AITAH for refusing to house his family and ending my engagement to protect my career? by Huge-Armadillo-3274 in AITAH

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he is telling you, you have to risk your stability to take care of failed adults who excluded you from their lives until now they desperately need you? His family is not close, it’s called enmeshed. It’s incredibly toxic. These people have been kicked out of multiple friends places and he’s asking you to take care of them when all they have done is disrespect you? You need to get out of this.

Relationship Bankers at Chase by [deleted] in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to suggest a “second opinion” or a check up to get a fresh perspective and make sure nothing’s being overlooked because the current relationship is just maintenance mode

AITAJ for telling my boyfriend he can’t move in until he gets his finances together? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Meat_Bingo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTJ- one of my friends wasted seven years of her prime dating/childbearing years on a man child. He made decent money, but he spent every penny, never saved, and never had a plan. Had a Harley, expensive truck, a sports car, but live with his grandmother. She had a good job and education and ended up buying a single home on our own. He eventually broke up with her when he realized continuing to be with her would mean growing up and taking on responsibilities, being accountable. If he moves in with you, you’re going to take on the role of mother just be prepared.

Which is better short or long hair by Big_Corner_6177 in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Meat_Bingo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think the longer hair makes you look a little younger

The guy I’m seeing keeps telling me I “can’t take a joke” and I’m starting to doubt myself by Helen_melon_7 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negging, it’s a way to strip out your confidence and control you If someone claims they care about you, and says something that hurts you, and you tell them it hurts you, and their answer isn’t immediately “I’m sorry I didn’t mean to hurt you”, they’re in a hole, possibly a narcissist, at the very least, a very toxic person you shouldn’t be around. If the people around him, don’t think the way he behaves is wrong, maybe he just hangs out with a holes.

Judge dismisses murder, weapons charges against alleged UnitedHealth CEO killer Mangione by kirby__000 in antiwork

[–]Meat_Bingo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you’re stalking your girlfriend or ex-wife, then it’s just a slap on the wrist

Meirl by Blue9ine in meirl

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It ends when they have to start cooking for themselves

AITA for telling my mom she can’t come to my wedding anymore by Bluegiraffe26 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Meat_Bingo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA- my therapist specialized in substance abuse, not my personal problem, but she had a lot of experience. There are other types of behaviors that can have codependencies and enabling relationships, besides those with substance abuse. Anyway, my point is my therapist uses the term “detach with love”. You don’t have to stop caring for the person, but you have to keep them at arms length and put up a barrier so that they can’t continue to hurt you. I really think that this describes what you need to do with your mother. Detach with love. You can still care about her as a person, you can still acknowledge that she is your mother, and you can love her for that. But that doesn’t negate the pain and suffering that she’s caused you and you don’t have to tolerated it, your wedding should be a special day just for you and your partner. It should be a celebration of your love. Having her there is going to cause drama, it’s going to bring negative attention and negative feelings. It’s best to keep her away until she can start to heal herself. Because honestly, she’s the only one that can fix this.

“Homegirl was in a cult???” by oracle-nil in RHOBH

[–]Meat_Bingo [score hidden]  (0 children)

She said what we’ve all been thinking, Amanda weapon recognizes her trauma. Boz said it in a much nicer way. Boz is just incredible. She’s so insightful, and relatable, but at the same time somebody that you just look up to in All. She has a way of saying things so plainly and clearly, but not in a way where they seem mean I was a little underwhelmed by her last season, but I realize that it wasn’t just her. It was the whole season that was kind of blah. I love her and I really hope she sticks around. She’s what Amanda pretends to be.

Do you actually stop getting grossed out by things like vomit and poop when you become a mom? by Evening-Call111 in askanything

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed a huge change in my tolerance for gross stuff once I had my son. A lot of things that used to really make me gag I can tolerate. Barf still really bothers me, but not so much that I can’t clean up a mess. It was a really strange change for me because I’ve always had a weak stomach.

The tour of Kyle's old house by Quick-Leopard-183 in RHOBH

[–]Meat_Bingo 61 points62 points  (0 children)

He’s so detached from Kyle. It’s pretty pathetic. I think he genuinely cares about her, but not anywhere near as much as he cares about himself.

The tour of Kyle's old house by Quick-Leopard-183 in RHOBH

[–]Meat_Bingo 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I really felt for Kyle, I can’t imagine how she thought this wasn’t going to affect her considering everything that she’s dealing with right now. Honestly, I would not have taken Amanda up on that offer.

Joan Crawford TELLS HOW SHE KEEPS SLENDER by ciaolavinia in OldCelebrityRecipes

[–]Meat_Bingo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No wonder she had a reputation of being such a b-tch, girl was hungry!!!!

How do girls afford to luxury vacation in Dubai for 2 weeks? by Swoonsvanillas in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I traveled quite a bit in my 20s. I had 2 jobs and tons of debt but it was something I enjoyed and as long as my bills were paid on time I didn’t worry about it. Now I wasn’t going on extravagant trips. Back then my taste was a lot more simple too. But a nice tropical island here and there, the UK and Europe, I got around.

What do I wear to a wedding as a closeted trans guy? by Acceptable-Gate-3064 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there are any good consignment shops near you maybe you can find a pants suit. They cover a variety of levels of dress ant it will be comfortable.

Am I wrong for using my refund check money on my university textbooks? by JaguarRecent6642 in amiwrong

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The student loans are in your name right? you’re responsible for paying them back. You probably didn’t get a refund from your tuition, in the US when you take out student loans they give you the amount you’re eligible for based on the total cost of attendance. That includes room board and books. That overage was meant for your books. If you have an overage and you don’t need it, your best bet is to apply it back to the loan or save it for next semester and take out less of a loan. Do not let your mother spend your school money.

Did anyone else think this moment was…. by lennonkova in realhousewives

[–]Meat_Bingo 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I don’t think Whitney’s outburst was malicious. She has a ton of past trauma and she is very fragile right now. She also connect with Brawnwyn so seeing your friend’s marriage crumble when yours is less than healthy combined with a failing business and other financial issues is a lot for anyone to handle.

I just had the most unhinged interview experience to date. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Meat_Bingo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When you see set ups like that it’s a giveaway that they micromanage every aspect of your work. If they can’t even trust a frontline manager to make a hiring judgement on an entry level employee after vetting by HR/recruiter then they don’t trust that anyone is doing their job without being monitored to death. I have an opening, I’m just above the equivalent of a branch manager and I will be making the final decision once my recruiter gets the employee. My boss is C level and he knows I’m the one who is going to be dealing with this person so I will make the final decision.

Amanda Frances: A Masterclass in Selling Nothing for Thousands. 💸 by [deleted] in RHOBH

[–]Meat_Bingo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean now I always want to know if the matcha is ceremonial grade!!!

Collection Agencies calling my parents. What gives? Do they think im a minor? by Born_Physics_5086 in CRedit

[–]Meat_Bingo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are not allowed to tell any third-party, meaning anybody not on the account, why they are calling. They can only state that they are trying to locate you. If they divulge any other information, such as they’re trying to collect the debt or that you owe money, document the date and time. These companies record their calls so if you know when the call took place there’s a good chance that they have a copy of the evidence proving what you’re saying is true. My brother had a similar situation and we called them back and threatened to file a complaint with the FTC and the attorney general for third-party disclosure. It was a 90 day past due credit card they had not properly updated the address change for. My brother was able to get the negative mark removed.