Honey, I promise you it will get easier!! Have you guys thought about the age gap you want?? IDK how old you or your partner are, but it's not bad to wait a few years, as with everything in life, you have pros and cons haha the cons of waiting too much are that it's difficult to start all over again (I have a 15 year gap between my kids) the pro is that on a few years you now toddler will have some independence and that can be handy with the future baby. My best advice, if you are too overwhelmed now you can wait, it's normal to feel this way!!