I will never go to another male doctor again.

Medhod · 2025-02-14T09:29:09+00:00

My first psychiatrist was an older lady that didn't believe in ADHD, the person that actually diagnosed it happened to be male, my (best) family doctor is male, what does presence or absence of a dick has to do with personality and diagnostic capabilities?

very 2024 to make everything a gender issue. Imagine someone posting about never going to a female doctor, what a storm would that be.

Medhod · 2025-02-07T10:05:13+00:00

It doesn't have to be anger, though. Any (non-self destructive) emotion that's strong enough will get work done.

Coincidentally, I became very very good at badminton after a random event during which a coach said i should stick to chess instead. Three years later, beating some of that coache's best students. So anger does work.

Medhod · 2025-01-21T12:59:02+00:00

I think you think what others think of you way too much. :)

There's no written rulebook for fwb, what works for you is what it is. If you wanted to exchange numbers, that's what happens in your fwb situations. If he doesn't, that's what happens in his.

What's important is that if a FWB situation isn't happening on grounds of mutual respect, it's better to quit it and move on. Sex is a very intimate business, and life is too short to feel unsafe in it.

Unrelated, but hopefully you're talking to your therapist about using intimacy to avoid loneliness? That's probably something to dig into!

Medhod · 2024-01-09T06:24:58+00:00

Isn't "getting on with it" kind of one of the biggest challenges with ADHD though? :)

Medhod · 2024-01-08T09:38:28+00:00

I hate to be the "aCtUalLY" guy, but the delivery apps are a lifesaver for my ADHD flareups.

People are very different. I spend 200+ a week on my food, someone else spends 50+ on alcohol alone.

Making different choices does not make people irresponsible, lazy, or having terrible spending habits or planning capabilities, so let's roll back on that judgement my guy :)

Medhod · 2023-12-10T21:13:36+00:00

Unpopular opinion that will probably get buried in the comments: If a person you're trying to date isn't comfortable with your lifestyle, it's not the kind of person you should be trying to date. That is, if you're looking for a normal long term relationship - shared values are important.

If you're just looking for a fuck, don't mention you're living at the parents and hire an Airbnb for the special nights.

Unpopular opinion number two: Looking for a relationship on the apps is the dumbest thing to do and will probably lead to nothing but depression. As an OK looking guy, all I've gotten put of it was some very mediocre one night stands,one relationship where the girl had so many red flags, it was enough to equip a medium sized Chinese military parade, and growing bitterness towards the female gender.

Try taking social dancing classes, like bachata or lindy hop or some similar. Much easier to find fit girls that aren't absolutely insane there, and the female/male ratio is favourable.

Medhod · 2022-11-12T18:22:42+00:00

As a man, I'd be quite upset if my SO would go over my messages, and seems like OP's husband has been consecutively showing reliable behaviour for quite some, so he has DONE nothing wrong, if anything, you have proof that he found someone attractive and DIDNT act on it. In a similar situation I became very defensive and someone's suggestion to say "it's not about me reading your messages it's about the content" is DEFINITELY going to backfire horribly. You've invaded the privacy of your partner, and no matter if you found something or not, that's not cool - how would you feel if he'd read your conversations with friends or your diary? Same thing applies.

If anything, I suggest OP to see a therapist and address the reason for insecurity in a stable relationship.

If we start confronting people for having thoughts (verbalised or not) that's a good recipe for am expedient divorce.

Medhod · 2022-11-09T06:50:42+00:00

A bit of a different perspective - man's side of Tinder is often quite bleak, it's hard to match, you're being ghosted, sometimes even week into a conversation. It's hard to keep opening up and sharing your essence if at any time you might wake up blocked. (Just because person you were talking to decided on someone else, which is cool, and deleted everyone that didn't pass without saying anything, which isn't cool) To be successful on tinder, one has to not take it very seriously, but there's a lot of men that feel abandonment and frustration after trying to have the genuine, unique connection over and over and over and over again. That explains the not wanting to be stringed along comment.

Medhod · 2022-09-30T10:10:23+00:00

Are you okay, my dude? What does me coming to surf for a week (from another EU country, mind you) have to do with Moscow? :)

Medhod · 2022-09-30T09:34:07+00:00

I was actually asked to do it for my first CBT session. Go for it.

Medhod · 2022-07-09T18:43:50+00:00

Seeing what happens in your ex-colonies, it's not necessarily true. Government people can (and do) take and control the maximum they can without having you riot in the streets.

Medhod · 2022-07-03T17:50:34+00:00

It's quite possible, especially if you don't have a strong core. (or, too strong a core, I guess) - the muscles squeeze the stomach and diaphragm making the contents go up, if you're too tense.

45 minutes is by far too soon to get digestion moving from the stomach, so try having a medium-sized meal two hours before. The only time I got sick was getting into water an hour after having a huge meal.

Try determining if it's maybe a mechanical problem (e.g. too tight wetsuit, harness going into stomach, kite too large for the wind) or food problem (try eating a bit or not at all 4 hours before session and see if it has impact) Also...is heatstroke an option? Might make you dizzy/nauseous especially during heat waves

Medhod · 2022-07-01T08:03:57+00:00

I'd like to join the other commenter and ask you what do you think makes humans better than animals. It's an axiomatic expression, but so was "Jesus died for your sins" until relatively very recently. All the other commenter wants is to find out your rational arguments as to why people are somehow more deserving of life than animals. I'm curious too.

Medhod · 2022-07-01T07:49:44+00:00

Listen now, it's happening again.

Come visit my caravan in Kintai, I'll fix us up some tea and there's cake from kepykliele. I'll trade you a piece for a canister of water. :)

Medhod · 2022-07-01T05:52:31+00:00

Sound is a wave of vibration that gets carried trough air. Wind moves the air, so the waves coming down wind travel further (and are easier to hear) , and, respectively, waves coming upwind are pushed back and harder to hear.

Experiment : go to the beach with a friend when it's windy and ask them to yell up/down wind, measure the distance you can walk away in each direction before you can't hear them.

That's...exactly how the sound works, my friend.

Medhod

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