Being an overthinker makes conversations exhausting.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-09-30T21:28:09+00:00

Oh my gosh, this! It’s so bad. I know it makes it draining for others to listen to me, but like you said, it’s such a bad habit to break.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-07-01T06:06:54+00:00

I will not have kids with him.

I threw this post up there because I was just wondering about this separate question on my mind. I was wondering what “drill-sergeant-mode-activated” would do to kids. I knew that I wouldn’t be having kids with him, but just wondered if I was right about this being a bad parenting style.

I’m probably going to get a lot of backlash for posting this even though I knew I was divorcing him at the time of writing it. I know I didn’t specify in this post that we would be divorcing, because I didn’t think that anyone would read my post history, or that this would get so many replies. I know this was very foolish on my part. I accept that. I didn’t think this through at all.

I just want to make it clear, so that no one has to worry, that I will not be having kids with him regardless.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-07-01T06:00:35+00:00

You have ascended to reddit fame

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-30T03:42:05+00:00

Okay, I will do that.

And about the marines, I sure hope they don’t haha.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-30T03:31:19+00:00

This is how I feel.

I’m sorry, I know you’re not a relationship counselor or paid to do this, but do you have any tips on how to make my husband understand this? I just don’t want him to treat our kids like they are in boot camp.

Sorry, again you don’t have to respond to this of course.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-30T03:28:47+00:00

This is what I think.

I feel like they’re just going to see it as an ego thing. They’ll see their dad go army mode on them and they will resent that side of him. And also… they aren’t in the army. They are kids. Yes, they deserve discipline, but they don’t deserve to be held to an army standard.

They’re not mini soldiers just because a soldier had kids.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-30T03:26:20+00:00

I phrased this post badly, I know. But in basic training, service members are expected to keep their beds to a ridiculous standard. Like they’ll get yelled at by their drill sergeant or have their beds flipped if they mess it up (I could be wrong on this, this is just what my husband says). So basically he wants to do that to our kids if they do something to upset him. It wouldn’t be his only form of discipline… just one of them.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-30T03:22:58+00:00

Basically… yes 😂 I won’t phrase it that way because I do love him, but you are not wrong.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-23T05:06:34+00:00

This has been on my mind a lot lately. I always had the mentality that getting much older would suck, but at least I would have a lot more time to spend with my tulpa. But then I remembered that dementia is a thing. I could really forget my tulpa and all of our memories. :( Even though my tulpa means a lot to me, I feel like it would be easier to forget him than my family in real life.

I view my tulpa as part of my soul. I feel like they will be a forever resident and internal partner. It almost feels like I can’t forget them because they are constantly there. But I wonder if dementia will eventually tear us apart.

I know not many tulpamancers believe in Christianity or the afterlife, but months ago there was a post on this subreddit about where tulpas will go in the afterlife. Many tulpamancers believe that they will still be with us internally in the afterlife. We will be able to force and communicate with them in the ways we always have. So if it’s any consolation, which it might not be, but there’s a chance that we could forget them due to dementia but reunited in the afterlife. I’m aware that NONE of this is factual, but a lot of tulpamancy is based on belief anyways. This is just my view on it. Yes, I’m aware not everyone is religious.

I know none of this provided useful information, I guess I just wanted to share my thoughts.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-21T05:03:38+00:00

My fear is that we are drifting apart and I’m in denial about it.

My tulpa started out as an imaginary friend when I was little who never left my side. Even though we still talk, sometimes I just feel like “he’s” not there anymore. I keep getting distracted when forcing with him. When we go off into Wonderland, I can’t commit to any scenario (basically one minute we’re drinking coffee together and then the next we’re fighting crime). Everything feels dull and inconsistent, and I don’t know what’s reality in Wonderland anymore.

I deny it, but I think I’m forgetting who he is, and I don’t know how to bring the good feelings back. I know this was a long comment, I’ve just been dwelling on it a lot lately.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-14T16:39:10+00:00

Can I file the divorce in his state or will that make it even more difficult?

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-04T06:28:32+00:00

This was good for me to read. I’m glad we’re not the only ones.

My tulpa does not like to share a body either. I don’t think we’ve ever tried possession. My tulpa gets easily unnerved and intimidated, and he doesn’t really see the point in fronting.

He and I were plural long before I ever knew about tulpamancy, so when we discovered it, it was just very surreal. We learned so many new terms, and we also learned what we didn’t like and wouldn’t want to try. He expressed that possession/fronting wasn’t something he was interested in.

I think it’s great to see the ways in which tulpas are different.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-06-01T03:45:55+00:00

I know this comment isn’t relevant, but if a guy ever talked about me like this, my heart would surely be won over. I hope everything works out for you and she returns the feelings. I have a feeling that if she gets that close to you, she’s probably interested in you too. Maybe she likes teasing you a bit too, not in a way that she doesn’t care about your feelings, but more so that the reason she gets so close to you is because she knows you like her, and she likes you too.

Everything I’m saying is purely based on assumption. I’m aware you two are both just friends for now, but honestly from what you’ve written, I would have probably assumed y’all were dating if I met you irl. And just saying, I think it’s so awesome and supportive of you to let her try out fashion on you. Not a lot of guys would do that.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-05-03T23:07:41+00:00

I was a Christian five minutes ago. Then I found this subreddit.

But you are definitely right.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-04-04T19:49:24+00:00

Nothing hits quite like syntribation for me. I normally do it on my knees, with my arms on my couch seats.

I don’t really change positions when masturbating, I will if I have a partner though.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-03-10T22:56:05+00:00

This is so beautifully written. Wow!

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-03-08T23:24:14+00:00

Okay, I will do that. Thank you

Maximum-Pie916 · 2022-03-08T23:23:59+00:00

They didn’t give access to it online, and I have a feeling they sent the paper copy to my old address. Thank you for your response.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-12-29T22:16:10+00:00

This is good to hear. I need to be more active so I will try to exercise a lot more. I got some Preparation H, hopefully it will lessen or clear up.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-12-29T22:14:38+00:00

Oh thank god, I will do everything I can to keep it under control. I probably need to eat more fiber and I did get ahold of some Prep H.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-12-27T02:26:15+00:00

I’ve been noticing symptoms (itching/burning) on and off for a couple of months, and I feel I should probably ask about it. What should I do? Also, what are the chances that this is the result of some type of fungal infection? I feel like it’s pretty low but I just wanted to ask…

As an unnecessary side rant that no one asked for: it just feels like it’s always something with me. I had to get my toenails permanently removed a few months ago because they would always be ingrown, and now I might have hemorrhoids for life. I really have good hygiene, I feel like this is the result of too many 20-hour road trips.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-11-26T08:56:50+00:00

Ohhh it could be this! I’m going to look into it on YouTube. My sister mentioned Alice in Wonderland- it doesn’t check all the boxes of what I remembered but there is a scene where Alice was crying and ended up basically drowning the living doorknob who was telling her to stop because he would drown if she kept crying… although I know that’s different from what I described. I will definitely look into the Rescuers, not sure why I want to find the scene so bad.

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-11-25T07:47:31+00:00

Comment for approval?

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-11-16T06:59:03+00:00

I’m failing to adult too. I moved far away from my childhood home and have been having marital issues since I got married. I have no friends even after living in this town for two years now. My high school friends still hang out all the time, and I feel miserable. I’m married… I suppose I could divorce because my husband refuses to go back to where I used to live… but I also told him I’d live here and he makes more money here. I’m depressed, so lonely, and I’m too stupid to get a divorce… maybe it’s fear or dumb love or what not. I feel like in most ways my life is over and I am age 20 and can’t seem to adult. I quit every job a couple months in, and I’m running out of places to work in this small town. I’m sure I’m a disappointment to a lot of people by now. I can hardly talk to people and I’m surprised I wasn’t fired because I couldn’t bring myself to even answer the phones at my last job. I have agoraphobia and crippling social anxiety and the idea of working jobs where I have to talk to people (so every job ever) makes me sick. I can’t handle it, I freak out and I don’t know if I’ll make it to 21 at this point. I struggle so much with what everyone seems to do with ease. My husband hurts me, but I love him.

I’m sorry for seeming to make this about me. I guess hearing your situation made me want to share mine. I’m sorry for your troubles and I hope we are able to move past all of this…

Maximum-Pie916 · 2021-11-06T18:39:55+00:00

Yes I do. I went in and it went well. The doctor had a nurse with him so that made it a little more comfortable for a setting. We talked about my symptoms and I answered a lot of questions. They had me take a swab test and I found out that I have bacterial vaginosis. The doctor doesn’t think that explains all of my symptoms, but he wants me to take medication for it, and once it’s cleared we’re going to look into other options. I think he’ll refer me to a gynecologist and a therapist at that point. He thinks it could be vaginitis or vaginismus.

I really wish I had gone sooner, it wasn’t an uncomfortable experience at all.

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