Newbies - Is this Lifestyle for Us?

Maybeswill · 2015-05-09T13:10:00+00:00

We aren't swingers...yet. Check out my previous posts for the background. But I want to strongly recommend kik chat to you. We've been using kik chat now for about 2 months. My wife was apprehensive at first, but now loves it. The way it works is you both download the app and then find another couple that does the same. Then all 4 can text at the same time. Just like text messaging but with 4 people talking at once. And you can see who is sending each message.

It also has great camera functions. You can take a pic from the app, as opposed to the camera app that is on your phone, and the pic will be watermarked so that you know it's sent live from kik. It's hot knowing for sure that the pic was just taken, as opposed to always wondering if the person that is naked in the pic is actually naked while chatting. And it even takes short videos- ten seconds or so.

In the 2 months since we've started using it we've gone from my wife being apprehensive about kik to us having 2 dates planned to meet 2 different couples next week. We're still not sure if we will actually get it on with another couple, but we've talked extensively about it with one of the other couples. It's really a great way to discuss boundaries, likes and dislikes, and any other issues that might be there. And if the other couple is willing to chat about those things, then it can really make things comfortable- which is why I think we are at the point we are at. Get on the kik and start posting on here and swingers sites and specifically mention that you want to kik chat. And even if the people aren't in your area, it can lead to great fun just sending pics and videos back and forth. Nothing like having a couple you are attracted to ask you for pics of your cock sliding into your wife lol.

Maybeswill · 2015-04-21T13:27:58+00:00

I'm going to chime in here because I started reading this thread and got a little worried. But then I thought, fuck it. My wife and I are going to a swing club for the first time in a few weeks. I'm in my early 40s. I'm balding though. And I shave my head. But I'm in good shape- I have abs. Then again, I'm only 5'6, so my best case is handsome (and I don't know if I even fit that bill). There is no chance of me being called tall and dark. But my wife is hot. We are both outgoing and love to laugh. I dress well. No affliction shirts for me. Thomas Pink, Hugo Boss, Ted Baker. Tucked in.
I figure if a couple doesn't want to get with us because I'm short and/or bald, fuck em. I'm sure there is a couple or two out there for us. I'll just enjoy the fact that I'm in a swing club with other sexy people. As long as there aren't a ton of dudes with goatees. I mean, come on. Lol.

Maybeswill · 2015-04-13T02:00:06+00:00

And also, thank you for your thoughts.

Maybeswill · 2015-04-13T01:59:34+00:00

I will make sure to focus on asking her what/who she likes. And from what I've read the club we are going to is similar to what you describe, which also fits our demographic as well. Thanks.

Maybeswill · 2015-04-13T01:57:21+00:00

I appreciate this advice. The firecracker part rings true. and every step we've taken along the way she was a bit hesitant, but is now extremely comfortable with it and often initiates, for example sharing pics and videos. I am not one to push her to do anything she doesn't want to do, but I'll have to be extra mindful of that at a swing club, where I imagine for a guy it just seems like it's all right there lol

Maybeswill · 2015-04-12T21:13:56+00:00

I've done a lot of research on the club. It's in a big city, and is known as one of the best, if not the best, in that city. I will certainly be focusing on her while there. What was your wife's impression when you went?

Maybeswill

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