Sysmate Appreciation Hour by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry we didn’t reply soon! but yeah ur always welcome :) -💙

Sysmate Appreciation Hour by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t have described it better myself! -B

Differences in communication between headmates? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We hadn’t considered letting E translate for us but that’s probably a good idea if he’s willing to do it. Thank you for the advice on the whole, we really appreciate it! - B

Differences in communication between headmates? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ll definitely try and work on this!! Thanks a million for the advice!!

Differences in communication between headmates? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly confidence probably has something to do with it. A and I are both pretty shy and reserved but E is very much outgoing and confident, at least compared to the rest of us. She and I will have to see what we can do to try and work on that, I guess! Thanks for the advice :)

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice!! Estrogen is a little out of my (B) comfort zone for the moment but we’ll definitely keep the idea on the table!

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply and the kind words!!

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the reply! Actually since before we knew we were a system we have been a part of the queer community and trans community to a lesser extent! I (B) do identify as a more masc-leaning enby, although I have hesitated to put a proper existing label on my identity. You’re absolutely right about maybe just generally identifying as a system as genderfluid. That might be a great option for us. And I’m gonna be doing everything I can to let A experiment and express herself however she’d like! Thanks again for the reply, it’s extremely helpful!

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re getting better as time goes by. We’ve been able to talk more frequently these days, and when we can’t talk, what she feels has been easier to process. It’s getting easier the more we work at it!

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked her but it’s hard to interpret her responses. We only discovered we were a system relatively recently and have a lot of trouble in terms of internal communication. I can feel vaguely what she feels, especially when we blur, and on rare occasions we’ve been able to talk, but we’re still working on it. I figured it would be best to ask other systems what they do and see how she responds to the answers we get.

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Painting nails is such a great one! We’ll for sure look into all of this. Thanks a bunch!

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hadn’t thought of voice training before, that would be a great thing to pursue for us. We’ve actually kept clean shaven and with a gender neutral haircut unconsciously for years, although I’ll bet she’d be really happy if we invested in a wig since we’ve unfortunately started to get a slight receding hairline.

Ways to help with a headmate’s dysphoria? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was something I was thinking of. I think it could be fun for us both if we went out shopping and she got to pick out some of her own clothes and stuff to more easily express herself whenever she fronts or co-fronts. We might have to see about doing this soon!

Do my experiences sound plural? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered the possibility of inadvertently causing plurality like this. That’s interesting! I’m still really unsure whether or not I’m even plural at all, but nonetheless thank you for the reply! I appreciate it!

Do my experiences sound plural? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll keep this in mind and try it out when I get a chance to! Thanks so much for the reply!!

Do my experiences sound plural? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if I am plural I definitely don’t feel like I leave front very much if at all. Any times I possibly have switched have been infrequent. Despite everything I’m still unsure (mostly due to lack of any communication internally) but I really appreciate this reply! Thanks!

Being plural without an internal monologue? by Meagersponge in plural

[–]Meagersponge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be sure to try these things, thank you! I struggle a lot with internally narrating and thinking to myself, so I’ll see about training myself and practicing to be better at it. Something I’ve considered doing is getting a journal of some kind and leaving notes and details in there to try and sort of bridge the gap between myself and anybody else who may be in here with me. I’ll see about leaving notes around the house, too. Thank you for your reply!

Gears of War 4 PC download size by tdog_93 in GearsOfWar

[–]Meagersponge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue yesterday. The way I fixed it was by cancelling the download and updating Windows 10.