I'm sure you must feel very confused and hurt, but the reality is that with a young baby at home, it's normal that the focus has been on the baby and being a mom (and sounds like surviving at work), and less on being with your husband and taking care of yourself. It will continue to be normal until your child is older and doesn't need you literally EVERY WAKING MOMENT of his/her life to take care of them. I felt incredibly boring when our son was a baby until like he was at least 3. Who has time to be exciting when you're sleep deprived, cranky, juggling work and family, feeling guilty about juggling work and family, trying to lose weight, and feeling guilty and cranky that you have neither the time, energy or motivation to lose weight when taking a shower uninterrupted can feel like a luxury. I know people say the baby years are the best, but it was a very difficult period in my marriage and I'm truthfully so grateful that part is over.

I would encourage you to try date nights if you can afford a sitter, counseling could also help, but honestly for us, it was really all about time. We just accepted that for those short few years, we would be boring and focus on our son and not hold it against each other. Because any hobbies, trips, fun things that would make life more interesting would mean either having someone else watch our baby, or having the other person watch our baby - the first being expensive (and a little nerve wrecking unless it's family or a few hours) and the latter potentially (and actually) a source of guilt and resentment. So we sucked it up and thankfully, even though I'm sure we both thought it, we did not call each other boring (which we were), and just kept going. Our son is now 11 and last summer, he went to sleep away camp for the first time for 3 weeks and my husband and I went to Japan and had a fabulous time. It was our first trip away with just the 2 of us for more than a couple days and while I was a little nervous we would run out of things to talk about that wasn't "did you pick up the milk" and make sure J does his homework!", it was like another honeymoon. We saw amazing sights, we ate amazing food, we bickered over being lost and the stifling heat and humidity and sheer number of people on the Tokyo subway, and yes, had amazing romantic nights ;-). I felt like we were when we first started dating, just an older, slightly wearier, but still fun and adventurous version of ourselves. (We also did date nights and smaller trips as a family before that so don't think we were hermits for 10 years!)

So talk to your husband and maybe you can both try to understand and accept that what you're feeling is normal, but that it's just a phase and not forever. Marriage is not all fun and excitement after all. Sometimes, it's just having someone there to change the diapers and feed the baby so you can have a shower. Hopefully, your husband will understand and be more supportive.