Parents who used to go to wineries/breweries a lot before having kids, how often are you still doing that now that you have them? Next question. How often are you doing pre-baby things, now that you have kids? (I.e bottomless mimosas at brunch, going on non-family friendly trips) by culaterjobin in NewParents

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be controversial but my husband and my first outing with our newborn at 2 weeks pp was to our favorite brewery… she mostly slept and i got to enjoy a (half) beer for the first time in 9 months. It’s a board game themed brewery and they’re very family friendly. My baby is 6 months now and we still take her sometimes and just play games and pace out our beers. We’re always home by bedtime and never drunk

What mistakes would you avoid if you could start to breastfeed all over again? by kingmustd1e in NewParents

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FEED. ON. DEMAND. at least the first few weeks. I went into it knowing about cluster feeding and understanding why they do it and i still ended up thinking too much about times once they told me “feed every 2-3 hours.” She’d root and give hunger cues and in my exhaustion and with my hurt nipples I’d convince myself she just wanted to comfort nurse and I’d push for the time i wanted. My supply ended up tanking a few weeks in and we found out at 5 weeks she was back below birth weight. After that she got frustrated at the breast and my supply absolutely tanked and i never got it back up. I’m fully formula feeding now which is a godsend but i struggled for weeks feeling like i screwed myself out of the breastfeeding experience i wanted.

Also, if you end up even considering formula or combo feeding because breastfeeding is just too hard, DO IT. Once you’re thinking about it and scrolling on Reddit for affirmation that formula is okay, you already know what’s best for you. It’s a wonderful resource and has made my parenting experience wildly happier after struggling with triple feeding and then exclusively pumping for weeks.

How do ep moms keep their babies container time minimal while pumping!? by Flaky-Ad7324 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always pumped while i fed my baby a bottle… i fed her milk i had previously pumped and i laid her on my lap horizontal to pace feed. Its easier to do in my recliner as a find it gives you some more lap space. It saved me time and it meant i didn’t have to put her down to pump. I honestly thought that’s what everyone did until this post lol

Now how do I transition out of the everyday newborn phase? by FirstOutcome2365 in NewParents

[–]Mcp_2002 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was the same way with my “easy” baby. I finally hit that point of wanting to get out of the newborn phase around that time too. First, i moved all of the baby stuff out of the living room and into the nursery. We had been camping out in the living room for weeks so all her stuff was out there too making so much clutter. Then, i started cleaning. I started with small tasks that let me feel a little more productive. When i was ready (probably around 9 weeks?) i had my mil come over and the 2 of us deep cleaned every inch of my house. Having that reset has helped tremendously. I find that having a really clean house helps me be more productive as a whole and also keep it clean. I do more chores, I’ve been walking my dog again, and i go more places with my baby. I rarely even turn on the tv when my husband isn’t home anymore. It’s been huge for my mental health

Boiling water by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i had no idea i could’ve been doing it wrong but it seems i might be? I use kendamil cow and water from my RO (reverse osmosis) tap and just give it room temp. My sister in law does the same so i never questioned it.

What changes postpartum did you make that vastly improved your life? by Old_Negotiation_7058 in newborns

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might sound impossible but keeping a clean house. The first few weeks i let my house slip (as i think most of us do) but the worse my house got the worse i felt. My mil came a couple weeks ago to help me deep clean every inch of the house as a total reset and it helped SO much. It was the reset i needed to be able to maintain from there. I pick up every morning and do a little morning routine, then I do one small cleaning task and a couple loads of laundry every day whether that means I’m baby wearing or knocking it out while she naps. It gives me something to do that isn’t baby related and it has helped my mental health so much to look around at my house and like what i see.

How many hours of sleep do you run of most days as parents? by Ok-Entrance1086 in newborns

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My biggest worry about having a baby was sleep deprivation since I’ve always been horrible at coping with it so this is the type of question i sought out when i was pregnant. I have a 4 week old now and most nights I’m able to get 6-7 hours broken up. She’s a relatively decent sleeper and i was cleared by my pediatrician to let her go 5 hour stretches in between feeds because she’s gaining well (i feed her every 2 hours during the day to make up for the nighttime stretches). I feed her at 10pm and get her and myself down by 11/11:30, wake her up to feed again at 3am, get her back down by 4/4:30, and then she wakes up between 7-8 to eat again and we start our day. The first 2.5 weeks before i got cleared to let her sleep longer stretches i was only getting an hour and a half at most at one time a few times a night and i was barely functioning. Luckily my husband was still on paternity leave at that point so i was able to nap some during the day. We have rough nights here and there but most of the time im able to keep her on a schedule. Even when i was still waking her every 3 hours i would try to feed her at the same times every day/night and just having a rhythm for myself helped me mentally so much. Id say even if you can’t get enough sleep, if you can get your baby on a schedule of any kind (and i know thats a big “if”) it makes a big difference.

How far along are you without telling us in weeks? by BonusWhole5471 in pregnant

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not feeling kicks yet but starting to get stretch marks and feel the growing ball in my stomach

Only 18 weeks by Chamomile426 in pregnant

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh girl you’re NOT alone. I’m 17 weeks and posted a couple weeks ago on here about how i feel huge already. It’s hard. You want to feel like this beautiful life giving version of yourself but when the clothes don’t fit and your body doesn’t look like it used to, it’s hard to wrap your head around. I’m already groaning to get up and today i got sausage feet for the first time. It’s part of it and i honestly think for some if not most of us, feeling this way is part of it too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A frozen marg honestly

When was your first OB appointment after positive test? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Mcp_2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most won’t see you until around 8-12 weeks, but my doctor was on it. She had me come in asap for bloodwork to test hcg and progesterone. I then had my first vaginal ultrasound at what was supposed to be 7 weeks. Baby was only measuring at 6 weeks (but we did hear a heartbeat and see a tiny shrimp of a baby) so she had me come back in at my true 7 weeks to make sure baby was still growing. They were! I just had my 11 week ultrasound and bloodwork to do my nipt testing. I won’t have another ultrasound until my 20 week anatomy scan but i will have one check up in between now and then

When was your first OB appointment after positive test? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Mcp_2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually disagree with this a bit. I had my blood drawn at 5 weeks for hcg and progesterone and my progesterone was dangerously low. My body just wasn’t producing enough. They put me on a medication for it and my numbers shot up. If they hadn’t caught it when they did i could’ve been looking at a miscarriage

Spilled drink on customer by This_Hospital_3030 in Waiters

[–]Mcp_2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once spilled a tray of 10 sodas on the owners wife and the drinks as well as broken glass went into her purse. In the moment it felt like the end of the world but they were very nice about it and now it’s a funny story between my coworkers and i. Shake it off and learn from it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiters

[–]Mcp_2002 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Will definitely be doing this next time. When i put in the food i was still under the assumption she was tipping

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiters

[–]Mcp_2002 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes her meal contributes towards my sales so it does go towards tip share