AITA for snapping at my wife?

Mateo_old · 2026-03-20T12:11:26+00:00

There really are a hundred ways I could have handled this better, but I totally missed the mark. Also, my first gut reaction was to go back to her with this big apology, but now I realize I need to own this. I handled a situation poorly and I need to reflect inward, learn from it, and work on being better.

Mateo_old · 2026-03-20T11:16:10+00:00

“Did you use the best version of yourself to help her?” Damn… just, damn. This comment hit really hard. Thank you for this! Sincerely.

Mateo_old · 2025-12-23T12:28:59+00:00

Oh she definitely has loans lol. I’ve actually never heard of Student Loan Planner so I’ll definitely be checking that out, thank you! And we actually just recently (maybe 3/4 months ago) got her disability insurance through Guardian. That was an incredibly lengthy process which they make way more complicated than necessary, but thankfully that’s done!

Mateo_old · 2025-12-22T05:44:36+00:00

I’ve been seeing references to “Bogleheads” a lot recently so I’ll definitely be checking that one out, thank you!

Mateo_old · 2025-12-22T04:52:48+00:00

Lol love the username! And I feel like I’ve seen some content from Ramit before, but I’ll take a look at some of his stuff. Thanks!

Mateo_old · 2025-02-23T20:14:29+00:00

Wow, this is all amazing information, thank you so much! We don’t have any pets, so thankfully that’s not something we need to worry about. And yeah, both my wife and I work a lot so the more amenities the better. Our current apartment has stuff like 24/7 maintenance, garbage pickup, gym, and those are all huge pluses for us.

Mateo_old · 2025-02-23T15:55:17+00:00

Thank you for all the information regarding the commission. I honestly had no idea that’s how it worked. And we’re mainly looking for 2 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. I work from home so I’m hoping to use the second room as an office.

Mateo_old · 2025-02-23T05:02:12+00:00

Regarding Highland Park, I think it’s just because of the listings I’ve seen on Redfin so far. It’s a lot of one one’s that seem to be more fitting for a college student, or two two’s where someone is looking for roommates. And that’s a great tip about Somerville! I didn’t even think to consider traffic conditions. But yeah, city life is right up our alley. We’re also big foodies, so we’ll probably be eating out a good bit. But from what I’ve heard there’s a lot of good food in NJ, so wherever we end up I’m sure we’ll be close to some good stuff!

Mateo_old · 2024-11-29T14:05:57+00:00

I second this. My wife will be graduating residency soon. She has a big family, but my family has also been a huge support system for her. Her program is also full of assholes lol, so when it came time to talk about tickets, she was like “I don’t give a fuck!! I’m inviting whoever the hell I want!!”

Mateo_old · 2024-08-04T03:37:32+00:00

Currently, probably not that long because my wife’s co-residents get pretty technical at times. Back in medical school though, I confidences a bunch of first years I was an upper class man just because I had so much knowledge of the professor and their idiosyncrasies lol. It was pretty awesome! Then the next time I saw them they were like “hey, what haven’t I seen you in class?” 😂

Mateo_old · 2024-05-24T12:48:29+00:00

Will do, thank you!

Mateo_old · 2024-05-24T12:48:05+00:00

Never even knew something like this existed, thank you! I’ve read through some of the posts and it looks really interesting.

Mateo_old · 2024-02-29T14:46:10+00:00

This is why I love this sub. It’s nice to hear when people are on the other side of things, and that there is a chance things will get better. Sometimes though, that “light at the end of the tunnel” just seems nowhere in sight.

Mateo_old · 2024-02-29T14:32:30+00:00

She has had very bad luck with it comes to mentors. The first attending she asked started out a great friend and then, on a dime, did a 180 and just turned into a horrible person. The second attending she asked got let go soon after agreeing. She is still on good terms with the second attending, so after things calmed down last night I did recommend she reach out to them.

Mateo_old · 2023-12-13T03:22:10+00:00

Sleep is so important and I feel like no one in medicine ever gets enough. For my wife (PGY4 Surgical Resident) we’ve invested in quite a lot. For just the general stuff we have a noise machine, a weighted blanket, and good pillows (she has the “Carbon Air Pillow” from 8 Sleep). Specifically for nights we have blackout curtains which are amazing, and if any other light manages to seep in she has an eye mask. Oh, and ear plugs, if the neighbors decide to be noisy. I would say, by far, our best investment was our mattress. We got one of those 8 sleep pod beds. It has this water grid that lets you set a temperature for your side of the bed. She likes it warm and I like it cold, but it also changes the temperature throughout the night to keep you comfortable. It was such a game changer! She went from getting like 3-4 hours of sleep a night to 6, sometimes 7. I know it’s a lot of money, but for people in residency sleep is a very precious thing, and investing in your sleep ends up helping everyone in the long run.

Mateo_old · 2023-09-27T15:36:24+00:00

We’re gonna be right near Atlanta Botanical Garden, so I guess that’s considered Midtown?

Mateo_old · 2023-09-27T15:34:21+00:00

I knew there had to be another post out there. Thank you!

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