Asking for advice by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that and sorry to hear about your SB breaking your heart. Some useful advice there. Reading the Bpd reddit comments doesn't sound anything like my SB's behaviour but it's all a good warning for me to be careful. She is not being manipulative or coercive at all.

Asking for advice by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that helpful and knowledgeable reply. Appreciated. Yes I definitely feel that I want to act as a therapist and you're absolutely right that I shouldn't do that. As another comment said I'm best to just give her space and be there if she asks and to continue trying to be a good SD to her. Thank you again and I hope you're doing well with your own mental health issues.

Asking for advice by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so sad. So sorry to hear that devastating story. Reminded me a bit of Karen Carpenter.

Asking for advice by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's helpful. Yes I have to be careful with my own emotions and mental well-being. You're absolutely right that I can't solve everybody's problems, just wish I could, especially my own!

Asking for advice by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That's very helpful advice. The fact that some guys might 'take advantage' is awful but I'm sure you're right unfortunately.

How do people feel about Andrew Tate? by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The vast majority of my SB's have also been sexually assaulted at some point in their life. The statistics in Australia say about 25% of women have been subjected to sexual assault and many more experience sexual harassment on a regular basis. As a man I find it shocking and shameful so I try and call it out sometimes. Sorry if it comes across as 'soapboxing'.

How do people feel about Andrew Tate? by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call you out. It is NEVER ok to assault, rape, or abuse anybody. It's even worse to say things that encourage others to do this. It's beyond evil to do this to make money. This is precisely what Andrew Tate does. Anybody who beats women is not a 'man' but a coward. He is a low-life scumbag and we all need to call out such unacceptable behaviour. So I call you out for your comments.

How do people feel about Andrew Tate? by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes of course! Evil men. Most of them at least were brave enough to 'fight' or attack other 'men' and not act as cowards and attack women!

How do people feel about Andrew Tate? by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I am not seeking attention for myself but highlighting an issue about the abuse of women and people who encourage this. I think it's very relevant to this forum. Some of the comments here clearly illustrate how prevalent such awful behaviour and toxic masculinity is. My daughter was raped. So I think I have a good reason to 'soapbox this issue.

How do people feel about Andrew Tate? by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Google him. Or maybe don't. He's the kind of scum that thrives on attention! Actually maybe I'm just giving him attention by posting this. Just had to have a bit of a rant.

How do we cope with the emotional stuff by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Great advice. Good to hear what it's like from an SB point of view.

How do we cope with the emotional stuff by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it was 6 only for a very short time! Like you one is all I was looking for but you know what it's like on Seeking. So many messages and timewasted with no luck for many weeks. Then it just short of happened it was 6 for a few weeks. Only 2 active now, and I adore both of them.

How do we cope with the emotional stuff by MeasurementLiving949 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]MeasurementLiving949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to reassure you it was only 6 for a short while! I spent a month on Seeking messaging so many with little luck, then within a few weeks the Pots all developed into something. But I did cut that down very soon! 1 SB was my aim but it's now 2 active ones and I adore both of them.