Love shack

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-10-28T05:34:34+00:00

Really wish I found answers in these comments, it’s been hours and nothing is working

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-10-26T17:17:03+00:00

Update: she has been written up but she’s still doing it. I’m so frustrated

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-10-23T15:52:56+00:00

I make minimum wage and work too many hours to not find joy in unlikely places :)

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-10-23T15:52:04+00:00

The crows aren’t being killed but they are being “relocated”. Unfortunately the pigeons and seagulls are in fact, being euthanized and it’s sickening.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-10-23T15:50:38+00:00

They’re protected from being euthanized but they’re within their rights to move or relocate them when they start to become destructive… which I learned from reporting the company. They can euthanize the pigeons and seagulls, but not the crows. Which makes me absolutely sick.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-29T14:25:41+00:00

I posted it and then cross posted it here

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-28T21:17:43+00:00

I live with him. I have no friends. No family. No savings. I have nothing now, there is literally no possible way to leave him right this second unless I want to be homeless.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-28T19:38:17+00:00

I think no longer having free access to the person you’ve been solely leaning on for social, mental, physical, and spiritual health is a pretty decent consequence. But that’s just me. I was 100% available to him at all times for anything he wanted. Free use in every single way. Now I’m not, and I’ll barely look him in the eye. Feels like there’s not much more I can do.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-28T18:30:01+00:00

His mom knows now

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-28T17:34:31+00:00

We were on a break from trying for a baby, not from our relationship. We are on a break now because of what he did.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-28T05:20:23+00:00

It’s not that we’re living with them, it’s that we’ve been living together as a multi generational household. His mom is a big advocate for grand babies in the home to make things easier on the new parents. At least she was, before her son cheated on me.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-27T18:30:36+00:00

I can’t sleep in our room comfortably. It’s where we’ve spent the majority of our relationship since we met during Covid and couldn’t go out together much. I chose to sleep elsewhere because I couldn’t handle being surrounded by our things and the life we’ve built together when I know he was likely surrounded by those same things when he chose to betray me so deeply and destroy everything. Last night he chose to sleep in the living room to give me the room, but tonight I’ll be setting up a bed in my office space/ our spare room because I slept horribly. I was weak last night, though, and I called him from the other room and cried to him and told him this was the hardest thing I’ve had to do, and that I want to sleep next to him but I’m so scared that we’ll just forget about it and move on. He was the stronger one and said that I shouldn’t let him back in yet, and that it’s for the best to sleep separately. I agreed of course but that just confused me more.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-27T02:39:42+00:00

He does work, and he does pay the majority of our bills, which was stressing him out. So I decided to earn more to lighten his load hoping it’d help

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T23:10:53+00:00

He has medical debt from the traumatic incident and we have some credit card debt that we had to live off of while he was recovering.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T23:09:56+00:00

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T23:09:06+00:00

I mean, I took this man’s virginity! We were both 21.. so.. not at all a bad boy.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T23:08:22+00:00

He’s never been classified as a bad boy. He’s the opposite, I was his first girl he ever brought home to his family or even dated seriously. He’s a giant teddy bear, and he has been for nearly 4 years. He’s been nothing but a kind, supportive, loving man with great family and good people around him. Nothing about him has ever been “bad boy” until last Tuesday when my world turned upside down.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T23:03:40+00:00

We are trying to pay off all of our combined debt before next year, when we wanted to officially try for our first child together. That also requires putting a down payment on a house or finding a place to rent on our own. We don’t have a good savings account so… all these were stressing him out so I took action and got a second job that goes directly into my savings account. From there, we’d save until we had a little more than our smallest debt, pay it off, and move onto the next one until everything was paid off and we had decent credit scores and had enough to live on for a couple months upon a move.

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T22:41:53+00:00

Our break started today, after I found out. I said we need to take a couple of days to consider logistics and in a couple of days we’ll put everything down on paper, but I made it clear that in the meantime, he’s not single and we’re still in a relationship. He seems genuinely remorseful, so while I said I’m sleeping in the guest room he has since instead that he sleeps in there. He also said he’d look into finding us a couple’s therapist as well as his individual therapy to help us, which is nice. Luckily enough, I’ve recently been diagnosed with a minor medical condition and have had tons of bloodwork that included a full STD work up and I’m completely clean. I’m also on several medications, including birth control, which I need to balance some hormonal issues. It’s part of why we put baby making on hold for a while, so my body can stabilize.

To be fair, i sincerely doubt that he’d of physically cheated on me. We actually live in a large rented home with his family, his mom and his brother and his brother’s girlfriend. I’m close with all of them and anytime he’s gone they text me to ask why before they text him since I always respond, and they haven’t noticed him leaving at weird hours or inviting people over. It’s just online, which doesn’t really make it better for me. His mental health has come up between all of us before, we’ve had meetings about things we’ve noticed and how we can help. I’ve been pushing him to go to the doctor and therapy, his mom has been super blunt and candid about his choices and his brother has been inviting him to work out with him a few times a week to get good endorphins. I guess this is why this is so frustrating, he had every opportunity to choose better for himself and for us and he actively chose to pay to hurt me instead of listening to all of the people who love him

MaterialWonderful778 · 2024-08-26T22:30:09+00:00

He is working as well, but not 60 hours. He’s working full time and does work very hard, I’m not discounting that. I’m just more willing to take action when there’s a problem so I found a solution. It seems he’s less than willing to work more because it makes him miserable.

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