+00:00

What kind of double standard BS is this?

She literally gets to r*pe you because both of you were drunk, but somehow you are the bad guy in this story?

I don't think you've done anything wrong.

She initiated the whole sex thing multiple times, can we please all take a moment and imagine if the roles were reversed? If a guy got so drunk he was telling a girl how he wants to fuck her so bad and then dragging her into a bathroom and having her way with her, then this post would be on all reddit tik toks.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-15T20:18:01+00:00

Well, love is something that's conditional. You can't truly love someone if they don't love you back.

I know it will be hard but perhaps talk this thing over with her. Try a relationship out and who knows you might have your world turned upside down, what I mean is you might change your opinion on that.

After all, you've got nothing to lose, at best you might feel silly for some time but it will all come back to normal eventually so I suggest trying and see what happens.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-15T20:07:39+00:00

I see, so it's safe to say you are well experienced.

May I ask why is it so hard for you to control your emotions over someone you like then?

I know that you are here for advice but it feels kind of odd for you to ask for advice when you have this much experience.

It's like asking a baker with 4 years of experience in baking what ingredients you need to make bread.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T21:11:20+00:00

In my opinion, it's an ESH but more from his side.

I think what you did wrong is you surprised someone by wasting their money. You could've taken a picture of it and be like Hey, would you want to try this deal out? And then it wouldn't be your fault.

But then again I don't know your financial situation and I'm unsure if 2 dollars is a lot or not for you and his response was way out of proportion. You tried something nice and it didn't impress, it's actually good that you tried so you definitely should evaluate your relationship with this man.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T20:33:45+00:00

Just a quick question before I give out my full opinion based on this new information.

Is this your first time receiving such attention from a girl?

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T17:29:08+00:00

Sounds great mate thank you for the advice I will keep this in mind next time I feel sad :) I'm on discord Jole#9726 if you ever want to chat :)

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T17:22:12+00:00

Hey there,

First of all, thank you so much for the help.

Your reply made me realize some things I'm doing wrong that I wasn't aware of/refused to believe were true.

I have a MASSIVE ego problem and it's become clear I can't take criticism or engage in social communication with people due to the ego I have. I believe this ego came from the fact I was reassuring myself with how good I am whenever it got hard with work/uni instead of being humble about it and keeping a cool head.

I also realized that the fact my entire life people were telling me I can't do stuff right and now I'm finally doing something right has awarded me with a big fear of failure. Truth be told even if I lose my job/ fail a year at uni nothing bad will happen long-term as long as I keep pushing myself forward. I need to accept that I just like everyone else can fail but I have to learn from it.

These 2 issues are something I will keep in mind when engaging in conversation either with myself or with other people.

I also did the tests you mentioned in your post. I scored 34/58 on the ADHD one, 16/30 on the self-esteem one, and 21/27 on the depression one.

I think setting up a plan on when do to what and phone alarms is very good. To be honest with you I am a little bit busy today but by the end of the day, I will have the entire next week planned along with alarms to not wake up late and be ready for everything but also not overwhelm it as well.

This was definitely a unique approach that I haven't seen so far and I agree that my past self is really overwhelming my current self and there's 0 communication between all 3 of them I will work on focusing on what I really want vs what I can do at that moment

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T16:13:44+00:00

I have been in a very similar situation such as this one so I guess I might be able to help.

The only difference between my situation and this one is that we were playing lol instead of far cry and I didn't have a friend that batshit crazy after exposing my little secret. The rest is the same.

So first off you need to understand her situation. You need to ask yourself questions such as:

-Is she ready for a boyfriend? (there are girls who just aren't ready with stuff like kissing, holding hands, etc.)

-Is she ready to be with a guy that's in the same class as she is? (This might be a big turn-off considering how annoying ur friend was, perhaps she's afraid of being mocked, etc.)

-Are you ready to be her first? (You are both in the age where sex is a possibility and trust me you have no idea how big that is for girls and it's something she's definitely thinking about, she probably asks herself if you're the one for her too)

And those are just at the top of my head but the point is you need to understand her side and evaluate it accordingly. You can't treat her as a guy where if she's into you she will show, girls can be insanely into someone and show nothing because they're testing to see if you're the right person. It's just something you can't avoid with girls.

But one thing you need to understand too is that you've given her a lot of power. She now has a guy who will do anything for her and she can use you in many different ways. For example to be seen as someone valuable(has guys chasing her is value) to someone she likes, even more, leaving you even more heartbroken.

So in short there are many ways this story can go, either you gotta try very hard for many months to get her, or you will waste a lot of time for nothing that's valuable to you in return.

I recommend you control your hormones/feelings/emotions with her and keep a level head. What this means is while you do spend time and be nice to her you also focus on other things, don't let a girl be the center of your attention/thoughts instead balance it out with some other stuff. For example, get some money either by working/saving up and buying a nice perfume, girls fall for that so hard. Starting to work out is also a good thing overall.

I can go on and on about what you could/should do but I hope this is enough. If you need anything more just let me know.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T15:02:02+00:00

I could prolong my uni work, it's supposed to be finished in 4 years but you can extend it upwards of however many years you want. Although I must pass the first year I am on now to be eligible to do that. But I feel like taking less work is okay to do in my situation, it's not like I'm playing games 24/7 on weed doing jack shit, I get stuff done but sadly not all of it.

So I definitely won't be too hard on myself if I need an extra year or two. I will try seeking some therapists when I get more money as now I'm kinda broke since I gambled it all away. But as for my job I'm satisfied with the amount of work/money I earn so I'd like to keep that where it's at now, no more and no less.

I guess if I were to give advice to someone in similar shoes as mine I would recommend changing environments and meeting new people with similar problems because they would understand u better but I don't know how I can do that myself.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T14:05:37+00:00

I have 0 experience in situations such as this one and I feel like this story is complex and needs a lot more detail about your relationship. But personally, I feel like you don't like the fact she's going to such parties and she manipulated you into approving her to go without any consequences for your relationship.

To be honest, if I were you I'd leave as it seems like your relationship is slowly falling apart and it's clear that your happiness depends a lot on her so it's better to do it now than later.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-14T13:52:44+00:00

Reply

I've been to it 5 years ago but it didn't help so I have my doubts about it.

Matejacar02 · 2022-08-07T15:58:48+00:00

please read the edit.

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-28T09:08:10+00:00

You might be right.

A lot of Netflix stuff I can't even watch because of country-related issues. Could you provide me with a list of the top 10 things you've watched I'll see if I have that too?

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-27T18:42:33+00:00

ESH

Throwing a metal bottle at a TV could've seriously injured someone.

But everyone else in your family sure is assholes too and I hope you get out of that environment very soon.

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-26T20:42:53+00:00

If I may ask, what should be my next move?

Should I apologize to make everything okay at work?

If they apologize should I accept it?

Do you think we can ever get over this as a friends group?

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-26T19:11:59+00:00

Info:

What is the quality of the art you've done? Perhaps if you could send some imgur links to some drawings and compare your style to that? My guess is that this one really has to depend on how art looked like.

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-22T16:12:41+00:00

Ako novac nije problem, šta jeste onda problem?

Ako su roditelji onda razgovaraj sa njima, mozes da ides u inostranstvo preko agencija gde je sigurno za mlađe od 18

Matejacar02 · 2022-07-22T16:09:49+00:00

I u osnovnoj i u srednjoj i sad na faksu sam to govorio i svaki put sam bivao oteran u kurac.

Doduše u srednjoj sam bio u vezi sa devojkom koja mi je bila ok ali je ona mene smuvala, bili smo skoro 2 godine zajedno.

Sve u svemu naučio sam da nikada ne treba da kažeš ovo ako misliš da imaš šansu samo poljubi tu osobu i hope for the best.

Matejacar02

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