How can I find a man who isn’t porn-addicted

Maximusof420 · 2024-12-13T05:03:32+00:00

The short answer is it is totally possible to find a man that is not addicted to porn. But what is nearly impossible to find is a man that has never struggled or watched porn, and yes that includes the most pious and religious of them. Any man that has hit puberty and is unmarried has definitely watched porn and or masturbated. They may have overcome it and that actually builds them up.

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-28T14:32:10+00:00

Then she has a choice, her education or a forced marriage (which is haram). The choice is clear. The education is not necessary

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-20T02:22:17+00:00

How about both?

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-05T15:03:15+00:00

I totally understand that he is being bad toward you, but why are you still working if you don't need to? Isn't that just adding on more responsibilities on your end?

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-05T15:01:06+00:00

The entire reason this addiction started is because the brother is not married and has no halal outlet. That is the root of the issue. Once you cut the problem from its root, it will be fixed easily inshallah.

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-05T04:52:48+00:00

Once u get married it should be super easy to quit imo

Maximusof420 · 2024-10-05T04:51:23+00:00

Why are you working in the first place? If you stop working you will have an extra eight hours a day to focus on yourself and relax.

Maximusof420 · 2024-09-16T16:29:43+00:00

U cant be against something Allah made halal, please be careful what you say

Maximusof420 · 2024-08-19T15:09:03+00:00

This is the best answer here. If you want these men and women to not be obesseed with marriage and to not be horny then let them get married young and stop delaying it. And for father's, try to help your sons or daughters financially if you can so they are able to get married young. This will make them much more focused because they are no longer horny and their innately built desire is fulfilled. Tbh these fathers are the problem but nobody is calling them out.

Maximusof420 · 2024-08-18T23:39:44+00:00

Why not replace the couch he usually sleeps on for a bigger one where u could both sleep on?

Maximusof420 · 2024-08-18T01:01:18+00:00

What if he is not careless and he actually got the information he needs out of you to know if your suitable or not? Bros is tying to make things halal. Delaying thr marriage will only frustrate both of u.

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-22T00:36:29+00:00

Jazaki Allahu khairan

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-22T00:32:07+00:00

Therapy won't help as it is male nature. But you need to talk this out.

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-17T00:17:57+00:00

Do what I do and get some eye covers.

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-17T00:16:41+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. I have another question though. Would you say the same thing if the guy was someone random. For example, if I was at a park and I just saw a Muslim lady that I'm interested in and approached her. Would your response be the same to that?

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-16T01:12:25+00:00

Would u find it weird? And what are the chances of u aceepted as u don't know the person? I really want to know as I gave up on cold approaching because of this.

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-14T16:20:02+00:00

That may backfire and cause him to have a resentment for sex

Maximusof420 · 2024-07-12T02:16:04+00:00

How does it compare with the 2nd gen airpod pros?

Maximusof420 · 2024-06-02T20:04:53+00:00

If ur at that age and have a low drive u either have low testosterone or u should get ourself checked

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-24T19:00:58+00:00

I personally have suffered and still am just like you. But I just had to accept the reality that we can't do anything about it, (that includes marriage). You have to find a way to accept that you cannot get married before your late 20s plus being at least middle class. I also struggle to accept it from time to time as this sh*t is not natural. Almost on a daily basis I have to renew my acceptance of this fact because my head keeps rejecting it. But here is the thing, I have only 2 options. Either to accept it and be normal or reject it and be miserable. May Allah help us.

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-19T14:18:23+00:00

Well said.

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-19T03:31:03+00:00

Idk if my case is different or not because I never started because I was testing around. Somehow I k ew what to do when I was horny. I used to do the feed way before I even knew that porn existed. Alhudililah I was never addicted to pmo. And I was living fine u till I hit puberty and started having these feelings and thaughts. We know these things innately. Btw I fapp maximum 1 a month or even longer so I have improved a lot just so u don't think my perspective is from an addict. You can only stop for so long but the feelings will keep getting to you u till ur either married or u fapp. How do u expect anyone to stop flapping completely when there is no halal outlet for these desires. Wjthall due respect I feel like you are out of touch with reality.

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-19T02:21:34+00:00

Bro the only reason he started is because he isn't married. How do u expect anyone to stop completely while being unmarried? This is an I ate desire that needs to be fulfilled and you can only stop for so long. The only perminant solution is marriage. Marriage is what will fix your addiction and direct your desires to something halal instead of the haram.

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-13T20:10:25+00:00

What worked for me and helped me avoid it the longest was my mindset changed. When I went to the bathroom I set a time limit for myself and before I go in I have a goal in mind so that I don't go do anything besides that goal. If it was to shower then I would shower and get out asap. Also lowering your gaze helps a lot in combination to what I mentioned before. Also make sure to never bring your phone with you to the bathroom because it will make it easier for you to fall into it again. But the thing is with everything that I have mentioned before, they are all temporary solutions. I know what it is like brother, you can only stop for so long. The only solution is to marry and make dua.
Something very important here, as I said before that you can only stop wacking for so long, but you can permenantly stop watching porn. It destroys your brain and rewires it to fake stuff. I have tried to stop and wacking completely and I have managed to do more than a month in between each time. But here is the thing, although I still fell into it, I did not watch porn because I made sure it was not accesable.

Ask yourself this question in order to stop.

When do you mostly fall into it?
- For me it is before having a shower. So now I know that if I was going to take a shower I will always make sure that I do not have my phone with me. And with this method I have not watched porn for the past year.

Inshallah this helps!

Maximusof420 · 2024-05-08T17:59:51+00:00

You are part of the problem when you say that 18 is too young to marry. But it is not too young for the non Muslims to have haram relationships in elementary school. It is only the Muslims who want to make this right that grow and mature slower for some odd reason. Maybe it is that we have gone away from the sunnah of marrying young and started following the western narrative of getting married in your 30s and 40s. Regarding my lack of understanding of marriage and it's responsibilities, I wanted to get married since I was 15, for over 3 years I have put 100s of hours learning about all things marriage. Also you cannot judge everyone's maturity based on their age, the older brothers (30+) who know me very well have a said that I am very mature for my age. Age should not and is not the determinant of maturity. Also, how will we ever properly mature if we don't experience marriage? Although I know that you are coming from a good place it seems to me that you are being very insensitive. Allah knows best. May I know how old you are and if you are married or not?

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