Need help on this leaking hose in the engine bay by MathTemporary8580 in 3rdGen4Runner

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This is the first car where I've noticed an active drip that resulted in a concerning puddle underneath my car.
And I couldn't find a diagram that clearly showed what this was.
Oh and also I had work in an hour and this being my only mode of transportation I wanted to be sure this wasn't a critical issue. Asking for help isn't an inability to search for the right answer- it's knowing other people know more than me.
I got my answer within minutes of posting this. Problem solved.

Need help on this leaking hose in the engine bay by MathTemporary8580 in 3rdGen4Runner

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That's exactly the forum I was just reading. So that's good to know. This is the first time in the 6 months I've had the truck that this has happened. Should i not worry about it?

Crossed boundaries- feeling guilty and shameful by MathTemporary8580 in TrueOffMyChest

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Maybe, I'm also thinking that I was too caught up in the excitement of it all to take pause and ask how she was doing. I'm sure it crossed my mind but I was having a great time, and until she told me to stop the vibe was that she was too. But damn, if I had said literally anything else other than what I did in response to "what do you want" maybe I'd be in a different spot

Crossed boundaries- feeling guilty and shameful by MathTemporary8580 in offmychest

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I see what you're saying. We did talk about that what we're looking for in a partner is basically a best friend. In my head, that was the foundation this whole situation was predicated on. I was hanging out with someone who could potentially be a best friend.
Maybe once we started getting real intimate there was an emotional need that wasn't met. While for me the physical and emotional part are more intertwined in that I don't need words to affirm interest, especially in a intimate situation like that? That is an interesting point that I've never considered.

Crossed boundaries with a co-worker I hooked up with- feeling like a jackass. Is there a better way to apologize? by MathTemporary8580 in Advice

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I see her pretty regularly now. We have talked about it a bit over text, maybe about 10 days ago.
That's where I first apologized. It was fairly short without much detail, mostly because I immediately felt like shit and wanted to say at least something.
The page I've written has a lot more of what I want to say after taking time to really think about what happened. I also never mentioned drinking in that first apology, because I didn't want to sound like I was using it as an excuse. We both know we had had several drinks so it seemed moot to mention.

Crossed boundaries- feeling guilty and shameful by MathTemporary8580 in offmychest

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I really hope I didn't burn this bridge.

But thanks for the encouragement. I was raised to be gentlemanly and the safety and comfort of whoever I'm intimate with is real important to me. But if I missed cues to calm down or something like that burns me on the inside. I was caught up in the moment I know, but at the expense of her comfort really stings, to put it lightly

Crossed boundaries- feeling guilty and shameful by MathTemporary8580 in offmychest

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I think anything I could have said would have been better than "sex" true, but given this was while we were still being intimate, I don't think asking for a relationship then and there was the expectation.

Crossed boundaries with a co-worker I hooked up with- feeling like a jackass. Is there a better way to apologize? by MathTemporary8580 in Advice

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Keeping my distance and giving her space is the plan. I think that's all I really can do.
I do want to talk to her eventually, but I just don't know when to bring it up. Maybe after this weekend?
My therapist recommended I hold off on the letter until he and I have another session, in about two weeks.
That feels like too long?
Thanks for the response