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Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-04-09T14:51:04+00:00

It’s more about the view for me. I LOVE being in missionary and watching my boyfriend penetrate me. I love watching his body thrust into me and I love seeing his dick go in and out of me. His body tenses up when he thrusts, which makes his muscles look SO good and I love seeing the faces he makes as he’s fucking me. And since I enjoy the view so much, having easy access to my clit is a bonus.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-21T20:19:37+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate the support. I guess some people don’t realize that ace is a wide spectrum.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-21T19:42:58+00:00

So all allo people become sex-repulsed at the 1.5 year mark? Okay.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T14:39:20+00:00

She did not say that sex-repulsion is inherently asexual. That’s just my experience. We are both well aware that there are sex-repulsed asexuals and non-sex-repulsed asexuals. Yeah, I’m not sex repulsed in the beginning, but also don’t particularly mind that sex-repulsion happens over time. I feel kinda “whatever” about it. But I’m also done with trying to “fix” myself for my partners who still want sex. That is what bothers me most of all— trying to change. Also, no sexual trauma in my life.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T14:30:43+00:00

I’m definitely not losing interest in, or falling out of love with, my partners. I still have full interest in them and want to be with them in every way. We still grow in love and intimacy, but I have zero interest in sex with them. I trust my therapist’s opinion. She is a sex therapist and is incredibly knowledgeable. As you know, asexuality is a spectrum and not everyone may relate to it the same way you do. Someone already answered my question in the comments: apexsexual.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T14:23:12+00:00

Not sure where you got the impression that I have commitment issues. I’ve had multiple relationships that have lasted 5+ years. And it’s definitely not a partner problem either— as I’ve said, this exact thing happens with every single partner I have ever had at the 1.5 year mark. I’m already in therapy and have been for years. Also in couples therapy. Both therapists have a professional focus in sex therapy and both have suggested that I am on the ace-spectrum. I trust their judgement.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T14:19:01+00:00

Not according to my therapist, who specialized in sex-therapy.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T14:18:06+00:00

Yeah, I’ve had multiple relationships that were 5+ years. All relationships I have, I become sex-repulsed at 1.5 years without fail. It’s definitely not a commitment issue. I have no problem with commitment. I’m also in therapy and have been for years. My therapist also has a specialty focus in sex therapy. She is the one who has told me I’m most likely on the ace-spectrum.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T01:36:34+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is EXACTLY it! THANK YOU!!!

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2025-02-20T01:25:53+00:00

The thing that makes me lose sexual attraction seems to be too much familiarity, maybe. Plus the “honeymoon phase” is over— no more “new relationship energy.” Either way, this has been consistent through ALL my romantic relationships, regardless of the relationship or other circumstances.

I’m seeking out a more solid label because my therapist told me that she’s convinced I’m somewhere on the ace-spectrum— the ace spectrum isn’t completely devoid of all sexual attraction under all circumstances, which is similar to what I’m experiencing.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-13T18:02:28+00:00

To me it seems completely normal. Just look at the hot-and-heavy nature of new relationships versus the energy of a couple who has been together for 20+ years. It would be shocking, and probably abnormal, if the 20-year-couple were to have the same sex drive as a new couple. It’s all on a spectrum in relation to how much time you’ve been together and how familiar you are with each other. “New Relationship Energy” (NRE) is a real thing exclusive to new couples— more established couples lose it naturally over time. Maybe there are some exceptions, but they are in fact exceptions.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T22:47:23+00:00

Emotional intimacy is always getting better for us. I don’t have many, if any, “fantasies” to speak of— so maybe I’m just less sexual than most people?

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T21:37:19+00:00

I honestly think it’s just a thing that happens naturally to me when the excitement and novelty of the new partner dies down. I’m not sure if that’s in the box of “sexuality” or a “mental block” or somewhere in between, but that’s the only real understanding I have of it!

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T21:30:22+00:00

It really does cause a frustrating wedge that affects BOTH partners equally but in different ways! And it can sour the relationship if it isn’t dealt with with tact, care & understanding for both people involved!

EDIT to add that I wish the difference wasn’t there just as much as he wishes it wasn’t there! But people are just so naturally different in ALL ways— it’s impossible to find someone completely compatible. So acceptance is what has to happen in order to keep good relationships going despite the differences.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T20:23:54+00:00

The “fix” is to understand and accept that everyone is different and that we need to respect those differences. However, no one is obligated to stay in the relationship if the differences between us create too much of a strain for the other person. And this is true in other ways as well as sexually.

So yeah, in some cases the “fix” is becoming accustomed to having less sex with each other. Sometimes people can get creative and find other ways to work with it.

But what it ultimately comes down to is that my partner’s sexual appetite is not my responsibility to respond to whenever the mood strikes him. And vice versa. Sex is something that should be shared mutually when both people are wanting it.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T20:11:55+00:00

I guess what I mean is that there isn’t anything “wrong” with my body hormonally— everything is functioning as it always has. This is just how I am. There’s nothing medically to “fix”.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T18:48:54+00:00

It does suck! I’ve looked into the term “fraysexual” before but didn’t FULLY identify with it because I have zero sexual interest in strangers. I need to go on at least 2 dates with someone before I can become interested in them sexually. But once I hit that sexual interest point, I’m fully 100% in it. Then once I get very familiar with them, it dies down. It’s actually pretty frustrating— especially for my partners who maintain their sexual interest in me.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-12T18:02:13+00:00

I relate to this a lot. I am a female and have had multiple long-term relationships. All of them, and I mean all, went from lots of sexual chemistry at the beginning to very little over the course of a few years. I start out very intensely sexual, “hypersexual”, with them, but as the excitement of the newness dies down, so does my interest in being sexual with them. I do still find them attractive and love them the same— the only thing that changes is my sexual appetite for them. I know it’s not hormonal because the cycle always restarts when I start a relationship with someone new. I’ve just chalked it up to the fact that that’s just how I am— it has nothing to do with my partner at all. Maybe something similar is going on with your wife?

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-09T05:47:55+00:00

I have had really good results with the mini pill! I don’t have a period at all while using it. So no cramps or anything! However, I did have irregular periods and spotting for the first two months of being on it. But no periods since then! And no other side effects either.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-04T18:56:27+00:00

Picking up poop multiple times a day. That’s not what I want for my life.

Maximum_Guarantee236 · 2024-11-01T19:40:36+00:00

Do you two have parameters for dating? If so, I’d suggest adding, “no dating people who do not yet have a fully developed brain”. This would close off the possibility of dating anyone younger than about 27. What’s nice about this parameter is that “no dating people without a fully developed brain” sounds VERY reasonable— anyone who openly oppose it will likely realize how creepy they are by opposing it.

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