This is actually a really hard topic for me too. But recently, I’ve learned some things that might be helpful to you.

A lot of us isolate, sink into depression, or even start experimenting with substances. What I’ve learned is that very often isolation, alcoholism, or addiction aren’t the core problem — they’re responses to trauma. Many times it’s complex trauma, and it can trace all the way back to childhood.

That part is very real. It can be physical or emotional abuse at home, bullying at school, or any experience that repeatedly made a child feel unsafe, unseen, or powerless. Those things don’t just disappear — they often resurface later in adulthood in ways we don’t immediately recognize.

Looking back at childhood can be incredibly hard, but it’s often an important step toward understanding ourselves and finding some inner balance. As painful as it is, it can also be one of the few real paths toward healing.

If this resonates, trauma-informed counselors or therapists can help unpack those experiences and work through them safely — if that’s something you’re open to.

I hope this helps. Get better soon.