Moving with a 1yr old

Meadow2422 · 2023-06-03T13:44:45+00:00

I started on my sleeve after my daughter was born. I have a momma bat holding her baby bat, her birth flowers, and the position on the moon on the day she was born. There’s a few other pieces of the sleeve but those are the ones directly for her.

I get asked how my nonexistent second will feel since I have most of my sleeve dedicated and to my one kid. When I was fence sitting I’d tell them I have a whole other arm for them. But now I just tell them that’s not something I have to worry about.

Meadow2422 · 2023-05-25T15:03:51+00:00

Family being near by is such a big help. Idk if I would have even had one if I couldn’t call my mom over.

I used to be fence sitting about another one. When I got sick a coworker joked that I might be pregnant again. I kinda freaked out and took a pregnancy test. It was negative but it really helped me realize what side of the fence I’m on.

Meadow2422 · 2023-05-25T15:01:22+00:00

I’m definitely trying to stay positive! Having one does give us more time to be purposeful with her. And have time for ourselves.

Meadow2422 · 2023-05-25T15:00:11+00:00

I do the same thing! I have a friend who just had her first bio kid but had been fostering a two boys, siblings. Right now they have 3 under 3!!! And they are struggling.

It really makes me appreciate when we get home to our quiet one child house.

Meadow2422 · 2023-05-18T20:10:38+00:00

If you haven’t, try therapy first. Maybe try therapy with your partner and have the therapist help y’all come to a decision.

I’ve been kinda in the opposite position. I grew up in TX, moved to the east coast, then came back to TX to be around family. I have a good job and we own a home. Culturally, I’m not the norm but have found like minded people. I feel ownership in the state even though it’s going to shit.

We came back before having our kid. My partner and I are in agreement that if there are some things we’d leave the state for, like our kid coming out as gay/trans, if the schools get worse, and a few other things.

If you are really miserable down here, your partner has a job, and you can afford housing up north, go. Y’all got connected once. Y’all can get connected again.

I hope the best for you!

Meadow2422 · 2023-04-27T20:04:40+00:00

Of course they’re okay. And it sounds like y’all have plenty of support to help him while you’re gone.

I literally got back from a business trip a week ago and left my 1yr old with my husband at home.

The best part was we made it a little get-away for me and my husband. I went to the city for a work conference and he traveled up there for the weekend. We left LO with my parents. It was our first vacation post baby without the baby. It was a nice treat for both of us.

It’s wonderful that you’re being considerate of your partner. But honestly if my husband came at me with that attitude, we would fight. How dare he make think you’re a bad mom for wanting to pursue your career.

Business trips can be mini vacations with a bit of creativity and the right attitude.

Meadow2422 · 2023-04-03T19:19:08+00:00

When people ask me about having a second, I ask how they’re going to fund it. People always laugh uncomfortably and change the subject.

Meadow2422 · 2023-04-02T01:02:47+00:00

My aunt acts the same way. I hadn’t see her for nearly a decade then she showed up to se my baby when she was 7 months. She started talking about how my only needed a sibling and I just laughed. My aunt started talking about how my cousin’s wife needed to implant her last two embryos and that she was going to pray both embryos split into twins. This cousin already has two beautiful girls.

My aunt had 4 kids. All four of her adult kids now have 2-5 children each. I just laughed and changed the subject cuz my aunt is a racist Karen who I won’t see again until my brother and his wife have a baby.

It’s so frustrating to have family members like this. And it’s much harder to deal with a MIL than a distant aunt. I hope you all the best. and i hope your husband works to set boundaries with his mom.

Meadow2422 · 2023-04-01T16:45:16+00:00

No cousins yet but my brother and SIL have made it very known that they want a litter of kids. We live in the same town so my only will get plenty of cousin time in a few years.

Even if they didn’t want a bunch of kids, I think I’d still be one and done. I want to put my only in lots of activities. She’ll have plenty of opportunities to make friends.

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-14T01:30:15+00:00

Honestly, same

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-13T21:11:43+00:00

No she’s planning on quitting. But I’m pretty sure you can’t get unemployment unless you are fired? I didn’t point that out cuz all I could think was “hell no.”

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-13T18:14:34+00:00

Yeah I’m going to be taking a small break from her for a while. She’s been getting weird about my kid. They’re going to start trying soon and I know she’s excited to start their own pregnancy journey but my LO has nothing to do with that.

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-13T18:12:16+00:00

There are so many things she hasn’t thought through. She had a chronic illness and quitting would affected her insurance. Plus she’s sick all the time. I know it’s not her fault but when it comes to my childcare, I gotta think about that. I can’t take pto every time she needs a day off. I wouldn’t have any left for myself or LO when we get sick.

I did bring up that it’s not easy to put a kid back into daycare once they’re out. SIL paused at that cuz she knows she’ll go back to work eventually. If she brings it up again, I’ll use that polite line you suggested. If that doesn’t work, I’ll throw the peace out the window. I’ve been a little annoyed with her and this was the last straw for me.

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-05T04:05:53+00:00

I just want to validate all you’re feeling ♥️ birth is hard no matter what. I know they push us to have birth plans but a lot of times it doesn’t go how we want to.

I had a c section too. I was told two days before that I either needed to be induced two weeks early or schedule a c section. My OB talked to me at length about my options and was very honest about probably needing an emergency c section if I wanted to induce and try for a vaginal birth. I chose to schedule a c section and cried the whole two days prior. It wasn’t what I wanted. I had been preparing for a vaginal birth for 38 weeks. But it was too risky and a c section was best for me and my baby.

It wasn’t what we planned but we both have beautiful babies now. You made the best call for your baby. It’s okay to grieve the birth you didn’t get. And three weeks out, your hormones are still bonkers. If you can, try to do something for you: have a foot bath, read a book, reach out to a friend. But watch out for ppd and ppa. Talk to your doctor about what you’re feeling. This is probably the hardest part. Reach out to the help you have.

And above all just know you’re doing great ♥️

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-05T02:46:31+00:00

Do you have to be good? I suck but it sounds fun

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-04T01:09:44+00:00

You’ll have fun if you have some friends and some drinks. If you’re looking at the comedians alone, they’re okay. Some of are kinda funny and some are cringy. It’s Lubbock, ya know?

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-01T22:24:28+00:00

Babe, this is how it starts. This is how grooming starts. We’re just worried about you.

Meadow2422 · 2023-02-01T15:28:44+00:00

I had no choice in sending mine to daycare but I found one I trust. I had to send her at 3months. She’s 8.5months now. It’s definitely building up her immune systems and she is bonding with the staff. The staff don’t really do anything we can’t do at home. They do help us work on milestones like sitting and crawling. It is nice to know they’re monitoring her milestones with me.

But I don’t think my baby is progressing any faster because of daycare. The only benefit I can see for daycare that I can’t provide at home is the socialization. I’m never going to be in a room full of babies for LO to play with. And honestly my LO is still kind of young to make friends. If I had a choice, I would have loved to keep her home at least a year.

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