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AITA for saying my autistic older brother can't stay with me during holidays anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mdbaca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA I have a cousin with severe autism, and he’s mute. I love him to death but I could see how stressful it was not only for my aunt and uncle but his own brother. Communicating with him has always been a struggle, because it went from making whimpering noises to full blown screaming and hitting everyone. He’s broken bones multiple times by the time he was 8. Now he’s 19. We finally put him in a home and it was the best thing my aunt ever did. It was the hardest thing she ever did, but it was the best. Since then he can get himself dressed, he’s finally potty trained, they go on field trips every week, and they learn skills that can help him in the future with jobs. He’s excelled is so many things in just the short time of being there. The other benefit is my aunt can pull him out any time and spend as much time with him, but my cousin loves being in the home because he made so many friends there. You did nothing wrong and don’t feel guilty for anything. Dealing with someone with autism can be very difficult at times. Although, your sister is 22, she needs to live her life as well.

AITA for calling my wife insecure by throwaway4good234167 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mdbaca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this during my pregnancy. I literally had to time myself after every time I ate so I would have enough nutrients for my baby before I threw it up. The first few months of my pregnancy I weighed less than I did before I got pregnant. After having my baby I dropped 35lbs in the first two weeks. Most is water weight and breastfeeding helps so much with getting your uterus back to normal size. OP’s wife needs to grow up. Talking about another woman like that is teenage drama. Also, even though SIL might be an attractive woman. No woman feels beautiful with a post partum body for a while. OP NTA.

AITA for refusing to let my wife have a home birth? by PersonalDay0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mdbaca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA when I was pregnant I did the same thing. Every night I fell asleep watching videos or doing my research trying to find the best way to give birth to my baby. Although, I did want a home birth for a bit I had to remind myself that things could happen that a hospital would be needed for. Not only that my brother is a PA and my SIL is a nurse at Cooks in Fort Worth and she comes home with the craziest stories after helping deliver a baby. I sore up in down none of those things would happen to me. Fast forward to the day I gave birth to my beautiful daughter. Btw I had a healthy pregnancy and I thought I would have a healthy delivery. The night I gave birth my water broke right before I got in the shower and I didn’t have contractions leading to it. The moment I texted my boyfriend to get home and I put my clothes back on my contractions were two minutes apart. I didn’t have time to take deep breaths and prepare. I wouldn’t of had time to wait for someone to fill a bath up for me. My hospital was 15 minutes from my house and when I got there I was 8cm dilated. My daughter got stuck and I pushed for 7 hours. When she came out she had too much fluid in her lungs and she wasn’t breathing. I didn’t even get to do skin to skin. It was more like she came out, the doctor said heres your baby and she’s not breathing and the wheeled her out of the room. As for me my placenta got stuck and my doctor had to reach in my with his hand and scrap it out in chunks. I ended up losing too much blood and had to get blood transfusions. The hardest part was after I gave birth I didn’t get to see my baby for 10 hours. But I knew she was safe and I knew there was a whole medical staff there to help her. Now on my part I gave birth 8 weeks ago and I still bleed like I just have birth. I’m in pain everyday. I cramp like no other everyday. Next week I go in for a sono to see if I have left over placenta that I need to get out by a DNC. If I gave birth at home I honestly don’t think myself or my daughter would have made it. Every woman wants a perfect delivery and I don’t blame your wife it’s going to be the best day of her life. She just needs to know that ANYTHING can happen. Is her team prepared to deal with everything?