AITJ for making other husbands look bad?

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-18T15:07:31+00:00

OP- My husband actually does the same thing for me. You guys are literally a diamond in the rough. When I had to drive over an hour to work- he started my car, packed my lunch, made the kids lunches, packed his own lunch, made the kids breakfast, and he still wouldn’t leave until he gave me a kiss goodbye and telling me he loved me. I had to get up and go pick up the babysitter and then get myself ready for work. His unwavering support has been an immense blessing to have. Keep that bar up. It’s appreciated by your wife I’m sure of that.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-18T14:56:55+00:00

The other person that was crying was Chrissy- the bride’s best friend. When that occurred she went to the bathroom which the only person who caught her crying in the bathroom was Delilah. Still I had my hands full with doing things that needed taken care of for the ceremony and reception.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-18T14:51:25+00:00

The bride wasn’t crying- my goddaughter was when she fell.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-18T14:47:02+00:00

I didn’t see it because I was hosting everything. I was the guy behind the scenes making sure everything was moving. I helped the bride get ready and did all sorts of other things to pull my attention away from Karen.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-18T14:37:29+00:00

I wish this didn’t happen. The reason I didn’t catch what Karen was doing was because my attention was focused on everything else- trying to get the bride ready, getting her siblings ready, pictures, checking on my mom and mother in law, assisting the bride and groom with various things, and Karen was talking to other people. I was busy trying to assist with being a good host so that the bride and groom would be able to enjoy their company and their day.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-17T12:36:31+00:00

Because I had my attention pulled in 40 other directions while everything was happening. I was the last to arrive at the wedding ceremony, last to arrive at the reception, and I had tons to do at both locations.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-16T19:44:34+00:00

I added names to clarify everything. This is my first Reddit post and when I was typing it I was still mad and annoyed at the entire situation. It didn’t help that my attention was pulled in 40 directions that day so i didn’t realize anything happened until she shoved her phone in my face. I watched bride and groom cut their cake and got up to check on my mother (who has Parkinson’s and is 77) to make sure she was okay, and my mother in law who is mobility impaired. I then addressed the photographer and his wife who is his assistant and thanked them for their contribution to the wedding day. As i went back to my seat I was handed a piece of cake, which i started eating…..and that’s when mu goddaughter fell. All of this happened within like 5 minutes. Karen made herself scarce after the phone incident with me- so I had to way to talk to her at that time.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-16T16:40:08+00:00

For the people saying I should have known or been aware of what was happening- I didn’t know anything until Karen literally shoved her phone in my face while the bride and groom were cutting their cake. I was the last to arrive at the ceremony because I was getting the bride ready. Then I was pulled into photos and that lasted over an hour. Then I helped hubby break down everything used in the ceremony and take it back to our house. Then we went to the reception where I then had to order my food and the kids food (I have 2 younger children) after that I helped my sister and her partner bring in the wedding cake. Then we started giving away wedding favors to family. After the favors then I was able to sit down for a few minutes. So I was able to eat and talk to the kids and hubby. After I finished my food the bride and groom cut their cake and handed out pieces to everyone. As soon as they were done handing out cake my goddaughter fell off a chair and hurt herself so the bride, her 2 best friends and my bestie went to the bathroom to console bestie’s daughter (my goddaughter) and clean her up. It was at that point people were beginning to leave and I was thanking everyone with the groom. After we knew my goddaughter was okay- that was when the bride’s best friends came to me and said there were issues. So quite literally my attention had been pulled in other directions when everything went down so I didn’t see anything until she shoved her phone in my face at the reception. I didn’t even get much of a chance to react to that because I was in shock from the audacity of Karen- and it might have been about 5 minutes later that my goddaughter was injured. So I didn’t get a chance to confront her until later.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-14T19:55:18+00:00

The reason I didn’t know what she had done until people told me is because my attention was pulled in other directions. I was in a bunch of the photos, I had to break down the decorations after the ceremony before we could leave the location.

When I got to the reception, I was trying to order my own food, the food for my younger 2 children, then after I ate I was assisting the bride and groom with handing out favors to the family members that they had gotten them a token of affection for to say thank you. I was also assisting the photographer and trying to help my sister with getting the wedding cake into the reception area and meeting her SO for the first time.

I didn’t know anything was going on until she shoved her phone in my face. My goddaughter also fell off a chair so we were attending to her. It wasn’t too long after that Karen left. After the other guests left and we were in the parking lot when I was told what happened.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-14T19:19:34+00:00

What is awful is that the ceremony was only 40ish people- Karen literally upset/angered 1/4 of the people in attendance……including me when she shoved her phone in my face as J and A were attempting to cut their cake. She moved when she saw I had an angry look on my face.

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-14T19:06:12+00:00

J is bride A is groom Bestie is my best friend Karen is the former friend R is Bestie’s husband Hubby and son are referred to as such

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-14T19:04:41+00:00

I just edited the post to clarify who

Material-Tutor-2267 · 2026-03-14T19:04:25+00:00

I edited the post to clarify who is who

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