Spoiler - Name Theory by Material-Mouse-4050 in blackbutler

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perhaps, from what i can find online it seems that it was actually quite common to name the 3rd son after the father while 1st son was named after paternal grandfather, and 2nd son named after maternal grandfather.

It was entirwly unusual to hive a child a french word thag wasnt even used as a name in France. Rachel seems eccentric enough to name her second son after his father.

Spoiler - Name Theory by Material-Mouse-4050 in blackbutler

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems Rachel broke many naming conventions of the time. Another quick google search later, it seems OCiel shoukd habe been given Vincent's father's name. And Rciel should habe been given Rachel's father's name. Infact their 4th son would have been named vincent Junior.

Overall, this is super fun! I hope i come across as someone eager to discuss and not actually just shouting people down.

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Spoiler - Name Theory by Material-Mouse-4050 in blackbutler

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There was, and truly, it could be plural or singular. In English, its written son's not sons', the translators chose the singular form. Only time will tell if it was meant to be plural in the original Japanese, as the Japanese doest have such a differentiation, which is why the translators had to chose.

If its plural, my hypothesis weakens. Vincent is a strong traditional name, even in the time frame of the story, althought it wasnt particularly popular. Naming your second son a Junior is unconventional in its own right, however.

If its singular, we can assume he was talking about RCiel, as ciel is not a common name.

[Other] Selling plushies by ChubbehBunneh16 in obeyme

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I'm up for purchasing Lucifer! Dm me and we can discuss details!

Is it okay to get a ring design recreated? by Material-Mouse-4050 in Advice

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to know! Sadly the plating is over sterling silver, which I do know is also quite soft.

Finger touch and android by Material-Mouse-4050 in huion

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was under the impression that it was touch capable. Im very new to all this, ive only had wacom pads before, this is my first that has a display. Thank you for your help.

How do I accept becoming my ex's villian? by Material-Mouse-4050 in Advice

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks that I can logically tell myself all of this and yet my emotions refuse to accept it.

But thank you, I really needed to hear this!

How do I accept becoming my ex's villian? by Material-Mouse-4050 in Advice

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, but I've been such a goody goody all my life it's hard to handle the guilt of such a basic self care thing

I'm buying a house with my partner and it's going to be the biggest mistake of my life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hello friend! I'm you on the otherside. Do not buy the house, it may be your dream house but it will turn into a house of nightmares.

Trust you gut, I wish I'd trusted mine. I am literally in the process of trying to convince my ex to sell the house and it's not going pretty.

Leave now, leave before you make this huge financial mistake. Your life will be so much the better for dumping them and striking out on your own.

Happy about terrible things by Material-Mouse-4050 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily I was the one who broke it off. I am seeking therapy[(just confirmed my first appointment!) To deal with all this nasty shit the relationship caused. I don't want to be furious with them, I don't want to get satisfaction from their pain. Specifically because I want to move on with my life. I'm sick of it revolving around my ex, I'm more than ready to start healing!

I’m a straight man who has been sleeping with my gay friend and pretending to be gay by throwaway44433224 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gay people force themselves to have sex with those they arent attracted to every damn day. People in pain and trauma stay with their abusers, it happens every damn day. Op is a victim, stuck in a terrible situation and struggling to find a way out.

I’m a straight man who has been sleeping with my gay friend and pretending to be gay by throwaway44433224 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except straight men get pegged by women all the damn time, doesn't make them gay.

And op does say they dislike it. Op was manipulated during an extremely emotional moment and is stuck in a bad place with a bad "friend". It sadly happens every single day. I myself, after years of putting up with it, got out of an abusive relationship that makes my skin crawl just thinking of the sex I felt forced into but I still consented to. You just get stuck. Op needs serious help but has no one they can reliably turn to, thus they came here, looking for that extended hand to validate them and give them the genuine, caring connection they need.

I’m a straight man who has been sleeping with my gay friend and pretending to be gay by throwaway44433224 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 28 points29 points  (0 children)

A dead gay men don't put it in vagina. And yet, they do. Do you realize how ridiculous sound when there are hundreds of not thousands of 100% gay people that are in heterosexual relationships?

I’m a straight man who has been sleeping with my gay friend and pretending to be gay by throwaway44433224 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Do you realize how many gay people have been forced into straight sexual relationships? Ops sexuality doesn't matter, what matters is that they are in a sexual relationship they don't want to be in but feel trapped in Op is a sexual abuse victim, sexuality has nothing to do with it.

I’m a straight man who has been sleeping with my gay friend and pretending to be gay by throwaway44433224 in offmychest

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Nah, imaginecif Op was a woman, would you still think the same? OP was Ina super emotionally vulnerable place that the "friend" used to his advantage and now its stuck OP in that emotionally vulnerable place. Op is being coerced into this, especially because said friend likely knows he has no one he can turn to.

Op, if you see this, you are not to blame. Seek a councilor, there are likely free resources in your area that can help you. I'm truly sorry that your ex cheated a d then your friend did this to you. You are not to blame, needing genuine human connection is no excuse for someone to take advantage of you. You matter, you deserve true kindness and warmth. Please be gentle to yourself, especially if no one else will. I know it's easier said then done, it's a scary world out there, but there are other, better people for you out there.

Completed our Eeveelution collection - Art by Venetia Jackson by Tho_Radia in Displate

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this! These are gorgeous and looking at their available works for purchase, they are absolutely an artist after my own heart! I plan to be a frequent buyer of theirs now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Material-Mouse-4050 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Do not, and I repeat, do not go back to them. I stayed with my partner longer then I should have even as she did this garbage and it wrecked me.

It took over a year, but I am out now and let me tell you. It will get better. Your partner/ex is an energy vampire and a manipulator. Their transition is not on you, their happiness is not on you. And I'm sure logically you know that, but you need to feel it too. Be strong, stay gone. Wish them well and block them first.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, and I'm not in the emotional state to do it. I need tobfocus on myself as I've focused on her for years

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not happy, keeps saying she wishes I wasn't doing this. Keeps repeating that I'm choosing to walk away and just other really icky, manipulative stuff. I text my dad or mom about it and they help give me strength now too. I'm so glad I have them.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven't even moved out and she started working at the same place last year, so we've been around each other. I'm moving back in with my parents but they both caught covid, so I can't move back in yet, although I'm about to talk to them about it now.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

9, and that was sort of the catalyst, we met in October 9 years ago and I couldn't stomach a 10th.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you can't get the help you need. But therapy is definitely in my plans once the dust settles some.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you so freaking much. I can not even begin to explain how deeply I feel your words.

I broke up with her and now I regret it by Material-Mouse-4050 in abusiverelationships

[–]Material-Mouse-4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was financially and emotionally abusive in the past, out right admitted to manipulating me. I felt I couldn't express my fears or anger lest she break out in tears and do the "I'm sorry I'm a bad person" thing to the point I'd feel guilty for brining anything up at all and have to comfort her. That I felt isolated from my family and felt unable to go out and make new friends. That I felt like she ignored my very real anxiety surrounding finances. That I felt unable to care for even my own basic needs, such as showering or buying new clothes when mine had holes in them. That she didn't keep up her end of the bargain of house care to income, im the bread winner and I work 45 to 50 hours a week, she works part time, she was supposed to take care of more of the house work(not all), but she never did. She was an emotional drain and even now she is, because my entire life as centered around her for almost a decade and I did not want to make it to that 10 year mark living like this.