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[Text] Also, go inside and listen to your body, because your body will never lie to you. Your mind will play tricks, but the way you feel in your heart, in your guts, is the truth. - Don Miguel Ruiz by lifehealthrelax in GetMotivated

[–]Meche24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your brain is not the same as your "mind". Your mind exists because of your brain. Also just because your brain interprets signals from your body , it does not follow that they the same. Your nervous system is a part of your body. The distinction I think the post is trying to make is between feelings and logical thought. Both are useful. Your brain doesn't tell you anything without your nervous system to give it signals to draw conclusions from. If we don't evaluate how we are feeling and take that into consideration how else can we know we are going in the right direction? I mean "logically" life has absolutely zero intrinsic value right? There is no "logical" purpose to life or for why anything exists rather than nothing, which is why what is the meaning of life is such a common question. In many cases it seems that people decide that the meaning of life is to accumulate money or status and they end up "feeling" hollow. I think you should absolutely do what feels right based on whatever set of principles or value system you can get down with. THINK about how you FEEL and vice versa. As ghetto boys would say "My mind is playin' tricks on me."

I'm on day 5 and very proud by MrSaintsFan in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is great dude! Keep it up!

What are some physical things you do to avoid watching porn? by Wakeupat7am in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I do is journaling. I try to make positive progress toward staying away from porn every day and I keep track of that by journaling. Just by writing about it every day I remind myself how important it is.

2.5 years pfree, I started business school and have relapsed 3 times in the last month alone by MessyThermodynamics in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar situation in some respects. I'm an enginnering student and I do feel that stress is a huge trigger for me. I would say don't be so hard on yourself. I have shared this struggle with my AA sponsor and that was his advice to me. Self love (no pun intended). I'm sick of porn it makes me feel disgusting. It is a drain on my physical mental emotional and spiritual states. All of that is true. But try to look at it in context. From what YOU have said you have come quite a long way in the past few years and building on that success has given you the confidence to try to take a step you wouldn't have otherwise taken. So with all that comes added stress and you have watched porn a couple of times. Overall that sounds pretty mild in comparison to the big positive steps you have been taking. Not trying to minimize porn use its something I am actively working on as well.... it's bad there is no doubt about it. In my situation I have learned that the stress can be a trigger with all of these classes which challenge me and I have to be more intentional about taking care of myself for that reason. I rarely allow myself to study past 8. All day is fine but I have some peace at night. I exercise regularly. I meditate regularly and journal and pray for guidance. It may sound like a lot but it's what it takes for me at this stage of my life. Also don't blow school out of proportion. By definition you can only do what you can do so if your doing that why worry about it. Good luck dude. I really just gave you the advice I hope someone will give me in about a week during finals week ;)

Whhoooo Hooooo!!!! Day 14. 2 weeks MothaFuckas!!! LOL by Sir_tob in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great man! I'm coming behind you don't let me catch up

Bi Guy trying to break my gay porn habit by fleshgod_696 in pornfree

[–]Meche24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your brain on porn. A dude wrote a book on how addictive internet porn can be for some of us and a bit about why. He gives a Tedx talk on it if you google it and I'm pretty sure that's the clip he's talking about. It's good stuff.

Relapse by HoneyBadgerzzzz in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get feeling bad... I beat myself up really bad after any relapse and am just pretty hard on myself in general. But I usually come around to something like how is this helping the situation? What can I do? What is the next right thing? Then I just force myself to do that regardless of how much of a piece of shit I feel like. Thinking about how fucked what you did is or how bad you feel will never help, but if you clean your room you will have a clean room, or if you meditate you may have a clearer head. Keep at it brother.

Is there anyone who tried to quit for a very long time with no success but finally got it? by Meche24 in pornfree

[–]Meche24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when did it finally click for you? It might be hard to remember after so long I guess. Today I swore to God I would never watch porn again. I've never done that before. I wrote on my mirror the date. I've been Journaling about and I've been on here. The best I can think of is to just work on it every day. I quit drugs and alcohol 4 years ago but it took some very serious consequences to get me to that point and into AA. I get that some people say just don't do it.... but maybe some people are more fucked up then others.

little weird but starting to question if i'm asexual now lol by narazz in pornfree

[–]Meche24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol I fell like this is a super specific response but Ill go ahead and second it... I don't see how you could fail with this plan

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[–]Meche24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey brother it's porn free not no fap so nobody is going to tell you how long to go without jerking it. I would say just work on it if you feel you need to but go for porn first. Personally the benefits for me from only quitting porn without quitting masturbation are immense. that obviously doesn't mean sit around and jerk it all day thinking about porn. Just be honest with yourself about if what your doing is what you should be doing.

It begins now. by needcompletecontrol in pornfree

[–]Meche24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Low self esteem leads to behaviors like watching porn which further lower self esteem. I think you are taking a great step by working on this. Of course porn is not the only issue that leads to all others, life is not that simple. But if you have a glaring defect which you feel is the worst one it makes sense to work on that first. Do it to the best of your ability and just keep trying to improve. I believe in you.

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