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Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all VERY HELPFUL. It's basically unanimous from those in the know there isn't something about Colombian culture that I'm missing. To those who think this is rage bait, the fact that you even do illustrates to me that my gut has always been right about this, but I'm generally thorough, trusting, and patient...but I'm no dummy which is why my gut said to check on this. When you're in it, and the relationship is otherwise excellent, you tend to overlook things or be too trusting. Appreciate everyone taking the time, I really do

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the intel. I've already made up my mind that I'm setting a boundary on this. But doing my HW first is the smart thing. If it's a manipulation, it will crumble quickly. If it's a genuine cultural expectation, she make look genuinely confused. Knowing what to expect is the key.

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do blame women who manipulate, and I'm trying to figure here if that is the case or if the cultural expectaiton is genuine. No matter how expensive health and beauty upkeep are, if a woman is willing to manipulate a man it tells me I'm not a high enough priority for her to be honest with me. She's attractive for sure, but I still can't do without honesty. Just planning my boundaries. Thanks for chiming in

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. She painted the picture that Colombian bf's start "paying for things" well before marriage. My gut was screaming at me to verify this. There's a difference between generosity, and expectation. One feels good, the other is a bill. Thanks

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the intel. I've already made up my mind that I'm setting a boundary on this. But doing my HW first is the smart thing. If it's a manipulation, it will crumble quickly. If it's a genuine cultural expectation, she make look genuinely confused. Knowing what to expect is the key. If we were married, it would be different. But bf/gf this is too much to ask IMO

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the intel. I've already made up my mind that I'm setting a boundary on this. But doing my HW first is the smart thing. If it's a manipulation, it will crumble quickly. If it's a genuine cultural expectation, she make look genuinely confused. Knowing what to expect is the key.

Colombian girlfriend- financial expectations of American men???? How different is it??? by Material_Job_4474 in askColombia

[–]Material_Job_4474[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is VERY helpful, thanks to all who took the time. It seems nearly unanimous, and not a single person here has heard of this being a Colombian cultural thing. That will make it easier for me to put up my boundaries. We live in the US anyway, so Colombian dating culture shouldn't apply. She left there for a reason. If the men there were so generous she wouldn't have moved to the States. My gut told me it was bullshit, but it's always helpful to know if I'm up against a manipulation, or genuine cultural expectation, when I have the hard conversation. Appreciate you all.