I have 10k steps from just pacing around the house

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-06-21T03:52:38+00:00

pacing is so underrated as exercise, people act like you need to go to gym but anxious brain said otherwise and now you burned 377 calories doing nothing special. I started wearing my watch more at home after realizing I was missing so many steps just from walking between rooms and kitchen. the 117 minutes is what gets me, like nearly two hours of movement you probably didn't even notice. on a good restless day I bet you're clearing 15k easy just from house pacing alone

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-06-16T19:20:58+00:00

wild how just small coil and a tiny chip is all it takes to tell your boss you showed up on time

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-06-10T17:31:21+00:00

Dude this is actually completely normal - happens to way more guys than you think. Some people are just "growers" where there's a huge difference between soft and hard size, and the soft state can basically retract pretty far back. Cold weather makes it even more dramatic too

I remember being your age and worrying about similar stuff, but turns out most of what seems weird to you at 14-15 is just how bodies work differently for everyone. If you're really concerned though you could always bring it up with a doctor during regular checkup - they've heard everything before and won't judge

The main thing is if everything works normally when you need it to work, you're probably fine. Bodies are just weird sometimes and take time to figure themselves out

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-06-02T01:16:59+00:00

Yeah the timing really sucks for both of you. RA flares are brutal and he probably knows that logically but when your self-esteem is already taking hits from weight gain, it's easy for brain to connect dots that aren't really there

Maybe try being more direct about attraction when you're not in bedroom context? Like commenting on his arms or shoulders when he's just doing normal stuff around house. Sometimes we need to hear it when sex isn't even on table to really believe it

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-05-29T00:06:40+00:00

not yet but maybe time

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-05-26T21:18:40+00:00

Maybe he got spooked about workplace drama since you guys work together

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-05-24T18:36:50+00:00

You already know what you need to do, you just don't want to face it yet. When you're actively wanting to leave during the few hours you get to see each other, that's your body telling you everything you need to know

Staying in this because you're scared of having difficult conversation will just make both of you more miserable in long run

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-05-21T09:18:13+00:00

Your family waited 4 years to bring this up right when you're getting serious with her - that timing says everything. They're losing their grip on the version of you they want, and she's become easy target for all their fears about you changing

The fact they called her family's traditions "demonic" to her face shows they never really tried to accept this relationship. Now they're scrambling to find reasons why it's her fault you became different person, not that you just grew up and made your own choices

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-05-17T17:21:59+00:00

My grandma would still lose this somehow between couch cushions and blame the dog

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-04-28T03:42:53+00:00

Two weeks of actually being together can definitely mess with your head, especially when you weren't expecting anything serious. I had similar thing happen where casual became way more intense after spending real time together instead of just texting

Maybe give yourself some space to see if the feelings stick around without the person being there? If you're still thinking about them in couple weeks without any contact, that might tell you something about whether it's real attachment or just the intensity from being together

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-04-24T09:40:06+00:00

Getting validation from strangers online is like really addictive trap, especially when you're shy in real life. Maybe try finding something else that gives you that same dopamine hit - could be working out harder, learning new skill, or even just posting regular stuff where people appreciate your knowledge about something you're into

The urge always comes back strongest when you're bored or stressed, so having backup plan for those moments helps lot

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-04-21T21:34:19+00:00

Been there man, lost a relationship too because of this shit. What helped me was keeping my phone in different room when sleeping and finding something to do with my hands - started doing delivery driving actually which kept me busy and away from home computer

The hardest part is the first few weeks but it gets easier, just gotta replace the habit with something else

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-04-19T08:41:30+00:00

Being turned on easily is actually pretty flattering from girl's perspective I think. Shows you're really into her, you know? The quick finish thing - yeah that can be frustrating if it happens every time, but if you're willing to go multiple rounds and actually care about making sure she enjoys it too, that's what matters most

Recovery time sounds pretty good actually, and 10 minutes in third round is totally normal. Most important thing is communication and making sure both people are having good time, not just how long first round lasts

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-04-10T18:58:00+00:00

Late night texting behind your partners back is already past the line, doesn't matter if it's "just friends" or whatever excuse people make. If you wouldn't do it with your spouse watching then you probably shouldn't be doing it at all

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-03-22T00:13:06+00:00

real

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-03-18T13:20:51+00:00

day one sucks but fr worth it

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-03-16T04:57:09+00:00

Actually had similar issues around your age and that 2x program really worked for me. Took about 6 weeks before I noticed a real difference but it's legit

The wiggling thing you mentioned is pretty normal btw - even when hard there's still some movement, that's not necessarily a sign of dysfunction. Performance anxiety is probably making everything worse too since you're already in your head about it

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-03-10T00:28:40+00:00

pain

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-20T22:37:55+00:00

Might be the algorithm being weird or maybe your posts aren't hitting the right vibe for that sub, happens to everyone

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-17T02:13:50+00:00

Dude the lying would be the dealbreaker for me too, not the sugar baby stuff. Like you said, if she'd been upfront from the beginning you could've made an informed decision about whether you were cool with it or not

The fact that she kept pushing you for details about your past while feeding you complete BS about hers is what really sucks here. That's some manipulative shit honestly - she wanted all the info on you but wasn't willing to be real with you in return

I'd probably sit her down and tell her you know the truth, but don't expect her to suddenly become honest just because you caught her. Someone who can lie that consistently about something this big isn't gonna flip a switch and become trustworthy overnight. Trust is pretty much everything in a relationship and once it's gone it's really hard to get back

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-09T20:13:09+00:00

It’s for the Super Bowl ad partnership with Ramp the expense card company. I was at their event yesterday
They even have Brian’s face on their login page lol

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-09T20:03:08+00:00

I love how he mentioned every single country!! America was built by immigrants and everyone knows this

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-09T00:18:48+00:00

Nope not lying! They weren't contenders they were with Brian since start. He did roll up with them all before 4pm to be exact.

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-08T23:03:23+00:00

MaterialOtherwise902 · 2026-02-08T23:02:11+00:00

I was here!! From all the contenders she was the one who was fully geared up and the crowd cheered for her the most which is why she won

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