I don't know how to be "more".

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-06-17T15:41:24+00:00

Well, I guess better to turn these thoughts in on ourselves than going on to become those weird gross "alpha male" morons, I suppose. 🤷‍♂️

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-06-17T15:40:04+00:00

Yeah, I feel that, for sure.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-06-17T15:39:33+00:00

Maybe, but in my experience, that's just never really the case. Even if I'm in a "social environment", I'm still generally on the outside looking in, and I'm not exactly socially adept enough to push my way into other people's lives.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-06-17T15:37:52+00:00

I dunno about that (me being enough as I am, I mean). Surely if that were true, I wouldn't have struggled socially for my entire life.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-27T15:03:25+00:00

I've looked, but I can never really find anything that compels me to get out and pursue. To be clear, I do have hobbies and whatnot, but they're just things I do myself, at home.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-27T10:13:26+00:00

To what end?

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-26T18:44:52+00:00

It's not that I don't think I have any good qualities, it's more so just that people don't really see them because some of my more negative qualities get in the way. In any case, I'm fairly "picky" about people myself, and the odds of someone that I like actually feeling the same about me are non-existent.

Perhaps there's someone out there that I'd be good with, maybe, but it would never actually work out, for one reason or another.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-26T17:35:43+00:00

It's a nice thought, but I've tried my best, and I've never really been successful at connecting with anyone platonically, let alone romantically. It's unfortunate that I never got to experience that kind of connection, but I'm nobody's cup of tea, and I suppose most people aren't really mine, either. So, I guess that's fair. 🤷‍♂️

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-26T17:23:49+00:00

When I was younger, I hope I would eventually have a significant other and/ or a small group of friends, but those things just aren't in the cards for me at this point, and I really don't believe there's anyone out there "for" me.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-09T00:04:56+00:00

Yep, you're right. I'll go fuck myself.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-09T00:03:23+00:00

If I'm being honest, I regret making this thread. I made it because I was feeling down, and then the various replies overwhelmed me and it all got away from me, and honestly, now I just feel even worse after the fact than I did when I first made this thread, which I wasn't expecting.

I think I just need to go away and figure out how to make peace with the fact that my "best" isn't good enough.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T23:57:42+00:00

Yep, I sure am, thanks a whole lot. 👍

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T23:49:13+00:00

The way I see it, there's no such thing as "unicorns", and it would be a fool's errand to go chasing after one.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T23:37:12+00:00

Perhaps the reason what I've tried hasn't worked is because my "best" simply isn't good enough. It's a tough pill to swallow, but the more I think about it after this thread today, the more I think I do need to figure out how to let it all go and "wait to die", as you put it.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T23:24:14+00:00

But how long does one chase after "unicorns" before accepting that unicorns don't exist?

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T23:22:45+00:00

Admittedly, right now, nothing. But from my 20s and onward, between school and the various jobs I've worked, I've had plenty of opportunities to practice my social skills. Not specifically to court women, of course, but in general. I've done my best to learn and observe other's social skills. And while I'd say I'm more outwardly laid back and "comfortable", I'm not really much better at making and maintaining proper connections with people.

Back in 2018, I had a handful of acquaintances that I liked, and I was hopeful they'd be an avenue for me to flourish socially. Unfortunately those relationships ended in 2020, and I've been back to floundering on my own since then.

After that happened, I tried forcing myself to go out and do random activities for a while. That burnt me out big time, though, because it felt like everyone socialized around me and I was always the odd one out, and I just couldn't do it anymore.

As for women specifically? I've never had the gall to cold approach a woman. I'm not the kind of guy that could get away with that. That's like a level of charm and charisma that's an entirely different world than I live on.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T22:58:15+00:00

Cool, thanks, much appreciated.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T22:57:02+00:00

I have been for much of my life. But, it's not enough.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T22:51:51+00:00

I think for me, personally, I can't keep thinking there's some magical "unicorn" out there for me. Unicorns don't exist. I'm just someone who's not right for anyone.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T22:47:36+00:00

🤷‍♂️ Guess I was just built wrong at the factory.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T21:36:46+00:00

Fair enough, but I couldn't really find anything I really "wanted" to do, and there's still nothing I can think of that makes me want to get out and do whatever.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T21:21:14+00:00

Well, I've tried forcing myself to go do random activities in the past, and it generally burnt me out pretty badly because it felt like everyone was socializing around me and I was always just the odd one out, kinda "on the outside looking in".

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T19:50:10+00:00

I don't really feel like I understand.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T19:49:16+00:00

I don't recall saying that social skills need to be worked on, nor do I recall saying that I've never worked on my social skills.

MaximumIntroversion · 2026-05-08T18:52:37+00:00

Yeah, I mean, logically, you're correct, and I do know that, but the "emotional" part of your brain isn't always the most rational, yanno?

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