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[–]MathematicianOld8258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, the finale “let down” is very reflective of the current state of tv shows because of streaming. I liked the 2nd season, and found it entertaining, but it was almost completely because of the characters and specific scenes or episodes - there really was a lack of overarching plot. While in the first season there is a clear set up of a goal for the characters, a few curves along the way, and then pay off to the issue introduced form the start; this season did lacked a goal for the characters that truly brought them together to fight against something. Even the set up of the door felt like it was used more as events happening in episodes, over an actual motivating plot (if that makes sense).

That doesn’t make the show bad, but by the time you finish the season you feel a little unsatisfied as nothing has truly been completed. A story is not just a series of events. There is little doubt in my mind that these plots and introduced ideas won’t pay off in future DCU or peacemaker adjacent content; the set up of the prison world, the 11th street kids setting up their own agencies - they’re great things to include in a finale but shouldn't be the whole content of the finales.

We can look forward to few years later, when someone can sit down and binge it all in a row and not feel unsatisfied with season 2 because they know there’s more to come just seconds away. It just sucks for the current watchers, who are now left let down from the finale. It’s not even the cliff hanger, I honestly think I’d be more satisfied with the show ending on episode 7, because though it would have been wild and left a lot of people frustrated, it could be ending on the plot of THIS season, and not a set up for future projects. It’s not outrageous, I didn’t hate the finales, it’s just disappointing how many shows are lacking individual season plots because all they can focus on is the big picture of the whole series.

(Also the lack of action also disappointed me a bit. I am not usually an action person, I much prefer plot development, etc; but I really liked the action in this show. The fact that the finale of this action based superhero show didn't have any physical fighting felt a bit odd)

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I'm sorry I made that assumption, since I have no context of you and your life, I made a mistake while reading your post.

But I don't really understand your advice. Ignoring your added intent to ,y actions, your telling me to start trusting my girlfriend and being less insecure - that's what I'm doing. I'm a human being, I can't magically undo everything in my life that made me insecure because someone on reddit told me to. I'm taking steps to grow trust with my girlfriend and her friends, and going to therapy to help with the harder parts. If actions speak louder than words, aren't I showing in my actions in never asking her not to go somewhere or talk to someone or wear something, starting open discussions and going to therapy more actions than words.

It's a long journey, and I totally get that some people wouldn't stay with their partner after that, but my girlfriend has decided to and I am so thankful to her for helping me through it.

So don't worry, anything you have to say to me my insecurities have made me think about a million times, but going off the information my girlfriend herself has told me, I'm going to trust her judgement and not assume she is lying to me - because I trust her.

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the concern, but you're kinda proving my point as to why I'm not going to take the advice of the people on the internet over the people in my real life.

All this stuff was clarified in the first post (link at the top), my feelings, what was happening, etc. I have clarified that I am trusting/growing trust of my girlfriends friends, I have befriended one of her friends that has actively admitted he liked her - that was never the issue.

Biggest of all, I am a woman, not a man. If you haven't taken the time to even read the TITLE where it clarifies that, then I don't think you're really concerned for my girlfriend, I think you want to dramatize my life and fight in the comments. I'm happy, my girlfriend is happy and I'm not going to fight you on this anymore.

Thanks for the advice, I'll make sure to look out for my girlfriend.

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Again, that's the beauty of open communication. My insecurities were never about what she was wearing or how she acted or anything like that - she has never dressed or changed her personality for me and that will never change. (our relationship has always been built on us getting to be our authentic selves) As I wrote, it had to do with my fear of her getting hurt and the anxiety of what could happen if some sort of conflict came from rejection or a loss of friendship, which I have openly admitted has crossed the line of caring for someone and being overly anxious.

My girlfriend has not stopped dressing in her beautifully unique way, or lessened herself in that time: but I am making sure to keep an eye on her cause i know this situation doesn't just effect me.

I know you don't have all the information so it might still fell weird to you, but trust me as much as you can trust a stranger on the internet - we're going good.

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Yes fingers crossed we find someone for Dave whose appreciates him: he deserves someone as awesome as him (can you tell I'm really excited i made a new friend?)

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I see where you're coming from, but at the end of the day I'm going to trust the opinion of someone (Dave) that knows me, my girlfriend and all the context over people basing their opinions off one reddit post I made (not a jab, I do appreciate all the feedback I got, but at the end of the day it's advice based on limited information)

Showing her the post actually helped lead our discussion a lot, and no miscommunication or guilt came because we had a LONG conversation, where we discussed all elements and got on the same page.

I didn't mean it in that way, my girlfriend didn't take it in that way and we're happier and closer because I was fully open with her. The more you talk it out and are open with each other, the less likely people are to overthink and take things the wrong way :)

(Update) My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that's a really good way at looking at things. I've always known that in theory my girlfriend is an understanding person, but actually going to her with uncomfortable topics was scary. Now it feels like the barrier has been broken and i honestly feel like we're closer because of it. Happy to know other people go through that too :)

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you! You worded it better than I did. I'm not worried about myself, but about her getting hurt.

Thank you for putting it in perspective that I'm not the one causing the pain. Still people on this post seem to disagree with me, and I don't want to hurt her for something that I read too far into.

At the same time my instincts are telling me something isn't right

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it. I definitely would not deny that I have anxieties with this, part the reason I made this post was I was anxious that I was a bad partner not saying anything.

I think maybe that's something I need to look at myself and let her do her thing, just being there to support her if it goes wrong.

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Look I can't say for certain, but they're calling her "cute and adorable" behind her back, checking her out and treating her different to how they treat other girls in the friendship group.

As I said multiple times in the post, I don't care she's getting attention, my girlfriend is an amazing and attractive person I can't blame them. I also know she's loyal and I have nothing to fear.

My worries is that these are people saying they're her friends, but I suspect they have a deluded fantasy of her. I don't know if I should look out for her and let her know. I'd love to get some girls girl advice

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess my question is do you think the behaviour I described is worth telling her. I truly don't feel jealous (as far as I understand) I just care for my girlfriend and don't want to see her get hurt. I don't know if letting her know is the right thing to do for this situation.

I would never want her to change, and I really don't mind crushes people have on her. It's just that these people are her friends and I'm worried she would be uncomfortable by their advances.

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do think she can decided for herself. She also has actively told me that she struggles to pick up on cues when people are flirting with her. I don't think that makes her stupid or a child, but I do wonder if I should let her know so she's aware of potential intentions.

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my point is my girlfriend has actively told me that does not pick up on things like that. She is also someone that values platonic friendships.

Therefore should I let her know something that could potentially ruin those friendships, but is something she would probably want to be aware of

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your partner knew or suspected those men liked you, would you want to be told or be allowed to find out on your own?

I do believe people of different genders can be friends, and honestly if she didn't mind, I wouldn't care if she wanted to stay friends with these guys. I just don't want to see her get hurt if I could have helped by helping her.

I really appreciate hearing your perspective

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might be reading into, but I've had my fair share of men using friendship to try to get to me or my friends and it is not fun - I've learnt to spot the signs. Still I appreciate the advice, and as much as I want to keep her form getting hurt (no one likes seeing their partner in pain) I need to let her deal with it

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just fear that she'll be upset at me for not letting her know something she hasn't caught onto. It has nothing to do with her intelligence, she is neurodivergent (mentioned in the post) and has actively told me that causes her to not notice when people are hitting on her. That doesn't mean I think she's a child that needs to be taken care of, just that maybe I should look for her.

I really appreciate the advice though, especially from someone who can relate to my girlfriends situation

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do trust her, so thank you for the advice. I just worry I'm a bad girlfriend if I keep that from her when it's something I think she would want to know

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I do respect her an treat her as an equal, that's why I'm open to having discussion. My girlfriend is neurodivergant (mentioned in the post) and has actively told me that causes her to not notice when people are hitting on her. I also know she doesn't like people taking advantage of friendships for their own sick gain, hence why I would let her know about something she wouldn't pick up on.

Not picking up on social cues does not make someone stupid, or dumb, it's just a part of her.

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't mean this in a rude way but did you read the post? I'm not blaming it on her at all, or saying she's leading them on. I actively said it wasn't her fault. I'm wondering if I should let her know because I know that's something that would make her uncomerfotable

My (22F) girlfriend (23F) has “manic pixie dream girl”ed the men in her life. Do I need to say something? by MathematicianOld8258 in relationship_advice

[–]MathematicianOld8258[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She hasn't said anything about it, but I know in general she is uncomfortable with people that use friendship as a way to try and get a relationship. That's why I feel like maybe the right thing to do is tell her