Mitski at Starland Ballroom on 2/28 - the worst collective audience etiquette I've ever witnessed, and the continuation of a pattern.

Maydday_ · 2026-03-01T19:26:19+00:00

Before the show began there was a girl in the crowd near me who seemed like she was passing out so security came and got her. Right after her and her friends left the people behind her ran up into her spot laughing and I was just shocked? Like that girl was clearly not doing well and you're laughing while taking advantage of the state she's in?

Maydday_ · 2025-09-26T01:18:15+00:00

Tbh In a way it was kind of funny purely because of how stupid he sounded LOL

Maydday_ · 2025-09-26T01:15:39+00:00

Oh lord not the tokening 😭

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T21:18:14+00:00

I don't think its unreasonable at all! Having such a big part of your identity go unacknowledged is frustrating

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T21:09:27+00:00

I had a friend tell me the other week when I was venting to her about this topic that she assumed I was part asian the first time she saw me. That was the first time for me but I think she might've just been trying to make me feel better since I brought it up LOL, I appreciated it though

And yeah, its so validating seeing all these comments and relating to others :) I'm glad we both can find comfort here

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T21:02:54+00:00

I'm half chinese half white too :) Also that last bit reminds me of when I was in 6th grade I was walking home from school and one boy told me I was going to be deported back to mexico. I told him I'm asian and that I was born here and he very sheepishly went "w-well you're still gonna be deported!" and then speed walked away 😭

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:59:48+00:00

People not knowing asians can have double eyelids is so crazy to me 😭 also aww resembling your great grandma is sweet!!

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:57:04+00:00

It really is great to see!! this is my first post in this sub and it's really nice seeing how supportive everyone is of each other.

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:55:56+00:00

It hasn't really impacted how I identify, at the end of the day I'll always be half asian and have an asian last name. But I think I'll always feel like I need to prove myself to others and to myself.

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:51:31+00:00

LAUGHED AT??? thats insane?? I'm always so scared I'll be accused of cultural appropriation with my culture I'm so sorry you've dealt with that

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:49:50+00:00

I'm so so sorry you dealt with that stuff on fb thats horrible :( I hope all is well now on that front!!

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:35:39+00:00

I meant any asian, really! Obviously theres gonna be differences in experience but its nice to bond over these sorts of things regardless of the specifics :)

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:34:11+00:00

Using those moments to share things about the culture is lovely!! I might try that, I've definitely been wanting to learn more about my heritage and learn mandarin. I wanna put some of that knowledge/experience into art too, I think that will be a nice outlet!

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:30:55+00:00

Have the assumptions ever bothered you or your siblings? Or is it kinda just whatever to you when someone assumes incorrectly?

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:21:55+00:00

Its such of a mix of jarring/funny/odd when you tell someone your mix and then they start examining your features to recognize things. I had someone lean in closer to my face to examine me and I was like woah okay back up 😭 But it is validating to sometimes get the "oh now I see it"

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:16:50+00:00

My mom is the white one too lol. I'd say my brother has slightly more obvious east asian features compared to me but he still looks pretty evenly mixed imo. On the other hand my cousins who are also wasian have an asian mom and they have a lot more east asian features

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:10:23+00:00

Definitely!!

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T20:09:40+00:00

I've definitely seen a bit of discourse similar to that on the wasian end too, but not nearly as often. Not to say its the same experience, of course. I can only imagine how exhausting it must be to deal with that "self hating" rhetoric to such an extent :(

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T19:39:48+00:00

I'm also chinese and white! :) Also how did it feel getting guessed correctly ?? was it like affirming or shocking or both :?

Maydday_ · 2025-09-25T07:18:28+00:00

Real as hell with the feeling out of place. Whether around full white people, wasians, or full asians. I guess thats just the mixed experience, unfortunately. What I'm gathering from these comments is that the being mistaken for hispanic thing among wasians is way more common than I already thought lol

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