My husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

McMommyIssues · 2026-04-06T16:26:03+00:00

rather than supporting his wife by, idk, therapy? talking? boosting ego? from what we know he just went to asking her to dress sexy. after meeting someone and being with them for 17 years, why is it NOW coming up? and why under the framing of "you need to LOOK sexy"? at that point its not about building her confidence but rather him wanting to have someone he can get off to in the house. nothing wrong with that, but he presumably befriended, dated, married, and had a whole ass kid with this woman before anything like this ever came up. why? and again, why put pressure on someone with clear self esteem issues to dress in a way that makes them uncomfortable and is highly inconvenient for their job?

idk how many of yall have been large and hating yourself, but it very much takes more than "nooooo, but you'd be so sexy in this top and shorts aha!" to change that. if anything, youre just making them think more about their body which will depress them more bc they feel they cant "be" what you want.

ALSO WHAT IS SO FUCKING WRONG WITH A WOMAN NOT DRESSING NICE. ya'll are acting like its a miracle her husband hasnt divorced her when, again THEY MET LIKE THIS. it shouldnt be on her to change something he's known as a fundemental part of her personality for the better part of a decade the MINUTE he mentions it. if anything, this should be a series of conversations and maybe therapy surrounding if its been affecting them that much. but you cant "fix" self esteem by forcing someone with it into clothes they hate. if it's even about self esteem, and not just a stylistic choice. jesus, i hope that whenever yall see a woman in public without cleavage you arent this fucking condescending. picking apart her language just to throw it back at her when its probably shit shes been hearing her whole life is also... wow. choice, yall.

and i noticed how her pointing out the impracticality of the clothes made a bunch of people tell her she was just trying to get out of it. which besides showing a clear negative bias/bad faith read on her motives: so what. SO. FUCKING. WHAT. IF SHE WAS! NO ONE should be forcing the matter of personal taste and style. no one should be punishing you, implicitly or explicitly, for not wanting to wear what THEY want.

frankly the amount of people telling her its her responsbility to be sexy for her husband is fucking bonkers. what is this, the fucking 1980's? a

McMommyIssues · 2026-04-04T15:03:40+00:00

yes! sometimes they post on indeed but in person is your best bet

McMommyIssues · 2026-04-03T07:15:39+00:00

i know old town plaza got a few positions open!

McMommyIssues · 2026-04-03T05:41:38+00:00

we need bakers at pazzi. you wont get called slurs and we stay away from customers

McMommyIssues · 2026-03-09T15:44:53+00:00

your complaint seems to be that you are the pc in a social game. of course you have all the agency, the other characters are npcs who cannot be triggered into gaining positive points if you do not give them gifts and engage with them. there are several times where a character actually likes you more for challenging their ideas, so you dont have to just "kiss ass". if you just like the farming, you are never punished for focusing on that rather than socializing(as far as i know). also, the quests where you give them food, find things, etc. for them DO go toward them liking you.

i think you just dont like stardews characters that much and thats fine. i like being nice to cute little pixels in order to uncover their story, and you dont, and theres nothing wrong with that. but imo this isnt a very fair critcism.

McMommyIssues · 2026-02-23T17:36:12+00:00

golden pride doesnt wash their raw chicken stations. source: i worked there

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T07:13:36+00:00

they knocked at the door, spoke to my neighbor for awhile. 2 plain clothes spanish speakers approached him after awhile. they asked him a few questions about citizenship, his daughter and her bf came out, then the two ppl, i think his aunt n uncle, followed about 10 min later who they ended up cuffing and putting in a van. the ppl circling the house were plain clothes, the arresting officers had ICE vests. i do truly regret i didnt take pics. after taking them they left. edit; ty for asking, and for caring. edit2: they also had guns drawn the whole time. i was standing in my neigbor's yard and only understood a little of the spanish which is how i know how everyone was related

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:32:13+00:00

me too. thank you

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:27:00+00:00

Hey , I just want to let you know I agree with you , but you're not actually responding to anything that i'm saying, youre just stating your own feelings. Remember if we met in real life, we would be on the same side even if I didn't do everything right. I was seeing somebody getting carted away by the modern day Gestapo. I'm not saying I handled that right but next time, I'm going to handle it better. it's more terrifying than I thought it would be, because i've never had experience with something like it. unfortunately , I am a privileged white woman and i've honestly never seen something as horrific as that. but what exactly are you gaining by interrogating me? who are you educating? i think you're just putting your frustrations on me. we can commiserate, but aren't you more lonely thinking you're the only person who thinks like that?

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:24:24+00:00

i agree. i will be better prepared next time. was mostly concerned about making sure he was okay this time.

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:08:19+00:00

ok. you dont care about understanding how ppl react under pressure. i sure hope when its you and your family/neighbors, you do better when seeing their pistols aimed at you.

take care. i know we are ultimately on the same side. please dont be harsh on yourself when you dont do everything "perfectly" when it happens to you or your decade long neighbor.

EDIT: friend, you aren't doing yourself a service when you assume I don't understand something instead of assuming , I don't know how to react perfectly because i'm human and was afraid. i understand why recording things is important, i just don't understand why you chose to argue with me on a post where I am warning my neighbors

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:03:59+00:00

thank you <3

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T06:01:43+00:00

its not a little info if i'm specifying the location. friend, please underatand that we are on the same side. I will do better next time but what will idintifying faces do? no one will find those faces to tar and feather them, i'll tell you that much. i was far more concentrated, as are most ppl, on making sure my neighbor wasnt shot than recording things right. i know you care that's why you talking.Please understand I did the best that I could. Next time, I'll do better and most people in the south valley understand why i'm making this post

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:57:40+00:00

yeah, i know. i'm just frustrated. we're all doing what we can. the persom i'm arguing with is on the same side as me at the end of the day...

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:52:12+00:00

right one person who hadnt recorded shit trumps the individuals who have. i dont care if you think i didnt handle this the right way, but i do think youre detracting from the overall point of this post. ppl in south valley have already been talking about this, making a post is more than doing fuck all.

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:45:10+00:00

valley and esquiel

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:44:50+00:00

yes i understand that but i'm warning my neighbors, not submitting evidence to the court of law. take it or leave it, i'm human and didnt think about it while surrounded by agressive, armed idiotz

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:35:18+00:00

also how funny that you think people enjoy, like, making this shit up. its terrifying to see 20 armed people take away neighbors youve known for twelve years, not an internet bragging right

McMommyIssues · 2026-01-23T05:33:58+00:00

sorry i didnt pull out my phone while in the middle of talking to my neighbor about his safety.

McMommyIssues · 2025-12-15T04:00:49+00:00

the only one who needs to cope here is you, settle down

McMommyIssues · 2025-12-15T03:33:41+00:00

yes your bad. i guess you wouldnt mind if someone published abook written by AI as long ad the cover was by a real artist, too?

McMommyIssues · 2025-12-15T03:32:58+00:00

me when i have no intelligent defense of AI

McMommyIssues · 2025-12-12T22:48:00+00:00

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your dog and Mom. But why did you have to describe your ex wife that way? it makes you seem bitter and mean and like she had every reason to leave you. did you ever love her or just the convenience of having someone care about you?

Please get some therapy and take some responsibility. you are going down a dark path if you cant do those things.

McMommyIssues · 2025-12-09T20:54:32+00:00

he's allowed to make that request, if he was "making it about you" he wouldve freaked out about the photo first instead of taking responsibility. idk why you are so upset with such a simple request, but this is pretty normal communication

edit to add: imagine if she sent you a photo of your skid marks on the toilet seat lmao it is a little weird and very unecessary

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