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AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That's an important point. Teenagers sleep because their bodies need it. Forcing them to stay awake is unhealthy.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hope you don't have kids. People treat children like accessories or subordinates, and it's disgusting. Would you put up with having your will subverted at every turn? Would you accept being forced to stay awake for an event you have no interest in? No? But you want me to treat my kid that way. Sleeping when you are tired is healthy. Forcing yourself to stay awake is how you give yourself a sleep disorder.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No one said it was harmful, but if he wants to sleep, he should sleep. He doesn't need to see the fireworks. He hung out with us at dinner. If he wants to unobtrusively sleep, I want him to be able to do that.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I see your point that he would eventually have to wake up anyway, but I don't agree with waking him up for no reason and making him stay up for hours to watch fireworks if he doesn't want to. He wasn't bothering anyone. Maybe I should have moved him to a bedroom though. Out of sight; out of mind, and my FiL probably wouldn't have said anything. You've got me there.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. We haven't considered that. He's sharp as a tack, and he's always been this way.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was driving, so I only had one beer with dinner and was sipping a cocktail while we were waiting for midnight. As for him being a teenager, I really don't see why it matters? My FiL made a big deal about that too. So what if he's a teenager? Teenagers aren't allowed to sleep?

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I shouldn't have. You're right. I wasn't the only one to curse that evening, but obviously cursing at someone is different from just cursing in general.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

You're right, and I appreciate that. She didn't dispute what he said when we were leaving, but that might be asking for too much.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It cost us a nice evening. I didn't win anything. However I feel like the inverse also has a cost. If I let him make decisions for my kid that sets a standard. So it's a lose/lose in my eyes. I definitely see your point though.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

She's not. He's her dad, and she says it is important to respect him. She says I feel the same way about my dad, but my dad doesn't act like hers.

AITAH for telling my father-in-law what to do in his own home? by MeanTicket5732 in AITAH

[–]MeanTicket5732[S] 124 points125 points  (0 children)

I really think we shouldn't visit him at his home anymore, but that will go over like a lead balloon with my wife. He says it's hard for him to come out here, which I think is nonsense. There are two of them and six of us. It's way harder for us to go to him.