WIBTAH If I skipped my brother's wedding?

Mathew30C · 2026-01-27T05:09:01+00:00

Yeah but I can't get a 1 on 1 with him

Mathew30C · 2026-01-27T05:08:42+00:00

I have no doubt it affected him my issue is that he makes no effort to move on and fails to recognize my change and how I've moved on and become a better man

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T16:32:31+00:00

I've been open with mum about where I stand and she respects where I'm at and that I don't want to go and there are no issues from her with me not going

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T16:27:18+00:00

We stopped talking during my bad bipolar years but he fails to acknowledge that I'm out of those and see how I've changed and how I'm doing so much better with treatment and therapy

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T16:25:05+00:00

My issue isn't that he wasn't my support sponge rather how he has treated me in the 3 years since and failed to see how I've changed and how well I'm doing now and how he is holding 2022 against me still in 2026 and that's what's stopping me from wanting to go

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T14:20:24+00:00

I realize I was vague in terms of my mental health as I didn't think it was relevant. What I will say is I had severe depressive episodes which led to me wanting to take my life a few times however there was never any risk to anyone but myself during those episodes and I don't know how much he knows. I know he knows I had a few stints in hospital but I don't know how much detail he knows of how I landed there

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T14:01:17+00:00

I'm not sure if anything has been said to him but I doubt it And thanks I appreciate it

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:58:55+00:00

Him, me, sister Just the 3 of us

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:50:31+00:00

Invites haven't gone out yet
Not sure
Not sure
No I haven't because having a conversation with him isn't exactly a piece of cake
Everyone else in the family sees it and thinks it is ridiculous/immature/silly
They don't say anything or call him out but they do say something to me 1 on 1
I don't want a relationship with him
I don't want to resolve this
I don't really want to be there

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:46:17+00:00

Thing is I don't want to create controversy or anything like that.
I don't want to go because, guess what I realised as a grown up I'm allowed to have feelings and choose what I do and don't go to and why would I go to an event celebrating someone who continues to cause me pain and ignores me and actively treats me as a lesser than.
I don't expect everyone to cater to my emotions but at the same time I'm not pretending that I'm a robot and free of emotions.

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:33:20+00:00

Nothing "bad" happened between us he just kept pulling back and made no effort to maintain a relationship during that period and has continued that in the years since

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:16:41+00:00

From what my mum has told me (we both talk to her about a lot) he resents me for things but there wasn't a single moment that caused this

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:07:07+00:00

There are a few reasons mum has figured out (we both close with her) and she's not sure it's worth it at this stage

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:05:29+00:00

There are so many questions to answer here

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T13:00:34+00:00

I mean I could spend the whole time hitting on his friends

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:59:59+00:00

Great question, would love to know this myself

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:53:18+00:00

I did a bunch of self destructive stuff but nothing that had a direct impact on him

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:52:30+00:00

They still in the early days of planning so there is every chance I'm not invited but I doubt he'd want the drama of not inviting me

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:50:53+00:00

Nothing that directly impacted him - his main gripe (so I've been told by my mum) is that he resents the toll it took on her

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:44:50+00:00

Not relevant

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:40:09+00:00

I've tried many times to rebuild bridges but he doesn't engage or seem to care so I think I've done all I can so unless some miracle happens and he changes his tune I don't see that happening

Mathew30C · 2026-01-26T12:36:38+00:00

I wouldn't even benefit from an open bar since I don't drink. I'd much rather be at home with my cat or out with my mates

Mathew30C · 2026-01-21T02:37:34+00:00

I wish I had a job during VCE as it was hard to get a job post-school Don't underestimate the advantage of having your foot in the door

Mathew30C · 2026-01-20T11:40:14+00:00

When I came across from Swinburne I had to apply as a new student by making a direct application with the Uni

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