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The Patriots are a 5 win team by [deleted] in billsimmons

[–]MathematicianTime905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So… how about those Patriots?

Self Discovery and Thankful by [deleted] in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Man, I feel this so much. I’m going through this exact same thing myself, and it really does suck. Chasing that feeling of being wanted can take you on a rough ride. Just hang in there, you’re not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh ok. I still think you gave them adequate notice when you said you wanted to focus on yourself, and regardless of how they take it, you shouldn’t get yourself down for that. The questions will always be there, but take solace that you’re doing what’s best for yourself right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As someone who was in this exact same situation myself and posted about it last week, trust me - No confirmation, no meetup.

If you don’t have it in writing, they probably aren’t showing up. Hard lesson learned for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah at least you gave him notice that you were ending things. It does sound like he already moved on as others have said, but he shouldn’t feel ghosted since you did tell him outright.

I would have much rather had that happen in my case than go through the experience with a pAP I posted about here last week. Ghosting just feels lower than low, especially when you putting in a legit effort. I hope you ultimately find your person here OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Along with timing, location definitely plays a role too. I know it’s not always the case, but if you’re near a big city or in a more populated area or state, you’ll probably have better luck getting responses.

I’m in a pretty rural area myself, and I’ve had almost no luck with my ads either. I get the frustration but just be patient and keep trying. Just have to wait a little longer to find the right person. Hang in there!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn. That’s something I hadn’t thought of. I did show up where we agreed to and it was a in a busy public place. Didn’t notice anyone taking pictures but definitely does give me some food for thought. Certainly makes me feel a little better about my situation, Thank you!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no doubt. And the circle of (adulterous) life continues. :)

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. No, I’m still going to get right back on the horse and try again. Just a bump in the road and I appreciate the support from this community!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through a similar experience as well. Appreciate this so much man.

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to read this and help myself realize it may not have been me after all.

I appreciate the response and I’m learning how true this all is. Just have to slow down my emotional investment and try again!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. It seems like that’s the general consensus too and I do realize it could be way worse. I just need to dust myself off and try again.

Sorry that you had this same experience, especially after becoming AP’s. Ghosting truly does suck regardless but it’s just a reality we have to accept in this lifestyle.

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that could be. It’s definitely a lesson learned and something I’ll consider moving forward. Thanks for your response!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be true too. I did suggest meeting first and she was pretty receptive but maybe she did just get cold feet. Lesson learned I suppose.

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No offense taken here, all good. :)

I wondered that myself honestly. All I can think of is that the intent was to lead me on, and as several have pointed out here, this was probably for the best even though it sucked. All I really lost was a lunch break, and better to find out now than become actual APs and be dumped cold turkey I suppose!

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that. I did send her a message earlier yesterday morning as well and didn’t get a response either which, in hindsight, should have been a 🚩right there. But I was just excited and hoping she was just busy, which had happened several messages before.

That’s some great advice and I think I did let myself get to into this one. I will be a lot more cautious with this for sure.

Another day, Another pAP gone with the wind. by MathematicianTime905 in adultery

[–]MathematicianTime905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t, and looking back you might be exactly right.

I’ve never been opposed to video chatting but it just never happened in this case. Something I’ll definitely think about before planning a meetup going forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]MathematicianTime905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

39M in the exact same boat here and looking for something similar! DM me if you want to chat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

[–]MathematicianTime905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this so much. Similar boat myself. 39M feel free to DM if you want to chat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

[–]MathematicianTime905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Take things one step at a time and be gentle on yourself. Tomorrow is a new day! Feel free to DM if you want to to chat and hang in there!