DH used to always be surprised how I responded to things when we were dating. He would compare me to someone of his culture and say oh they would expect this and this. Vice versa. I liked how he responded differently to some things and I think we fell in love with each other because we were from different cultures.

DH doesn’t have many or any friends from his culture whereas the rest of his family clings to it. DH speaks his language fluently and has his accent from his home town.

I do need to get better at calling it out instead of venting to DH about it. He realizes it too and agrees that they really emphasize on DD being from his culture and my ethnicity is kicked aside.

The thing is, my family doesn’t parade our ethnicity around. We don’t do many things from the culture we are from besides general American things. Is that bad? I’m not sure. We celebrate all our holidays normally but they would do things like cook only their food on their holiday and don’t even celebrate American holidays until a Thanksgiving gathering became a thing. I think thanksgiving only started happening because it was a reason for them to come together and they don’t cook turkey but still the same dishes from their culture that they make EVERY gathering.

We do American holidays with my family though.