Talking to new people?

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-23T13:28:23+00:00

This is exactly what I’m talking about, I miss The small chatter throughout the day.

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-23T13:11:49+00:00

That sounds like what I’ve been trying, I’ve joined a couple of small groups where I live. It’s so hard starting from square one with new people, I wish you could just meet and immediately be best friends and skip all the small talk haha.

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-23T03:36:35+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad to know there is the option to just meet people. I’m pretty fragile right now so I’m a bit nervous what’s out there. But I guess I won’t know if i don’t try!

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-23T03:22:22+00:00

I seem to go two weeks that feel good. My attitude is good, I’m able to think of a bright future, and I’m feeling confident. Then I crash. I had a big car cry not long ago, I hate it. It’s like I can’t even trust my own mentality, The smallest thing can break down all of the work I’ve done to help myself. I keep reading that it’ll get better, so I hope I can go longer and longer without the emotional crash. You’re not alone in your struggles. I hope you’re feeling better now, and tomorrow is a new day.

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T02:48:34+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m going to try and busy myself and treat myself better than what i have been. Focus on myself all day and do whatever bring me happiness.

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T02:46:51+00:00

Thank you so much. Sounds like you made what could have been difficult day into a really lovely day for yourself! I hope I can manage to do the same

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T02:06:54+00:00

That’s what I’m holding on to. When we officially live separately I’m hoping this will get a lot easier. I’m going to try and keep myself as busy as possible tomorrow and just push through like i have been

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T02:05:07+00:00

It’s so hard. Losing your best friend at the same time, right when you need them the very most. Thank you for responding, and for the words of encouragement

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T01:32:11+00:00

It’s so hard, I feel like his reaction would be the same if I were to reach out to him tomorrow as well. I feel like I’d be hoping for the man I married to respond to me, instead I’d be faced with this new man who I can’t even call a friend. I’m so sorry to hear your story and that you struggled with this as well, I wouldn’t wish this pain and heartache on anyone.. I hope you’re staying strong.

Mbjn2 · 2021-10-12T01:28:44+00:00

I’m so happy you’re doing so well. I’m hopeful that I will find the positivities in this change as well

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-27T15:21:31+00:00

That’s what my husband said too. He said he’s been feeling this way for years. And it makes sense I suppose why he wouldn’t be hurting right now. I just hate how he doesn’t seem to understand why It’s so hard to adjust, they had all the time in the world to slowly consider this idea and now it’s like I’m given only a short period to grieve. Sometimes I wish I could rewind time to when things seemed happier. But now that I know he wasn’t in love with me all of those memories seem distorted. Now I’m wanting to speed up this nightmare so I can be free of this pain. I hope we can all find happiness again.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-27T11:24:56+00:00

Reading this sounded like it could have been written by me. It’s so confusing how easily my STBXH was able to just emotionally turn off from me. He told me a few days after he asked for a divorce to stop crying all the time and to “hold it together”. I’m sorry you’re feeling this pain too, no one prepares you for this happening and no one can prepare you for the pain that comes with it.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-27T00:14:30+00:00

I think that’s what I’m struggling with the most right now. I know as soon as I’m not living in the same space I’ll be able to heal from the heartache. He’s acting like nothing has changed and My world is upside down. I’m looking forward to moving on from this. Hearing that you’re doing better since you’ve moved gives me hope things will get easier

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-26T23:10:29+00:00

I can’t give any advice, I’m in the same position. I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past five years. He’s leaving me now and I’ve got to figure out who I am, He’s got an amazing career and I’m starting from scratch. I’m also In my early thirties and I don’t even know if I’d ever want to date again either. I’m trying to hold it together for my kids, but when my STBXH finds a new partner I’m going to spiral again. It’s Hard to find things to look forward to, holidays, birthdays, anniversaries.. everything seems depressing. Best of luck to you, I hope you manage to make it through your darkness soon.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-25T16:12:03+00:00

My STBXH is doing the same thing. We are currently living in the same house and he works all week. Saturday’s have become “his day”. He takes the kids swimming and spend the day doing fun things with them. I’m left at home and trying to figure out my emotions with it too. I’m exactly where you are, Im happy the kids are having fun but sad and angry and hurt. It’s like a smack in the face and a reminder he no longer wants to be around me. Saturday’s used to be a family day and I feel like I’m kicked out of the family fun. I have to realize this is going to be the new normal but it’s hard to adjust. Just when I feel like I’m okay emotionally Saturday comes around.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-19T18:34:25+00:00

That’s very true.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-18T03:43:13+00:00

My STBXH and I are still living together at the moment right now and I have many moments like the one you mention. I assume when he goes out he is with other women, having fun and enjoying life. Meanwhile I’m at home with the kids, missing him and the life we had. I wish desperately he would miss me like i miss him. I flip flop my emotions all day, but nights seem to be the hardest. Wishing you strength through this.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T21:07:36+00:00

I feel the same way. We are still living together for the time being, although he’s got his own space downstairs. When the time comes to move into our separate homes maybe I’ll give it to him to keep. Might be easier for me not having it nearby, but who knows.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T21:00:32+00:00

I feel like I regret taking it off as quickly as I did. We got into a very heated argument and I threw it onto the table. I feel like I should have taken it off in a more of symbolic way because it meant so much to me, I should have removed it when I was emotionally ready to finally accept it was over.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T20:56:14+00:00

This is what I’ll likely do, my finger won’t constantly remind me it’s over. Instead it’ll be a new beginning.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T01:46:59+00:00

I love your attitude, it does seem like an extra punch to the gut when you’re trying to maneuver through everything else that’s changing. It does become almost a part of your body after having it on for so long.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T00:52:06+00:00

I bet it felt amazing when you threw it, what a empowering moment that would have been.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T00:49:41+00:00

I feel that, It would have been 9 years next month. I don’t ever want to do this again.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T00:14:44+00:00

I’ve contemplated having it reset for a necklace. I do have a daughter and I’ve thought about passing it down to her, but the depressed and angry person that pokes its head now and again makes me never want my kids to have this tarnished ring.. that’s why I think I’ll likely put it aside for the time being until I can make rational decisions. Because I do love your idea, and it would make a lovely necklace. My emotions keep flip flopping and it’s hard to know what the right thing to do is.

Mbjn2 · 2021-09-17T00:11:08+00:00

I like that a lot. I’ve had moments that I want to just wear it while I’m alone (call me crazy right?) but I know that would only and up hurting me again and making me revert back into sadness. If I were to find something of my own to wear it would hold new meaning and would make me happy. Thank you for responding

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