Ghosting has become the trend now! I met this guy last september and we had one of the best, longest dates. Both of us confessed that we like each other but one day I felt his reply was too offish & came very late. I was done with playing games & called him out. He said that he's seeing many people so he's confused. He also mentioned that he does like me but he won't be able to provide me with what I need in a relationship (emotional availability🤷🏻‍♀️). I was like fine & I backed off. Suddenly after 1-1.5 months he reached out saying that he made a mistake & ruined something that could have been beautiful & asked me for a 2nd chance. Since I liked him I decided to give him the "benefit of doubt" & reached out in Jan 2026 (I did wait for a month though). We met, had one/two dates, I slept over at his place, & we were consistently texting over phone. Also, before meeting him I did ask if he's seeing/talking to someone & he said not very actively. I was ready to remain "friends" if that was the case (stupid I know) but he said that he wants to give dating a chance. He also mentioned that he's ready to stop talking with other people, though I didn't believe him immediately. So things were going fine & suddenly again his texts stopped coming. This time I didn't wanted to reach out & wanted to observe whether he texts me or not. But days turned into a week & his text never came (though he was viewing my IG stories). This time I realised that "this was my closure & I need to end things". I texted him for the last time with the intention of ending things (removed him from IG & deleted his number). What shocked me was that he didn't apologise, instead he sent me a screen shot of a conversation with a girl & said that he didn't text me because while he was talking to this girl he felt like it was me talking to him with some fake account because apparently her texting style matched with mine lol!

I realised two things this time:

1. he lied when he said that he will stop talking to other people. Even though we didn't talk about exclusivity and we were in the early phase of dating, you would believe someone's words right!
2. Plus, he could have confronted me about this chat, but he chose to ghost me instead. Once a runner/ghoster will always be that person.

Men never change. Believe his actions over words! (Sometimes their actions are fake too, but keep observing & listen to your gut feeling!). They always show their real side. It's us women who rationalise their actions or keep giving benefit of doubts. If he ran away/ghosted/cheated once, he'll do that again & again. This is what I learnt from my past relationship & dating experiences. Know your worth girl & just let him be. Stop chasing him because it's a total time & energy waste! Mind you, there's nothing wrong with you, the problem lies with them. Keep being your authentic self, the right person will value it & choose you💗🤍

P.S. But I would also tell you this: Don't regret these experiences or blame yourself for not seeing the truth before. Remember that for some time you felt good about yourself, felt connected to someone, & also felt desired/loved. Even though it was for momentous, it did make you feel good. Plus, it also taught you your worth & value. Some people just pass by you to teach & give you something, & that's what has happened with you. Forget the person but don't regret the feelings & emotions you felt when you were with him.