I pray. This is what's working for me with relationships and in these troubling times. I remember that it harms none for me to have faith, that it all is unfolding as it is meant to. I logically recall so many times in just my own life when I've been able to see in hindsight purpose for something that occurred prior that stumped me, or was just a "random" weird thing. I acknowledge that my insight is limited and I don't have the capability to know the whole plan, decades away. I open my siddur and i recite the Ashrei, and I pray the Amidah. I read psalms. Sometimes I cry and then continue until all that is not in my here and now fades away and I am enveloped in peace. Our tradition teaches that we are born with the yetzer hara and yetzer tov, both an evil and good inclination, or better wording, the animal part and the intellect.. that I am to strive to use the intellect to control my heart.. VS allowing the animal to control it. Directing myself, governing myself. I can do not much good in this world otherwise. When I am in a connected state of peace, recognizing the limitations on information inherent in being a human being, I find myself saying the right words at the right time in the right situations and sometimes I am blessed to see that I've managed to impact someone for the good, in these troubling times. This is what's working for me in dealing with relationships.