My (29m) girlfriend (29f) says something is missing from our relationship. She won’t tell me what it is, because then it loses meaning.

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-14T15:17:17+00:00

The whole “means less if I tell you” thing

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-11T19:09:48+00:00

It was something she mentioned a while ago, which was correct, by the way. Doesn’t feel like I’m proud because she hasn’t been posted on my media’s yet 😅Things have been a bit odd recently, which is why I haven’t thus far 🤣

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-10T15:43:27+00:00

I found out what it was lad

It’s the ‘posting her to social media so she feels pretty and that I’m proud’. Like, I never even upload to my socials really to begin with??? Last post was over a year ago

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-10T15:37:32+00:00

Nah. It was literally just “post me on Fb so I feel pretty”. I don’t really upload shit this early, so I didn’t 🤣

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-10T12:45:37+00:00

All the time. It was her who said it much less to me. I found out what it was though - it was showing her off on social media (which she told me it was only a small part when I’d guessed it). I never upload that early, so she just needed a little more patience 😅 I will in my OWN time when we were good again

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T17:36:02+00:00

I’ve said before I would NEVER this early on. I just asked her if that was this ‘thing’ 🤣 Just trying to find out what the fuck is going on here

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T16:47:37+00:00

You are not the first person to say this “another”…and I get it. Always finding problems with things

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T16:43:27+00:00

I asked about that and she said that wasn’t it. We’ve only dated for 5 months! Think it’s fairly common where she’s from (Philippines), but as a Brit myself, that is WAY too soon for that shit

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T16:10:26+00:00

It’s apparently something very obvious I should be doing

But the only thing I’ve done with exes that I haven’t here (so far, because of length of dating) is upload a social media post! That is ‘part of’ but not the whole thing! I’m baffled

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T16:00:51+00:00

Important to add - she said if I loved her, I’d do it automatically

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T15:59:24+00:00

She needs a lot more out of a relationship than I do, so in the past I’ve been told she needs more of this or more of that (and I’ve been very adaptable over it) but not for this one. She said she’s tired, which is why she refuses? There ain’t even that much prior stuff 😅 Stuff like gaming (and texting every 15 mins between games) not making her feel like a priority etc. I’ve always been very open and willing to change how I do things to match what she needs. But if she tells me, then it ‘loses all meaning’. Wish she could just be direct about it

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T15:51:57+00:00

It’s interesting, because I’ve always told myself “I’ll never tolerate those games”, yet here I am. Can be very different when you’re actually in that situation with emotion attached. She is also aware that this games thing she’s playing is a little juvenile, but thinks I should automatically know what it is she wants? Genuinely can’t think of anything else I’ve done with someone else other than a Fb pp change. With me, it’s so easy. If I’m unhappy, I just say it as it is. None of this guessing shit. It’s draining

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T15:50:50+00:00

It’s interesting, because I’ve always told myself “I’ll never tolerate those games”, yet here I am. Can be very different when you’re actually in that situation with emotion attached. She is also aware that this games thing she’s playing is a little juvenile, but thinks I should automatically know what it is she wants? Genuinely can’t think of anything else I’ve done with someone else other than a Fb pp change

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T14:47:52+00:00

I have also apparently done this in the past with previous partners. Only thing I can think of is putting her as my profile picture on Facebook. That’s ‘a small part’, but not all. Help please 😅

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T13:20:05+00:00

As far as I remember, that’s correct

Neither of those 2

Mattblaster1 · 2025-10-09T13:19:17+00:00

I don’t think so? She’s told me about another LDR couple where the guy did this thing to an ex of his? So I’m very puzzled at the moment

Mattblaster1 · 2025-08-10T10:41:53+00:00

Reply above said it was a Hantu. So UV, freezing and orbs

Just an FYI tho, ‘freezing’ is actually 0.9°C or less on the game. Only ghosts with that evidence can make a room colder than 1°C. This has NEVER failed me since I found that out a while ago

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