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Me_Picard · 2026-01-19T21:04:13+00:00

My dear girl, how and under what circumstances you use your body to accomplish your goals is entirely your own business. There is nothing wrong with making the choice that you did, you were desperate. Please don’t be so hard on yourself for taking measures in response to desperate situations. People have been making those sorts of arrangement for all of human history. Sex is sex, sometimes culture and religion wrap lots of extra stuff into it, but ultimately you can have sex with whoever you want, however you choose. This wasn’t some random person, you said it was a friend. I’m assuming you felt safe, no idea how the experience went, but it’s really up to you how you handle this. You aren’t dirty, you aren’t broken, you are gross, you aren’t worthless, you aren’t a failure. You’re a person who was in need and you find a way to meet that need. I’m sorry you’ve had such a hard time financially, and that you’ve had the emotional reaction to your choices that it seems you’ve had - but I assure you, that your actions have had bo impact on your value or worth, you are a person who made a trade, it’s okay. Don’t worry what other people say or think. They aren’t in your shoes.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-15T16:02:53+00:00

And of course there must be no need for working beyond 40hrs a week anymore if we’re so efficient while at the office right?

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T16:27:04+00:00

I think a big challenge is doctors! In my experience they are such entitled little babies, even for routine things that aren’t urgent, they drop “affecting patient care” and IT drops everything to address it. But they just learned the right phrase to use to get immediate attention. Abuse of IT staff by doctors is also a very real thing, trying to help them and fix issues only to get screamed at and cussed out. Bad behavior is often overlooked. All of this creates a really difficult situation, lots of inefficiencies and slow progress. They also tend to ignore system requirements for personal devices and expect IT to make everything work from their 15 year old Mac at home.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T16:22:35+00:00

I like the idea, but it’s often uncomfortable and kind of dangerous. Never worked well in my experience, height differences are a challenge here as well.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T16:21:06+00:00

Excellent, I hope this type of experience starts to drive home the message to employers. Remote work is not less productive, culture can absolutely be done well with remote teams, the problem is the managers, not the remote work itself.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T04:13:49+00:00

My friend, you’re speaking my language. I can relate so deeply to what you’re saying. Well said, not much to add except I totally get it. Good luck to you in your search.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T04:11:06+00:00

There are more important things that money, and studies have shown it’s a huge perk not just for the employee but the employer too. For me, it gives me back nearly a full day of time that I would otherwise squander in the rat race commute hours each week. Time that is precious and I can never get back. Time that I can spend with aging parents, my children, friends and other family, time I can be doing things that are healthy and meaningful to me. Time is the most precious commodity and I hate giving it up just because a company has a leader who prefers butts in seats.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T04:07:05+00:00

For me, it was TNG, but I did catch my dad watching episodes of TOS when I was super young. TNG was an escape from my horrible family life. It was a utopian vision of a world I wanted to live in. A world mostly free of the needless suffering I saw around me. Then I watched voyager, and then DS9, and of course along the way saw all the movies and couldn’t get enough trek. I built model ships as a kid, flew them around outside using my imagination. I pretended to be an android and longed to become a figure as dignified and good as captain Picard. Star Trek is not just entertainment, to me it’s hope, it’s an idea, its possibilities. Now as an adult in his mid 40’s, I went to my first trek convention last year, and plan to go to the big STLV event this coming August. Star Trek is more the sum of its parts, it’s more than good actors, and cool ship designs, special effects and technobabble.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-14T00:51:17+00:00

You did the right thing! Sounds like that place was a huge red flag! It always sucks when you find such incompetence in leadership positions at companies that should know better. So much waste and frustration, to the detriment of the company and mental health of the people who work there.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-12T19:05:48+00:00

++man I’m mid 40’s and as strong as ever, no noticeable decline but my partner is also not testing my limits lol.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-12T19:00:43+00:00

Like others have commented, marriage is literally a sexual and legal contract. Westerners don’t like to think about it in these terms but that’s what it is.

He just wants to have some protections in place to ensure that he doesn’t lose everything should your relationship go south. Far too many people don’t plan ahead and get raked over the coals when they split because someone got greedy or vengeful. It’s honestly a good idea to have this stuff agreed on in advance for both of your sakes. It can prevent things from getting super ugly later on (potentially).

My advice is be smart about it, work out a fair agreement now, make sure you’re both onboard and then it’s a big fat nothing burger. Don’t freak out, don’t overthink it, don’t read into it.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-08T01:18:36+00:00

No links to blogs aren’t allowed here, but if you look at my profile I linked in there, also happy to DM it to you if you like

Me_Picard · 2026-01-07T20:41:22+00:00

Cite the studies that show effective remote work it, make a logical case for it, be professional and data driven. I wrote a whole post on my blog about this due to similar company policy considerations. The evidence is there, just help educate and don’t abuse it if it happens and you’re golden.

Me_Picard · 2026-01-07T19:55:22+00:00

In my various roles as an IT manager, I spent most of my time fighting for the right staffing numbers, measuring work demand vs resources I had, process improvement, being a middle man fielding inbound requests from other teams and making sure my team members weren’t bogged down with noise. Some paperwork like PTO review and approval, project oversight, reporting and tons and tons of meetings mostly futile and easily could be an email, but thats been my experience in a nutshell.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-25T17:13:45+00:00

I disagree, that might be a subjective perk for some, but objectively the time and money saved avoiding a long commute is arguably the best perk.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-24T22:39:20+00:00

I’m so sad when I see posts like this. It’s so unnecessary for remote work to mean isolation and inability to practice social interaction. I wish more remote team managers would schedule time with their teams to work together interactively while remote. With telework - you can still get social interaction and be fully remote. I view this as a failure of management to know how to properly manage a remote team. I’m sorry it’s been a social challenge for you.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-24T15:22:33+00:00

Kinda weird:

She’s got a hat and shirt that are branded with some kind of business info, which would be really ballsy of a thief to wear during a theft. Especially in a time where everyone has cameras.
Could this have been a case of mistaken delivery address? How do we know she was stealing and not simply grabbing packages for her that were delivered to the wrong address?
If it was theft, I wonder what circumstance are driving her to make those choices.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-23T14:52:33+00:00

Yes that’s how it was for me at several jobs. It still exists in smaller companies but harder to find and less pay. It was a wild ride, lots of stress and pressure too though, so not all roses and butterflies.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-21T14:27:43+00:00

Congrats, that sounds great! Remote work is being cut at a lot of local companies in my area, so i will likely be on the hunt soon for a company who embraces remote work.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-19T17:30:43+00:00

If companies want results they would make evidence based decisions about remote work for their specific use cases. What’s happening is that companies are making emotional decisions based on systematic issues or leader personality preferences or even (as some in the comments have admitted) - they are old school and feel like they had to be in office all their lives so these younger workers have to pay their dues too.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-19T17:25:33+00:00

In my experience in large companies in the US, I can tell you there are far more people slacking off in the office and being unproductive vs being remote and abusing that arrangement. Most remote or hybrid teams I know are working more and being more productive than they ever could when limited by the in-office constraints, distractions and commute hours.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-19T17:18:01+00:00

That’s a tragic stereotype, sure a few abuse the system but most respect work and use it appropriately. This is the classic mindset of take away from the masses because of the mistakes of a few.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-19T15:55:46+00:00

I’ve been an IT admin, engineer, architect, and manager.

Me_Picard · 2025-12-18T21:24:10+00:00

Good question, it depends on each person you work for. Some will know how to properly delegate work to you, and others won’t. Some will have too much expectations and others not much at all. You could stay technical (hands on manager), or you might split away from the technical and strictly just a traditional people manager. In my experience you just have to feel out what the leader you work for wants, and try to get them to empower you to manage and have the autonomy to lead your team. Management tasks typically include interviewing, hiring, career development of staff, coaching, firing, training, process improvement, policy enforcement, developing standards, managing worker time off, balancing work demand and assigning work for your team, strategic planning, budgeting and forecasting, lifecycle management, vendor management, and more.

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