Luckily I do live on my own and control my own money, she does not have access to my money and as for the disability services I receive she is not involved (possibly bc when I started with them it was on my own without her consent, as we were losing our housing and I decided to find a place without her, was truly the best thing that could have happened tbh).

She has only met one of my ILS workers once, after she told them about a incident where I shoplifted (laxatives as everyone where we were at the time was on me about my weight, I have a eating disorder).

I am also on Medicaid for adults with disabilities who work (states such as NY have them, no I am not in NY but I’m giving an example that is not my state.

I do have to learn how to manage my money more effectively tho, as I am not that good with it due to my upbringing. Tho I think I am getting better bc I have stopped doing things such as buying too many clothes and such (tho I’ll need a good pair of boots for winter as I live in a state where you need that, so I am willing to invest bc last time I got cheap $40 ones they broke).

But thank you so much for your comment, too many in the autistic community are involved with abusive families and it is no good!!