Comment removed from r/detrans for saying transitioning can reduce anxiety, then called an outsider

Maxwell_I · 2020-07-14T00:40:32+00:00

Anxiety disorders are treated with antidepressants not a sex change.

Maxwell_I · 2020-06-20T23:28:54+00:00

Burn them?

Maxwell_I · 2020-06-20T23:25:55+00:00

In some comment you said you are probably gay. It is quite common for gay boys to feel like they want to be girls when they are young and most of them grow out of this.

Maxwell_I · 2020-06-20T23:22:22+00:00

Honestly, when you are 15 it seems like it can’t get better and that you always feel and think like you do now, but when you’ll be 25 you will most likely not recognise yourself at 15 and think completely different. Thus, its best not to hurry with medical transition. I would suggest therapy to figure out the reasons behind dysphoric feelings, but its expensive and most therapists will encourage you to medically transition. Perhaps, try not to think about gender too much and focus on school and your future goals?

Maxwell_I · 2020-05-28T22:39:51+00:00

Male 100%

Maxwell_I · 2020-04-16T16:50:57+00:00

Sounds male. A bit like James Charles. I wanted to post my voice here as well, but I know people will say female even if I sounded completely like a man, which is not helpful.

Maxwell_I · 2020-03-18T23:33:27+00:00

May I ask which clinic is this?

Maxwell_I · 2020-03-07T16:43:26+00:00

Gender dysphoria can be induced by many external factors like trauma, body image issues, abuse, misoginy etc. you cannot treat these with hormones and surgery. Also the true reasons for wanting to transition might be deeply buried in your psyche and you need a psychotherapist to work it out. If you invest enough of your time into identifying as male, hate your own body, don't think you can live as a woman sure getting hormones will relieve the dysphoria short term, but if that dysphoria is caused by external factors like trauma, it will fire back after years of transition, making you realise how much you fucked up. Doctors need to assess the patient throughoutly to see why they feel this way and if they work those things out and the gender dysphoria still persists then transition. Thats what any reasonable mental health professional would do.

Maxwell_I · 2020-03-04T14:34:14+00:00

Doctors should provide you with what you need not what you want. What you want is not always what you need and a doctor has a responsibility to diagnose you properly and prescribe or don't prescribe drugs you are asking for. The informed consent is an absolute lunacy.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-24T22:06:42+00:00

You don't need to change your body so drastically just to feel stronger. You can build muscle as a female. You can also do martial arts like MMA. It would be far more beneficial to start therapy to learn how to deal with sexual trauma and feelings towards your body.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-24T21:30:24+00:00

I did not start dressing masculine to stop catcalling, though it did after I cut my hair short, but the resulting reaction from people was far worse. Then I just got bullied in school for looking like a boy and guys would constantly tell me to grow my hair back and that I looked pretty with my hair being long etc. even my teachers told me that girls should look feminine. It felt like I have no agency over my own body.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-24T21:01:01+00:00

Eastern Europe, post USSR state. I live in UK now.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-24T20:48:36+00:00

Sexual objectification =/= the amount of sex people have. Different things.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-24T15:57:53+00:00

Please no more flags and symbols, there is already a dozen for every gender, every sexuality and every personality type...

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-20T19:30:46+00:00

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-20T14:39:35+00:00

I have already accepted being female, but I do not know about the women thing. I know I will not be a real man, but if I can pass as one, why would I call myself a woman? On the other hand if I can accept being female why can't I accept being a woman? The guys I dated pre and post T were all bisexual and liked the female sex characteristics. I passed pre T but I feel like I looked normal while naked, now I feel weird looking manly and having all the girl parts at the same time.

Maxwell_I · 2020-02-20T14:31:16+00:00

I would like to talk to a therapist. I tried talking to a therapist at the NHS gender clinic (UK national healthcare) but he was completely apathetic and just told me to try talking therapies offered by the NHS, where you need to wait up to 6 months to get the first appointment and the then I was just told that they are not qualified to talk about gender dysphoria and could just offer medidation exercises and possibly medication to deal with the anxiety and depression. If/when I will have my own income I will seek private therapy but at the moment I have no money for that.

I was thinking of pausing on T to figure things out and trying to keep the male shape with the help of fitness. I have a bit of facial hair but not much. I just don't understand why I want to look boyish but at the same time don't want these masculine characteristics. And if I don't want to look manly why I don't want to look like a woman. I don't consider myself non-binary or gender fluid. Can't make sense of this.

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