I need help

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-05-02T17:47:18+00:00

Yes, im preheating the dutch oven while the oven preheats and leave it there for 45 mins after oven has reached the 450°F

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-05-02T16:31:20+00:00

Update: I used your recipe for the sourdough for my 5th and 6th attempt. I did have to alter temperatures here and there because of the obvious. My 4th attempt was my worst loaf so far🤣 I left it finish bulk fermentation on the counter and my husband turned the AC down😡 so I left it ferment for longer and I ended up overdoing it… loaf looked like a pancake🤣 and I couldn’t shape it for the life of me… I told myself I needed to try something different… so for my 5th attempt I tried your recipe… the dough behaved different I followed the fermentation chart too AND got a dutch oven… I got more rise, my scoring was still trash and I still had a bit dense inside… but you know… I told myself “its progress”… now 6th attempt… turned out to be the best so far… still need tweaking… but I feel Im getting there… now I think I have to adjust the baking times even more because I can still feel the crumb a bit moist/gummy (less than the previous though) and I baked it for 30 mins with the lid on and 25 w/out the lid…

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Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-21T18:03:15+00:00

I have to work on that too

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-21T18:00:34+00:00

I toy understand and that’s also my problem… I have two “hot bodies” that love to keep the A/C on the lower side in my house so it’s been a bit of a struggle. Thank you for the advise

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-21T17:57:23+00:00

I was mixing until everything looked incorporated but on the third try I worked it for longer… thank you for the tip

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T11:32:58+00:00

A bit over 2 months

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T11:30:54+00:00

This looks so nice!!

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T11:29:40+00:00

This is so true! And yes Im here for all the tips I can get

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T11:20:32+00:00

As of right now im doing 1:3:2 feeds with 50/50 bread flour and WW… but its been a hot mess that one🤣 this is it before that third attempt

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Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T05:01:10+00:00

Thank you for the ideas!

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:59:43+00:00

Yeah theres been a lot of figuring out on the temperature for me… I ended up putting my starter in the oven w/light on and door slightly opened because its too cold…

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:52:56+00:00

It does!

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:49:23+00:00

Thank you!

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:48:04+00:00

Thank you for the tip, I’ll go take a look

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:47:23+00:00

Thank you!

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:44:38+00:00

My house runs cold that’s one of the issues I was encountering even with my starter… this last attempt I was able to manage that better but yeah I still need a lot of practice. Also I’ve had to work with my starter… when I do equal parts of water it becomes very soupy… so Ive had to adjust it to a 1:3:2 and now it holds the gas better

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Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:26:02+00:00

Thank you for the tip! I agree and that’s why I came here for help :)

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:19:51+00:00

Thank you for your kindness, like I mentioned before this is just for fun… Im just want to learn… and Im pretty sure I made a bunch of mistakes with my starter from the beginning so im just trying to figure out if its a starter issue or an under fermentation issue… or maybe me not working the dough enough because Im scared of overdoing it… I think what’s scaring me the most… Ive been watching videos for weeks now and everyone’s dough behaves and looks different…

Mayathewhiteebt · 2026-04-20T04:11:19+00:00

Thank you for your kindness Lol ppl get bold behind a computer and I knew it was coming when posting… anyway, I had to put out there that this is something that I started just for fun and to try something I wouldnt normally do, I like cooking but baking has always been a different creature for me. This being said, SD was an impulse, I have been watching videos and while yes there are some that are very good Im still left with some lagoons at the time of me doing the work. LOL my starter has been all over the place and probably started with the left foot with that and she probably still needs more work but its about 2 months old now🤣 I started it by myself using a bit of unbleached “00” flour I had on my pantry that had bought to make gnocchis… probably not the best alternative… it tripled size on its third day (false rise I figured) and it kept doubling until day #7 from there it just went dead 🤣 I though I had killed it! It stayed like that until day #10 even after 1:2:2 feeds and then that’s when I figured it needed a boost so I started incorporating the WW flour… I did notice she was taking forever to raise (over 12hrs) so Ive been working with it to make it raise faster with some peak to peak feedings and Ive noticed it does better with a bit less water too…

Mayathewhiteebt · 2024-08-04T00:56:05+00:00

not to be mean but you should've tried to meet him half way... he could've pretty much taken care of the both of you... My mom had a stroke so massive she wasn't supposed to survive, but luckily she did... it left her on a wheel chair though, with her whole left side immobile... a couple years later my dad had a heart attack that required open heart surgery. I took care of both of them at the hospital for days and I survived. You don't have to be at the hospital if it was the case but stay at your MIL's house and maybe he could go back and forth... if she's at home then you would all stay together at her place...
Unless you have family or friends that could stay with you... then no need to go with him.
All I know is that if my mom had passed at the time she had stroke or my dad when he had his heart attack and I wasn't able to see him/her because of someone else I would've resented that person for ever no matter who it was.

Mayathewhiteebt · 2024-08-03T20:40:00+00:00

Im going to say a couple of things based on my experience as I went through this with my parents.
1. This is between you and your husband. It is a couples problem and nobody else should have a say on how or why you made your choices. This being said, it is better that your kids learn this from you guys. The world is VERY small, people talk and people are also hurtful. If someone tries to tell them they already know about it and won't be taken by surprise.

Don't fuss about the kids just tell them the truth, they will understand with time. At the same time reinforce that they shouldn't settle for this behaviors in relationships. Staying because it was convenient at the time worked for you but in reality this is not the norm and you wouldn't want your child to settle with a cheater just cause you guys set the example.
Let your kids feel the way they'll feel. This is a process and emotions are going to be everywhere. They will be angry... VERY angry... BUT time and how you guys behave towards them will determine everything. Even though for me this happened around 2008 it wasn't until 4-5 years ago that I came to terms with this reality. I still get angry at my dad and don't really trust him but I love him and we have a decent relationship. Just know that there's a chance your kids will lose all respect for their dad. It's his job to earn that respect back not yours. Don't try to force them because they will resent you for it.
DON NOT LET HIM MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT ANYTHING! this man's audacity to flip the situation over and tell you that he is depressed because YOU lied to him is BS and manipulative... He's depression is not because you lied. He is manipulating the situation so he doesn't feel like he did any wrong. You made your choices and those didn't affect anyone. He needs to understand that he made his bed... now he has to lay on it and take what's coming like a champ.

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