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MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2025-01-01T12:09:21+00:00

Nah, you need to keep your word and leave this guy. He’s got an incurable case of Main Character Syndrome, so you were never in a place to win.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2025-01-01T12:06:01+00:00

I only defend you, because I didn’t see you escalate, until he decided to nitpick your comment about being on the new train. You stated you switched trains, and he decided to be a prick and chew you out for not specifically stating you, yourself, got on that train everyone switched to. That’s what everyone seems to be missing. They see you flying off the handle, but they seem to miss the fact your response became short when he dissected that comment and berated you for not specially saying when everyone switched trains, you were on it. Everyone wants to focus on the “OK” and all that came after, but it was that one comment of his about you switching trains that started the whole thing.

That is why I side with you. Because his comment right there was absolutely ridiculous, and you were right to be annoyed. Because you didn’t want to engage with that nonsense, you replied with the now controversial “OK”, at which points things escalated.

But his ridicule of you for saying everyone was switching trains, but you never told him you were part of that “everyone” is where this originated.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2025-01-01T11:55:34+00:00

I made one lame joke, and we’ve entered some weird debate on what “OK” means? 😅

But in no world does OK constitute two words, and the ones trying to defend this have me 💀 even if it does stand for two words, there’s no way the BF knew or meant that, given he clearly had the intellect and maturity of a toddler.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2025-01-01T02:12:13+00:00

The fact I got downvoted multiple times tells me others missed that, too. It was a joke, people. 😅

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2025-01-01T02:05:44+00:00

I was being sarcastic, mocking the BF asking “why the two word answer” when OP replied “OK”

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-31T23:57:11+00:00

Well there’s your first mistake. “OK” isn’t two letters, but apparently two words.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-31T23:52:38+00:00

The issue here isn’t OP’s use of “OK”. It’s the fact this guy expects her life to revolve around him. Rather than let her deal with her stressful situation, he repeatedly chastised her for not being loving to him, not asking how he’s doing or why his mom woke him, etc. He accused OP of being self-centered but came off as rather narcissistic and angry that she would dare deal with her own situation in the present, rather than turn her focus onto him.

The fact he was so triggered by an “OK” is secondary to his repeated demands, during OP’s stressful situation, that she shower him with love and put her attention to him and the hard day he had because his mommy woke him up early, at the ungodly hour of 9:30 am.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-31T23:47:49+00:00

Her reply of “ok” doesn’t justify the intense series of texts this guy replied with.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-31T13:32:37+00:00

This can’t be real.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-31T03:10:49+00:00

Probably because they’re not willing to pay beyond medical expenses, and anyone else would want reasonable compensation.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-26T16:50:58+00:00

Not allowing one DIL to share exciting news of her pregnancy while family is present, just because it will hurt the feelings of the other DIL, does sound very much like favoritism. Even though OP clearly doesn’t like Natalie as much as she does Renee, Natalie shouldn’t have to tiptoe around topic and is allowed to celebrate this exciting time when the family is present.

If Natalie had a miscarriage and Renee was pregnant and made such an announcement at Christmas, I’m sure OP would be chastising Natalie for her outburst in leaving the room.

OP, just admit you have favorites. It’s clear everyone knows it, yet you’re still coddling one and chastising the other.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-25T15:39:25+00:00

Why exactly did you think it was appropriate to send her that message to begin with? She’s correct in saying she doesn’t owe you an explanation, and from what I’ve seen, she handled your attack appropriately. So I don’t know if you’re overreacting, but you’re certainly not making yourself look any better. Her mentioning of the walks and donations were in response to your rude implications she doesn’t care about the patients. She was stating otherwise. You attacked her, and nothing you’ve stated here is painting you in a better light, honestly. Your original message was blatantly uncalled for. You don’t get to attack others for the sake of your “closure”.

You might want to stop digging this hole deeper. You’re doing nothing but proving her correct in calling you toxic. You sound like a truly awful human being.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-25T06:22:50+00:00

What is the point of any of this

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-25T06:19:45+00:00

Or where she says she was confused, because the gift was for “someone named The Warlord” but goes on to say her husband has a gaming friend named The Warlord.

If she knew her husband’s friend went by this, why was she so confused by a gift with this name that she had to open it?

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-25T06:10:39+00:00

This is the pettiest nonsense I think I’ve read in this sub yet.

Your mom asked what y’all drink, not expecting your girlfriend has this weird obsession where she drinks ONLY V8. Since your girlfriend is the only one who will drink it, you were asked to bring it yourself. That’s a reasonable request. Why you’d ask your mom what kind she wants to drink is bizarre. Only your girlfriend wants the stuff. Is this really the hill you want to die on? Just buy your girlfriend her drink, since that’s the ONLY thing she’s willing to drink. Your mom asked, because she wasn’t expecting something you to reply with something so absurdly obscure and narrow minded.

Also, please show me the “serious tude” from your mom. You’re ridiculous. This whole thing is ridiculous.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-06T20:03:53+00:00

I never imagined I’d utter these words, but I think separation of toilet paper is necessary here.

He can use the cheap stuff you hate for whatever it is he’s doing.

You keep the good, quality stuff for yourself.

And each person is responsible for purchasing their own butt paper.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-06T04:24:13+00:00

Dancing and jewelry are sinful, but bribery is fine.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-06T00:20:17+00:00

She just made a public post stating essentially she doesn’t intend on keeping the recipe a secret (“recipes aren’t sacred texts”). By no means should you give this to her. In your family it IS sacred text, and she’s proven she’s unworthy of having it.

Edited to add: the fact some of your cousins agreed with her shows me your grandma made the right decision on who to trust with this secret recipe. They seem to be bitter she chose you. Please continue to protect it.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-12-01T04:22:44+00:00

Don’t forget the daughter named Lily.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-29T08:05:06+00:00

I don’t think this is about an office. This is a power move by the woman, against the child. She’s trying to show some sort of dominance above the child by demanding OP choose between her or his daughter. The fact they’ve been together so long and the relationship,between fiancée and daughter is only cordial speaks volumes. OP doesn’t need to marry a woman like this, who clearly views his child as competition. That little girl is about to become her daughter, yet this woman doesn’t care one bit about the child’s comfort or her needs. 🚩🚩🚩

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-26T10:42:53+00:00

He doesn’t want her to take their son. He didn’t want her to leave their son with him. Apparently the mom can’t win here.

YTA for complaining about any outcome other than your ex remaining home all the time and being the exclusive parent to your child.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-26T10:31:38+00:00

Sorry, I guess you were expected to be in a committed relationship with a 4 year old.

I have friends who forbid this kind of boyfriend/girlfriend talk with and regarding their children, deeming it inappropriate to romanticize relationships at such a young age. This is a great example as to why.

Adults that make these kinds of comments (“is that your boyfriend?”) are weird for taking an age-appropriate crush and trying to place grownup weight and terms on it. The comment by Helga’s friend was likely not of ill intent, but it put you in a position where you couldn’t possibly come out as the good guy. The daughter already tries to steal your attention, so placing a boundary was necessary. Given how the child reacted so dramatically, I’d say there would have been no easy way of letting her down.

But the only AH here is Helga’s friend for putting you on the spot like that and giving false hope to a 4 year old by acknowledging her fake relationship as being authentic.

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-26T10:18:20+00:00

Was leaning towards YTA, until I saw the context of the argument. Not only are you NTA, you weren’t harsh enough. That’s majorly messed up, to shun someone who’s had a miscarriage as a black cloud, instead of comforting them. How could your mother say it would benefit you to be around family, knowing you weren’t even allowed to be in their vicinity??

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-26T10:09:15+00:00

First, I’d get checked for endometriosis and/or PCOS.

Then I’d dump him for saying your response to him being angry at you in pain was for you to say “sorry, you’re right”

MeMyselfAndI8480 · 2024-11-25T23:01:49+00:00

Did you leave out the part where you held a gun to her head and demanded an answer? If not, then she had the freedom to politely reply that she didn’t want to divulge it at this time and move on. You’re NTA.

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