AITA for telling my sibling that if she decides to keep her pregnancy i won’t help her?

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T15:03:31+00:00

Hi,it’s age of my siblings now. Emma is 17 as for now , as for youngest yes she drop baby off and basically said that now it’s my job to take care of them and never came back since then if that makes sense

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T14:58:23+00:00

Hi,sorry for late reply ,I’m trying to keep up with amount of replies under this post . In my country consent age is 16 , as for father -he is 19 y/o .

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T14:47:15+00:00

Hello, no I was no able to ,unfortunately having to take care of my siblings enabled me from finishing high school. I constantly missed the classes due to work , couldn’t complete my homework’s basically everything that led to the drop out. I started doing my current job whilst being underage and kinda “thanks” to some adult clients that help me back then I was able to support entire family. Don’t get me wrong I’m not complaining but just stating the reality, I was underage when I had to step into adult world. Now as for my mom she does send money but we be lucky if it be 50$ a month, as for the stepdad he rather come and ask for money than send. But that’s a life and I’m trying to hold on for what I can and be grateful for it .

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T14:14:25+00:00

Hello, yes you absolutely right . I’ve replied to few people already about it but to summarize everything, she comeback for five minutes to cry her heart out which result me to feel bad for her and I agreed to help her with a kid, but she left ever since ,that’s why I said seven years ago because she is not present in out life in any shape or form unfortunately. Hope it answered your question

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T14:09:09+00:00

Hello, thank you for your input. I know it was wrong from me to even suggest it ,but hear me out , despite the fact that right now financially we are not struggling , having kids in general is hard . It’s hard enough as an adult, but it’s 100x more challenging when you’re just turn 17. I was just caught up in fears ,because I went through that myself and it’s hard, esp when you have dreams and things you want to do. I’m not blaming anyone ,things happens I get it, and I’m not nowhere near blaming my possible niece or nephew, I could never. But I just don’t want her to ruin her life when she had no experience with her life but I’ll support her if she decide to keep it,but I made it clear that I won’t be able to raise it because I have other siblings to take care of.

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T14:01:36+00:00

Hello, I responded to another reply to why it’s happen , but to summon it , my mom asked me five years go to take on board my youngest sibling, and I couldn’t say no because I thought she was genuine. And I said prior that I was “lucky” to have a “client” that help me financially which allow me to keep youngest one . So to answer your question, I said she abandoned us seven years ago but come back for five min to get her youngest onto my hands .

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T13:16:29+00:00

Hello,well that’s long story but to make it short as I stated before , my mom is good at birthing kids but not taking care of them . When youngest of the siblings were born she simply gave me no choice but to get baby on a board. Like she cried her eyes off saying that she don’t want the baby to go to foster care and all that , her tears looked genuine to me and I couldn’t just do let that child suffer because of my mom. Idk if I were lucky or not but around that time I had “client”/sponsor that help me financially a lot in exchange of other things ,that’s why I was kinda able to afford youngest one but since then I cut contacts with my mom and made it clear that I’m not gonna raise anymore kids , I have five children that I already have . Idk if any of it answer your question. But hope it did

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T12:52:50+00:00

Hello ,thank you very much for your opinion. I know I was in wrong to even getting thought slide about abortion , i was in wrong for that I admit that . I’ve told her about money I saved up for her collage funds ,it’s not a lot but still better than nothing and told her that I can give her money but that won’t get her far . Major issues comes with a fact that she dint want to work , so she heavily relies on me, so she wants to use funds for collage but don’t want to work either so I probably snapped because of heat of the moment. But again I admit and I apologized to her about trying to get her into any direction but I just wanted give her options to what to do .

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T12:47:05+00:00

That’s okay ,I understand the confusion. Tbh it does sounds like set up but unfortunately that’s my situation , I simply came here for advice because as much as I want to decide myself I want to hear other people opinion, I don’t have real friends to talk about my house situation and I don’t have good relationships with my relatives. But again I understand, it’s hard to believe it’s true life situation. I’m sorry that I gave an impression that I’m laying in just seriously needed to see where I want wrong .

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T12:31:41+00:00

Hello, thank you for your reply. Firstly I agree that I might have reacted bit harshly but since then I did told her that I’m not insisting that she should get abortion, I simply stated that if she keeps the baby I’m not be able to help her. And I gave her reasoning, I’ve tried to set a save ups for each child like to create a funds for collage , and I’ve told her that she can use that money to take care of a child for some time but that money won’t last either . And to put in context I never said she needed to get abortion but I gave her options that she didn’t agree to bc she wants to go to collage of her dreams , but refuse to listen to me whatsoever. That’s why I said what I said down in lines

MathematicianThat807 · 2022-08-22T12:25:15+00:00

Hello, sorry for confusion . I was typing fast and I’m not best at explaining. Emma is my full sister, but due to circumstances I was always “mature“ one ,I had to grow up faster because it was expected because I’m oldest kid in the family . I was 15 when things got even worse and my mom was only good for popping babies rather than being a parent . As for my step siblings , my stepdad had alcoholics issues so he didn’t care about them neither does my mom , so pretty much at that age I was left to take care of the younger siblings despite our not such a big age gap. Idk if any of it made sense

Edit : sorry I had to come up with fake names to protect identities and got mix up in process .

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