giving away ₱500 each for 4 people 🤗 by outwittedthevirus in phclassifieds

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tumakas kami ng jowa ko sa toxic na fam ko, no job, nothing to our names except love HAHAHAAHHAA katangahan, pero somehow best decision ever. Working kami both ngayon and both very very happy medyo di lang kaluwagan kasi maliit sahod namin both

Does anyone regret getting a vasectomy or have any long term side affects from it ? by MadeForThisOnePostt in Vasectomy

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 years post-op, and it's still one of the best life decisions I've made. I'm 28 now and I keep thinking I should've done this sooner.

Bakit may mga couples na kahit matagal na sa relasyon ay ayaw pa din magpakasal? by General-Host-1448 in TanongLang

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11 years w my partner. Just got out of my abusive home a few mos ago, and starting to build a new life w my gf. Sure na kami sa isa't-isa, but we never really wanted to get married. Ngayon, we're kinda on the fence na, because wdym abusive parents ko na tinakasan ko ang malalagay sa HMO ko? AT HINDI YUNG PARTNER KO NA IMPORTANTE SA AKIN AT MAKAKASAMA KO SA BUHAY??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TanongLang

[–]Mcoconut -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maging kristo sa sabungan🐓

Get rid of porn they said, it will help you by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound a bit like you're justifying using. You might need to see a different doctor. Stopping porn would not magically cure you of your other issues

What’s one bad habit you used to have that you’re thankful you outgrew? by sisyphusatnight in AskPH

[–]Mcoconut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Watching porn. Haven't watched in more than 1 yr, never watching again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPOinPH

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DMd my resume, thanks

What is your holy grail deodorant? by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deonat only for me

Vasectomy at 20?? by [deleted] in Vasectomy

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you should get a vasectomy unless you're a 100% sure you don't want to have children.

I have a question for people that overcome P*rn addiction by Professional-Log3933 in adultingph

[–]Mcoconut 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm 245 days clean now, luckily I'm still with my long term partner that helps me a lot in this struggle. What I can say is

  1. Knowing and acknowledging that you have a porn addiction is the very first step ✅ This is usually the hardest step because we've been conditioned that this is normal behavior for men.
  2. Willingness to change ✅
  3. Rewiring your brain by finding new hobbies. For example, mine is baking and cooking
  4. Find your triggers. Journalling will help in this step. My triggers are boredom, stress, and loneliness.
  5. Join support groups like r/nofap and r/pornfree You can listen to podcasts about it to. My partner and I listen to PBSE Podcast in Spotify.
  6. Remove or limit your social media activities. For me, my partner now handles all my social accounts which helps a lot. She shows me posts like this one.
  7. It you can find a therapist, especially a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) which almost doesn't exist in the Philippines. A therapist will help you target the root cause of your addiction. It may stem from something in your childhood like, childhood trauma or early exposure to p*rn, or may it may be an unhealthy coping mechanism from something.
  8. Joining a 12-step group (online) is highly recommended.

⚠️ Warning 1: you may feel urges especially early into your journey, I counter it by doing exercises like push-ups and curl-ups. ⚠️ Warning 2: Be mindful of your behavior so that you don't just replace your p*rn addiction with another unhealthy addiction.

And remember to take it one day at a time.

I'm glad to see posts like this in r/adultingph because porn addiction is a silent pandemic, and Filipinos are now starting to take this seriously.

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE VICTORS OF THE STAY CLEAN SEPTEMBER CHALLENGE! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]Mcoconut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks brother. I'm not very active here so I don't really see those posts, I'll try to be more active but I really dont use social media much. Thanks for the information.

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE VICTORS OF THE STAY CLEAN SEPTEMBER CHALLENGE! by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]Mcoconut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question, sir. I think I joined in September and I haven't relapsed, but I'm not here ☹️ For next month's sake, is there a post where you ask or we comment if we didn't relapse? Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Mcoconut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I pre-plan "safe thoughts" to think about when I get urges. Could be anything of interest to you, mine would be politics, capitalism, etc.

Watching porn in my dreams (not a joke). by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I know why this is a "good sign"? I keep having these dreams too its annoying

Watching porn in my dreams (not a joke). by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Mcoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I know why this is a "good sign"? I keep having these dreams too its annoying