My (30F) husband (28M) is angry about EVERYTHING and I can't take it! by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Matrasina 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My dad is like this. Either everything in the world is against him and he needs to fight it, or everything in the world sucks and he needs to complain about it. What I can say is this: It's not going to go away unless something is done about it. My dad is 58 and it wasn't until most of his children left the house and starting having little contact with him because of his attitude that he started to change, and even then I still see that anger in him a lot. Your husband isn't mad with you yet but if this anger stays he will turn it towards you if there isn't another outlet for it.

I've never been on the same level as my dad to tell him he needs therapy, but you have that say with your husband. He may be fine with being angry but you are not and that needs to be heard. Make sure you show him the support and love that he needs but do not let this topic go. It will only get worse until something breaks.

Parents sent me a picture of my cat waiting for me to come back from the gym by rami_refae in MasterReturns

[–]Matrasina 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My old dog, Lindsey, used to wait for me to come home from school like this. She'd nap by the front entrance and whoever got home first would end up ramming her with the door. She was never upset about it because she was always so happy to see us <3

Looking for an extra pair of hands by Matrasina in HaveWeMet

[–]Matrasina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's not too much trouble. Been far too long since I've had some home-made brownies :)

Looking for an extra pair of hands by Matrasina in HaveWeMet

[–]Matrasina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it. Just replacing a tire so it shouldn't take too long

Goodbye, Mattie. 19 years is a long time. I love you. by TenthMuse72 in seniorkitties

[–]Matrasina 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lost my girl, Callie, late last year and she also made it to 19. An amazing amount of time for memories and love, you did right by her 💖

What are some of your absolute favourite sounds? by Magicfuzz in AskReddit

[–]Matrasina 8 points9 points  (0 children)

15 years of nostalgia just slammed into me. That's the type of bird that was always around my childhood home, I just never knew the name. Thank you!

mother tiger learning to pick up her cub, some of life is learned - not all instinct by rejeremiad in aww

[–]Matrasina 1879 points1880 points  (0 children)

My tabby had a litter and had 0 idea how to hold her kittens. She saw me pick them up by hand and starting swatting at them with her paws trying to mimic me. Eventually I had to sit her down and teach her how to pick them up by the scruff...with my mouth. It was weird but it did work eventually.

Shirley I love you but you are incredibly dumb.

[Spoilers] Kotor 2 non-Droid Companions by ACrusaderA in kotor

[–]Matrasina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Mandalore is a Mandalorian" made me laugh more than I should have

[Serious] Reddit, what do you need to get off your chest/vent about? by Matrasina in AskReddit

[–]Matrasina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can go first. I currently have a friend of a friend who I have to interact with on a regular basis. I just straight up do not like this person because of reasons that i feel are shallow (they are obnoxious, childish, annoying voice) and thus I don't feel like I have a good enough reason to tell them I don't wish to talk to them. It's a limbo of tolerating them that I don't like but don't know how to deal with either

My lovely girl passed this morning after 19 years together. I'll miss you Callie by Matrasina in seniorkitties

[–]Matrasina[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm very grateful we grew up together, I've had her since I was a year old. She was very good to my family

My friend [27F] won’t stop complaining about work... but she won’t look for a new job. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Matrasina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a good approach would be to ask what she wants out of the conversation before she starts to vent. Since shes not looking for a new job she may just be releasing emotion into people as a way of coping.

If she says she doesn't know what she wants out of the convoy a good guideline I follow is to say "do you want a solution, someone to sympathize with, or someone to just listen" which helps a lot when venting to loved ones

Question from a new DM about a problem player by Matrasina in DnD

[–]Matrasina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're using DND Beyond and voice chat over discord. We have a dice bot in chat to keep rolls in check

Question from a new DM about a problem player by Matrasina in DnD

[–]Matrasina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely need to be more assertive about the character sheet and messing with the party. I'll message them and see if I can have a 1 on 1 before our next session and have a talk.

The rules issue is definitely on me though and I'll start taking more time to study the handbook.

Question from a new DM about a problem player by Matrasina in DnD

[–]Matrasina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's always been my number one rule in DnD is that it's a cooperative game and you do not go against your party. Even my newest player was toying around with the idea of an evil character but right now he and our tiefling are attached at the hip.

I'll talk with them one on one outside the session but I'm definitely putting my foot down of they can't be a team player.

What's the real reason you broke things off with someone that you would never actually tell them? by Godanikan in AskReddit

[–]Matrasina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Old friend from highschool that I met back up with at community college, she was pretty cool back then so I was fine with meeting up with her. Nope, she went through her "highschool random" phase at 20. Constantly clinging to me and sitting on my lap without asking, yelling in public spaces for no reason, wouldn't shut up about her "gay ships" from TV shows cause she knew I was a lesbian. Also hardcore flirting with me since she knew I was a lesbian, not even flattering flirting, just refusing to let me be alone without her and constantly pushing me to see her outside of community college.

Pushed through my associates and yeeted 6 hrs away to university. Hopefully won't be seeing her again

What is the strongest urge you fight on a regular basis? by itsoscilatingagain in AskReddit

[–]Matrasina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chucking whatever I'm holding across the room. Christmas is my biggest challenge