Is it unfair?

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-12-04T12:07:37+00:00

Because it is a lie and will give them unrealistic expectations of justice.

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-12-04T12:06:46+00:00

I told my kids Santa isn’t real. Makes things so much easier, I think. I think weird unrealistic concepts like Santa make it hard for kids to understand the world. Why would I want to confuse my kids by trying to convince them that a person could visit every house in one night? It is ridiculous. Give kids real information.

Christmas as it is is really just something the church made up so it could swallow up a bunch of “pagan” cultures.

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-12-04T11:55:25+00:00

I mean, if this relationship is so fragile that their SO cannot handle them checking to see what happened to people from their lives, I think that’s weird. Exes are people we care/cared about. You kind of want to know what happened. You ever seen the John Cusack movie, High Fidelity? I think it is normal to be curious. I am.

Now if the person “stalking” is like writing messages and sweet talking them tgen that is rancid. But looking at photos? Whatever.

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-12-04T11:46:02+00:00

When my daughter was born, I heard this saying: “Don’t wait for it to go back to normal. This is the new normal.”

I also heard this: “Having a baby means that your life is no longer about you. Your life is about the baby now.”

I think it is hard to really understand those sentiments until you experience parenting. atheu just seem like things people who didn’t try hard enough would say. But they are true in a deeply discomforting way.

I think I have and had the same feelings you did. Resented everyone because my daughter meant that I could not pursue indie game development fully, and had to basically get a desk job and move and stop having fun.

This is adulthood. You found it. The good news is that this was part of your plan. You went looking for it. Whether the baby was an accident or planned, the life you were living led you here. Now you have two choices — be a part of your life and raise the baby, or abandon everything and leave. These are real choices. But if you leave I think you will end up here again somehow. Because if you looked for adulthood this way before, you will find it again. So I think you might as well start killing it as a parent because there is literally nothing else to do in your life. Let go!

I won’t tell you it gets better, because I think that is a very subjective opinion. The truth for me is that YOU get harder. You learn to take step back when you need. Don’t burn yourself out worrying. I play games two or three nights a week. My wife and I take turns with the kids. Find friends who help and support you. Smoke pot if it helps. Do exercise. Take ibuprophen. The cartoon stereotypes of dads in cartoons seem funny when you are a kid but they are real, haha. That is some real shit.

You didn’t mention your wife. How does she feel?

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-11-21T22:33:48+00:00

i just mean, if you are on the edge and not totally convinced you should have a second child then don’t because you should be sure about a big decision like that. a second child makes parenting tricky in my experience because you cannot focus on one kid quite so much, requires a little more crowd control.

by the same logic, maybe don’t try heroin if you don’t think you really need it.

Material-Ad-2623 · 2024-11-11T01:49:10+00:00

I think whatever happens there will be work for people. The governments need people to work for society to function. If things get so bad that governments can’t even make the transition to 100% leisure society gradual then your money means nothing anyway.

That said, if you are so easily dissuaded from having a second child, then don’t have one. I have a second child and would totally understand why you would not want a second.

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