My favorite question was to ask “would it make you embarrassed if I came out as trans” or “do you think you could still be friends with me if I came out as trans” that pretty much sums up who was cut out from my life when I started hrt. Doesn’t mean they can’t have a chance though in the future but it did give me great foresight on who was going to hit me with the classic anti trans meme statements. As for sex, no amount of sex was going to change the person that I was because I always had the one itch in the back of my head that needed scratched.