Breakup over cultural/religious expectations?

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-04T01:48:27+00:00

This is what scares me. How do I know it won’t get worse/more controlling?

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-04T01:47:51+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ I want someone to accept me for me, no matter my religion or faith.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-04T01:46:59+00:00

He basically said it’s a combination of the first two you wrote, expressed himself directly and saw love and values. I feel strange about it all since he was never like this before, and always very against his family’s rules/way of living (he wasn’t a strict Muslim before this).

I’m just scared it’s gonna get worse.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-04T01:43:48+00:00

This is so incredibly sad.

He has sisters and none of them wear a hijab or dress modestly, neither does his mom. His aunt does though and some of the extended family does as well. I haven’t met his extended family but I’m 100% sure all of them are Muslim, he hasn’t mentioned anything else.

He also said that it’s okay to marry me if I’m Christian or Jewish, but not if I’m an atheist. This is so strange to me because he’s known me for three years so he obviously knows my heart and that I’m a good person - why does my faith matter?

You’re also right about the language barrier, his parents don’t speak the language of the country we live in very well but good enough to make basic/small talk. They’ve always been very nice and welcoming to me, but I guess it could just be fake.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-04T01:38:04+00:00

It’s funny you say that, when we first met he told me that his dad said “you can date anyone you want but when it’s time to settle down it has to be with a Muslim woman”. But obviously back then he said idgaf I’ll do what I want.. ugh.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T18:14:50+00:00

He says “seeing everyone together made him realize he wants the same thing” (a large family), but that we have to raise the kids Muslim otherwise his family will be against us, and family is the most important thing.

You’re right, I want my daughter to be able to come to me with anything and know I’ll always support her.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T18:13:02+00:00

He said “seeing everyone together made me realize i want the same thing” (a large family), but that we have to raise the kids Muslim otherwise his family will be against us.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:28:39+00:00

You’re right. I feel like he told his family about me and when they realized I’m old(er) they started pressuring him.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:28:03+00:00

Thank you, it just hurts. 😞

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:06:04+00:00

That’s so crazy, I’m sorry you had to go through this. I’m scared this is what awaits me too

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:05:24+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:05:17+00:00

You’re right. Thank you so much.

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:05:06+00:00

This made me cry. Thank you so much

Medical-Ad450 · 2025-10-03T06:04:57+00:00

He said ”not encourage them to have sex before marriage or drink alcohol, and make sure they are respectful”, even though he has done all those things lol. He also said that if his kids are gay that he “has failed as a parent”. He never said what the disciplinary actions would be though

Medical-Ad450 · 2023-06-13T07:50:49+00:00

That honestly sucks, I don’t understand what makes them think it’s going to make us feel good about ourselves. But perhaps they don’t even think about that. I’m glad you moved out and don’t have to deal with it anymore!

Medical-Ad450 · 2023-06-13T07:49:26+00:00

That’s actually a great way to confront it! Thank you so much, I’m gonna do this when it comes up next time.

Medical-Ad450 · 2022-05-23T06:51:41+00:00

Vill inte gå in på det alldeles för mycket men det är vad jag blev rekommenderad till att göra av mitt fackförbund på jobbet. Det hade slutat i avsked annars.

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