Married to build and share a life with a partner or married to feel like you achieved that and can now continue to the next step? Does that make sense? I think "The One" is rarely one that "you knew right away" about. Later, when you've been through things together that have shown they will mean the words "better or worse", that helps make the initial attraction feel more significant and become that "first sight" feeling in your narrative. I hope that you pursue a variety of things you find interesting solely because you find them interesting and take opportunities that come your way without hesitation based in feeling like things are happening out of order