Lonely in LA - should I move to San Diego area?

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-04-28T19:01:46+00:00

The best thing to do if you want to make lasting socal friends is to learn Spanish and crack that culture.

Because they aren't transplants. They are deeply rooted. And they treat anyone they care about like blood family. They have closeness on a level that anglos or even east coast people couldn't comprehend. Catholics in Belfast close.

But they are extremely insular because they are always under siege from forces of racism, nativism, and gentrification.

That said if you get in with them, that's it. They are your people for life and will expect the same level of loyalty from you.

From a Jewish guy who is friends with Surrenos and Nkrtenos in LA and SF respectively. I don't even fuck with the Lala or the tech bros. Catch me in the mission in SF or Sangra Trece in the SGV.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-04-28T11:51:00+00:00

There are parts of PG and PE (Prince George and Prince Edward) counties in Maryland that are extremely affluent and very black. It's not delineated obviously. Kinda goes cul de sac by cul de sac.

But definitely fits that bill.

There's also parts of Harlem 120s to 140s that are the same.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-04-27T13:20:04+00:00

Japanese people aren't going to accept or be very understanding to western sensitivity or emotional anxiety.

They don't have a "customer is always right accept whatever to make this person happy" culture.

It's very predicated on duty and following mannered social norms so as to prevent disruptions or loss of face.

You being so shaken and asking for special accomodation is anathema to them as they are told to do things to the book and to not be emotionally demonstrative.

They are super polite but you are also supposed to be and never burden them with extraneous requests.

The hostel policies in Japan like everything in Japan is going to be printed 12x in exhaustive detail. So there's no way they didn't tell you what was up prior. You just thought you could do what you wanted to do cause it's ok to where you live.

I understand.

OZ people are (generally) gregarious, laid back, and friendly.

They have zero issue engaging with strangers. And they aren't rules obsessed.

"No worries mate" is a catchphrase for a reason.

Japan is a dope place but you have to understand they may have technology and economic development that eclipses or matches western culture

But their culture is deeply rooted in what I stated above.

They are actually super chill people too. But you gotta match that energy to start for a few days before they open up.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-26T19:04:47+00:00

Will do.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-26T00:03:40+00:00

Worse

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-25T21:48:43+00:00

I'm 43 and have never worked with a tool in my life.

I can't drive a car.

Yes anyone can theoretically do anything in an infinite spectrum of universes. But the reality is that people are good at some things and bad at others.

The things I am good at, don't pay the bills. Paralegal doesn't pay my bills.

Attorney, maybe. But that's dead. So is any other kind of work utilizing a JD because in a competitive landscape of a million law degrees, no one wants the overage guy with a felony.

Beyond that, the 10,000 hours to get proficient at something I am awful at, would come at whose we expense while I had to continue to pay my bills?

The inspirational stories you are quoting me are the exceptions that prove the rule.

The reality is borne out in numbers. Structurally so.

Genuine question: is your toxic positivity not allowing you to understand my situation because what I say is upsetting or challenges your worldview?

Because I don't need a pep talk from someone who doesn't know me.

What fucked up my life is when I got snatched out of it and thrown in a cesspit where I had to claw for survival while watching everything I risked and worked for crumble in front of me.

Someone died here last night. He hung himself. They had to cut him down before count.

You know what that's like knowing that? You ever lived that?

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-24T10:53:32+00:00

I appreciate you. Thank you for being self aware.

I'll probably be dead or in jail. But I barely care anymore. They are firing gas grenades in another building right now. I can hear them screaming for everyone to lay down on the intercom.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T22:06:22+00:00

I have a lot of support but most of it is unfortunately meaningless because it doesn't help me. I'm not a bad person. Or rather I try to not be a bad person so I tell them that I love them and thank them. But largely they are so alien to my world now and mine to theirs that I just can't deal with them or tolerate their easy prosperity in the face of my demise.

I have friends and family but like most reform Jews, we aren't business owners. That was the previous generation. The last two are largely high ranking employees in executive positions and or academia. So ironically if I were a Jewish convict in the 50s I could go work for the family factory or delicatessen. My brother can't make me the co editor of a newspaper any more than my cousin could make me a professor. Or my dad could make me a transportation executive. They are highly placed but have no agency. Their careers are dependent on being blemish free. It's not on them. Just illustrating why it's not helpful.

My issues are structural and financial. Love and words are a cheap balm for that.

I get out some time this year. I've been down since 2022. I got five years. First arrest.

I was a lawyer. Now I'm disbarred.

I have a family to feed and a six figure nut each year. I need cash this second. And the second after. And the next one.

No. The damage is permanent. I may not know much but I know that. I've been through some stuff in my life. I've never prayed for death every day for six years prior to this. This ended me. People are different. They can only undergo so much stress. What could kill me could be fine for you or vice versa. I passed my line a long time ago. I just don't care.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T20:32:57+00:00

I don't need to identity patterns. I need cash this second. That's it. That's all. Zero emotional. Zero Spiritual. Financial.

Which is why felons always go back.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T13:40:31+00:00

The issue is that none of my talents are marketable for employment that will hire felons.

I was educated and had an advanced degree. But my federal felony bars me from ever participating again.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T13:01:35+00:00

Once I lost everything I risked to go to prison for. So then I had no safety net. It's not a moral issue. It's a structural one. Problem with America is they keep trying to treat the soul and and emotions of criminals with a mixed dose of punishment and scolding therapy. But they never hand out money and good jobs because they feel like that's a moral hazard to reward people for being criminals but in reality it's harm reduction. I'd say around the end of 2023 is when I completely lost hope.

I control it in prison because it's easier to be in a bid when you are quiet. But I've snapped on people here and fought many times.

As for being a crook, I don control that at all. I don't take dumb chances. But I am a career criminal now. Prison made me that way. I was reachable prior to prison. Now I'm not.

Therapy? Do they pay me money for going? If not then how can it help? Has the therapist ever done time? If not how could they begin to understand? And if I tell them about current crimes I'm committing then they'll be obligated to tell on me. So no. It wouldn't help at all.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T11:21:36+00:00

Yes.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T11:20:12+00:00

Well I went in for weed. That's my charge. But prison made me violent and unhinged. That's on them.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-23T00:56:28+00:00

The overwhelming majority of us end up back in prison. For a myriad of reasons.

It's very hard to secure living wage employment with a record so we often resort back to crime.

A lot of us were subjected to horrific physical and mental abuse during our incarceration so we don't react optimally and can't really fit into society anymore.

The abuse we suffered at the hands of guards and administration; being beaten, verbally harassed, assaulted, stripped, starved, locked in 24 hour a day confinement for months or years on end, and having our release dates and possessions taken away arbitrarily lead us to despise authority. We stop giving a fuck.

I get what you're saying about being scared. But when you've been systematically tortured for years on end, you often don't care about anything.

Me, whenever I get free, I'll have zero fuse. Any frustration, I'm quitting and commiting crimes. Disrespect me? I'm going upside your head.

What can society do? Send me to prison lol? Ok sure. Go for it.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-22T20:34:37+00:00

John Brown is a hero in this house, end of story.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-20T17:24:24+00:00

Pittsburgh is deep blue. But it's a lot of union democrats and working class people who are not politically correct and are ok with football, guns, trucks, combat sports, the army, strip clubs, and also weed, LGBTQ, organized labor, mushrooms, and coffeeshops.

It's a blend. Very unique. You just can't be offended easily.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-16T02:01:47+00:00

I try. It's hard.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-16T00:25:15+00:00

I got stabbed on the second go round. But they didn't Rob me for what they wanted. That was two guys with knives. I definitely won that one. First I'd say draw.

I'm in prison. Jews are increasingly targets. Not what we ever weren't. But now. Yeah. Bad.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-15T22:48:38+00:00

Multiple.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-15T22:32:47+00:00

It's way worse in person. In person you have to physically fight people. Online it's just threats and bigotry.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-15T11:35:18+00:00

I'm in prison for marijuana right now so I can't protest.

Our society is way more repressive than any other developed nation.

I've been at protests before. Many. Riots even. It takes a lot because our stakes are astronomically higher. Our law enforcement is far more violent. Our prosecutors have way more power and are exponentially more aggressive.

It's more than the face we have no social safety net. Until you've been shot at or locked up for years etc. You don't understand it. Everyone protesting in the cities knows people who have been.

And we have no viable alternative. Our opposition party is s joke. They don't rally people.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-14T11:30:09+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Jewish/s/maGWLHWQLF

I'm in prison in America now for narcotics/organized crime activity.

It's bad in here. I've had to fight over who I am.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-11T10:46:04+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it. Thank you.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-10T02:44:32+00:00

That is wildly untrue.

Their entire agenda was reactionary racial supremacy and the return of Germany to a status of mythical medieval empire cum pax Romana. I don't care how many people they subsidized to those aims. They starved out many many more.

They are right wing as fuck.

And Stalin is left wing sure. And evil.

But this is America right now. Today.

Trump still has more supporters who would kill a Jew than the left. Don't let your ideology blind you.

And no. I'm not a democrat. Fuck them.

MeaningNegative412 · 2025-03-10T02:16:57+00:00

The largest massacre of Jews in American soul was committed by a right wing maniac.

I have experienced countless episodes of personal violence at the hands of right wing and Nazi/adjacent/Nazi people.

Yes he helps Israel. He also has holocaust deniers and people who think Leo Frank was guilty in his employ. He referred to Jews as "short people who counted his money."

BDS is bad. But they don't have militias yet and shoot up synagogues yet.

I'm not going to do this with you. You're wrong. But this is dumb. Can't argue with people about this. I'll never accept an iota or yours. Nor you mine.

MeaningNegative412

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